So, I'm 12 days pp with our first child and its already taking a toll on our marriage. I'm trying to be patient with my husband but its really freaking hard to have sympathy for the fact that his biggest complaint right now is that he feels the house is messy and bit uncomfortable to be in. He is incredibly OCD about the cleanliness of the house, but this place is not messy or dirty. Yes, there is bottle and formula paraphernalia on the counter. Yes, I have all manner of food dishes, herbs, breast pump, and other things handy to me on the bedside table; and no, I haven't filed the ton of disability paperwork I've received in the mail since our daughter was born. But for crying out loud, I've been trying to heal physically and emotionally from having a baby and a very difficult labor, not to mention my time has been spent trying to get my milk to come in and feeding and providing for our baby. He hasn't taken any time off work, so he's been sleeping in the living room and barely helping at night, but then at the same time he's annoyed that my mother is still here helping me. And he doesnt even come in to say hello to me and the baby when he gets home, before he leaves in the morning, or before he goes to sleep. He asked me to have my mom leave a day early so he could clean the house for his mothers arrival and didnt seem to care that would mean me taking the baby to the pediatrician by myself, which I'm not ready to do yet. WTF.
Sorry for the rant, but I had to get it out. This stress is certainly not helping anything. Is anyone else experiencing this or have any insight as to if this is a normal way for a man to adjust to a new baby and a post partum wife?