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post #21 of 22
There are quite a few reasons for me.

1) I'm a homeschool graduate. I've never attended school myself so home education seems perfectly normal to me. It's my "default" option in the same way that most people assume their children will go to a school like they did unless they had a particularly bad experience.

2) Not only is homeschooling normal to me, but I enjoyed it! I have many fond memories of childhood and often they involve something related to homeschooling. I can say from experience that it can be a wonderful way to grow up.

3) I'm uncomfortable sending my young children to school when I have no experience with it myself. As someone on the outside looking in it looks strange and unpleasant.

4) I enjoy the freedom homeschooling provides. I don't have to make our lives work around the school's schedule. We can get up when we see fit, stay up late without it being an issue the following day, vacation at any time of year we wish, take advantage of places not being packed with people on the weekdays, etc. Our family will be going on vacation this year on September 8th...which is only a few days after school in our area starts! Another big freedom for us is not having to consider the school district when we choose where to live. If we purchase a home in an area with not-so-great schools it doesn't matter. I would hate to pass up on a house I loved just because of the way the school districts are drawn up!

5) I'm not impressed with what I've seen come out of the schools in my area. I've worked with a number of people who seriously should not have been able to graduate highschool based on their skills or knowledge. Our local schools don't seem to be preparing young people for day to day life AT ALL.

6) I appreciate being able to tailor our experience to my children's needs and interests. We follow a child-led path which would not be possible if they attended a public school.

7) I believe that homeschoolers have a much better social experience than children in school. Schools are not meant to be a child's only social outlet, yet many parents expect them to be. Homeschoolers can have a much more full and varied social life, in my opinion.

8) Safety. After reading a news report about a teacher feeding his own semen to his students in cookies....yeah....not happening! Our local schools also do not have a particularly good reputation with violence, etc.

9) Time. Life, particularly childhood, is too short to spend most of your day in school.

And...quite a few others, but those are my main reasons. smile.gif
post #22 of 22

Many, and varied.


1. First on my list, I admit, is one that sounds childish, but it's very real: I hated school. I hated anything to do with school. I spent 15 years (from Kindergarten through college graduation) being utterly miserable from 8 til 3, Monday thru Fri, September thru June. That's no way to live. Now, I do know some people who thoroughly enjoyed school, and the more power to them, but I vowed that it would never be forced on my children like it was for me. I broke that vow for a year due to circumstances that I never could have foreseen and which were mostly beyond my control, but we're back on track now. It seems like school works for a very narrow set of children: those who are both academically and socially equipped to thrive in the conditions set by the schools. MOST children do not fit one or both of those descriptions, but of course they are swept under the rug or told that they just aren't good enough or trying enough if they're unhappy or unable to fit the school's measures of success.


2. Better quality of education, better ability to tailor it to the child's needs. I know my children and their needs better than anyone else, and I believe I'm best equipped to educate them, as I have their interests at heart and theirs alone, while even the most well-meaning teacher has the needs of dozens of other children to consider and is not personally invested in my child long-term. I'd rather be "involved" in my child's life and education by providing it myself rather than relegated to being the "involved" parent at school volunteering in a classroom once in a while and being an efficient manager of homework. Isn't that interesting, how the schools are constantly calling for "involved" parents? One would think the organization that puts so much emphasis on parental involvement would be more in favor of homeschooling. I suppose their definition of involvement is really more one of complicity: "involved" parents are the ones who allow the schools to control the education, and help the schools do it while not challenging the school's control of the child and the family.


3. Ability to bypass much of the negative social and cultural aspects of the school system. The drug culture, us vs. them mentality about adults and children, the bullying, the focus on materialism and "stuff" as a means of popularity/acceptance, the pressure to conform, the subtle encouragement of racism and socioeconomic enforcement. While I think homeschooling solely for the purpose of pushing the parents' ideals and values while excluding others (and I have seen it used this way -- to great detriment of the children every single time, no matter what the value system is), I do appreciate the absence of the "values" both intentionally and unintentionally taught in schools and having a bit more freedom for my children to develop their own values and for some of ours to be heard, rather than the "conform or else" values model often present in large institutions of any kind, including schools.


4. Greatly decreases the potential for bullying and abuse both by teachers and by peers.


5. Big one here for me -- I enjoy being around my children. And they enjoy me. We have fun. I just like being around them and I like connecting with them, knowing what they're doing, being able to share in this huge part of their childhood rather than being largely excluded from it.


6. Freedom to do what we want, when we want. Ability to pursue children's interests and passions. Ability to live on a schedule that works for us, to structure or not structure our days in a way that's appropriate for us. The freedom for spontaneity and adventure is important to us as a family and we don't do well without that wiggle room to just take off when we feel like it.  I love that they are growing up in nature and with each other, rather than in classrooms and only with age-peers. I love that their experiences are broader because school does not take up a huge amount of our life.


7. For us, it's just a kinder and more consensual way to live with our children. It makes everyone happier and allows us to be happy with each other.

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