Originally Posted by Serafina33
I can see that my comments came out wrong. I didn't mean it that I'm passing judgment on the mainstream or putting some gold standard out there that others ought to also live up to. It's just that I'm finding it hard to find any likeminded mamas anywhere anymore who can pitch in something positive to say about NFL practices. I'm feeling surrounded by a lot of negativity about giving birth, breastfeeding, etc.... and it makes me sad and feel lonely and isolated in my approach and joy towards those aspects of motherhood.
If you just need a cheerleader for NFL practices, I'll cheer! It's funny, when I came to MDC with my first kid this board was so militant I almost couldn't take it, even though I was planning to (and did) use "AP" practices. Now people here and elsewhere are a lot more open-minded and accepting on all sides, which makes for a much nicer world. In my part of the offline world it is *much* more common now for a mom to have a natural birth, to breastfeed for any length of time, or to wear/sleep with babies, or whatever. It doesn't feel "alternative" like it did eight years ago, which is so awesome, but I have still do occasionally get trapped in situations where I feel like I've stumbled back into the past and feel very alienated from the parenting practices of those around me, even though that happens less often than it used to, and I feel like the general climate of choice and conversation is more healthy and less polarized than it used to be.
But anyway, I'll hooray if you need to hear some positive cheering for NFL! I love being able to use my feet and to pee on my own right after birth! I love putting my newborn right to my breast and watching her get fat and healthy on my own milk! I actually love not leaving my tiny babe at all (except maybe for a haircut or doctor visit) for about the first 6 months or so, and I love that the fact that I don't work outside the home and that my husband is just as uncomfortable as I am leaving a tiny baby means that I probably won't have to pump once, ever. I don't feel burdened by the closeness of my babies; I eat up the fleeting time they are small and dependent, knowing it will come to and end too soon, and that there will be plenty of years for all the non-baby-friendly stuff later. I love, love, love, waking up to the smell of baby hair under my nose and getting pretty good nights of sleep even when Baby has to latch on a lot, because she's right there by my breast already, and I love that DH enjoys keeping our babies close too. I love having breastfeeding relationships come to a natural end instead of getting abruptly cut off based on someone else's timeline. I love that baby carriers allow me to keep my household running without resorting to mechanical "entertainments" to zombie out my baby while I try to get something done, and to get shopping done without dragging around a baby in a huge handled plastic apparatus intended for car travel. ;) Ok, those are the ones that come to mind right off. Does that help? I don't begrudge any mama the ability to choose her own path, or to walk it with dignity no matter what it is, but I love, love, love the NFL path and and the joy it has brought to my wee family.