Has anyone prepared for birth only for things to happen otherwise? (Ok, this is hard for me to actually write down what I'm thinking in my head- my question doesn't sound so good for this forum even:))
What I mean is reading birth stories (or something else) where they write about surges, rushes of energy or the natural forces, surrendering my body to nature, intense feelings or for example taking mind off of matter.
Or then using mantras, before and during labour and birth.
Or talking of fears and building trust in your body, getting ready mentally.
(perhaps practicing hypnobabies/hynpobirthing for the upcoming birth-relaxing)
More precisely, or perhaps another question altogether, has anyone prepared for the ''pain'' during birth, or even how to cope with it or prevent it? I guess I really don't know how to get my point across....hopefully someone will understand!
Or does so-called pain in childbirth have more to do with what kind of shape you are in physically? Which is affected by what you eat....
Or is it all mental, like only up there, intensities what you perceive to be pain (because of this world brainwashing people into childbirth=pain)
I'm stuck on my last birth. It was pretty much a UC. But I can't seem to understand why it hurt SO much. My first 3 births were in the hospital, though the 2nd and 3rd I was there only for the pushing stage. The 2nd probably hurt too, but the 3rd much more. More so than the 2nd, because it stayed in my mind for a long time. And now this 4th, which happened all alone with noone telling me what to do, hurt even more. Before I even started pushing. What I'm thinking is that I was giving little tiny grunts already a couple hours before baby was born. But nothing happened. And then my lower belly just hurt so much during all the squeezes I couldnt take it anymore. Why so? I never felt this with any of my other births. Could it just be that I was so nervous doing a UC for the first time? Or scared, like can I do this on my own for real? I did not want to go to the hospital, and didnt feel any need to go either. (we ended up driving there, but baby came in the car-from fear of going to the hospital?)
Just trying to sort my thoughts and feelings a bit. I really like(d) how this last birth went, even though it did hurt. I just cant seem to find any good reasons for it.
Thanks for listening anyways:)