Weekly Chat Aug 9th-18th - Page 3
I'll cheerlead, too! I love breastfeeding my babies. I love not having to carry bottles. I love how an exclusively breastfed baby's poop just doesn't seem gross. I love cuddling with a tiny naked baby in bed (and I love cuddling with my three year old in my bed, too). I love settling into my birthing space early. I love how strong I feel birthing in my space with only those I invite. I love that I can forget to bring a diaper bag on a quick trip to the store and it not be a big deal. I love how little a baby needs, especially when I was a young mama who no one thought had the ability to take care of, financially, a little baby. I love the intimacy of the near constant contact of those early days. I love the ease of just handing a baby a little bit of soft food and knowing that even if the baby won't eat, they get perfect nutrition from me.
Ciga - I guess I'm sort of a mother like that. I really feel like, as a mother of two-soon-to-be-three kids, that our family dynamic is the most healthy when his fathering focuses on the older kids. My newborns really need specifically me, and my partner doesn't really enjoy holding a baby screaming for hir mother. My older kids really need someone who can focus their attention on them, uninterrupted, in a way that I often can't when I have an itty bitty baby.
abk - I'd try again sometime. I've had nights where it just hurts but then I'll try the same thing a few days later and it will work for me.
Dahlia - I'm looking forward to homemade (raw, unpasteurized) eggnog with bourbon or rum in it this holiday season.
I'm looking forward to "wine not whine" too!
We haven't had sex in a few weeks I think. I dunno if it's going to happen anymore at all this pregnancy. The last time was super blah for me and it's just so awkward physically. Even "taking care of myself" as it were is not great now because it causes my uterus to contract and it's uncomfortable. Boo hoo.
Revolting- holiday drinks are seriously the best. And pumpkin beer is my absolute favorite, so timing will be good for that since that comes out in october right on time for me to pop haha. Not that I'll be drinking much, but it'll be nice to be able to have one if I choose to :)
Sex is a joke for me now haha. I want it sometimes, rarely, but the positions that we can do right now just don't do it for me haha. It's not a big deal to me though luckily, and there are other ways to keep my husband from feeling "neglected" lol. Plus I know my husband feels weird about the baby being right there as we do it, even though he knows she can't possibly know what's going on. I basically just plan on luring him into sex when I'm full term, in case it can get things moving for me.
revolting- I shouldn't have phrased it that way especially right after saying that I think everybody should find the coping methods that work best for their family. I looked back and totally sounded judgy about a style that just doesn't happen to work for me and mine. sorry about that.
I have to say sex has slowed way down in the last couple weeks. We're pretty lucky to make it happen once a week at best. It has just become so uncomfortable most of time and I am so freakin tired and every time I move I have to pee. My husband told me I look like a caterpillar when I try to turn over in bed, which is 100% true. I feel like a big weird caterpillar. I kind of can't fathom how I'm going to feel by October.
I had been drinking small amounts of wine and beer here and there earlier in my pregnancy but I have totally lost interest. It tastes horrible. I drink flavored seltzer while DH has a cocktail. I miss cocktails though those hearty winter drinks you guys are talking about sound lovely too. My old roommate, whose family was swedish, used to make this stuff called glugg (sp?) which was basically a warm spiced wine. We used to take it to the pond for nighttime ice skating.
Oh Ciga, that wasn't a very nice thing for your DH to say, but that's such a great description! Now I'm picturing myself as a caterpillar every time I have to move, ha!
We had an overly exciting day yesterday. In the early afternoon I had my first pregnancy-related problem, which was that my vision went all blurry as I was sitting down to eat lunch. My kids weren't with me, they were spending the last day before school with their grandparents, so I had waited longer than usual to eat. At first it was just cloudy on the bottom and then pretty soon my whole vision was one big blur and I couldn't read at all--scary! I called my doctor's office and they told me it was probably low blood sugar, and to eat something with protein. Which I did, and it totally went away, and then I felt kind of dumb. Like, oh, I just thought I was dying or something and it turned out I was starving the baby. Oops! Turns out even though I'm a third-timer there are still mysteries of pregnancy left to be revealed--oy! Then as we're getting ready for bed, DH carries DS into the bathroom by his arms to get his teeth brushed, which is the way DS likes to be transported to the bathroom at night to get his teeth brushed. Only this time something popped in his wrist and he started screaming his head off and couldn't move his wrist or fingers. We iced it and gave him ibuprofen and waited a while, but it was clear he was still in a huge amount of pain, so DD got to go for more grandparent time while DH and I took DS to the emergency room at 11:00 p.m. Fortunately we didn't have to wait all that long (were home by 1:45, which is pretty short for an ER run, and we drove almost 1/2 hour to get there so we could go to the really posh children's one across town) and DS's wrist was just sprained, but we're a bit groggy today. Today was supposed to be our first day of school, so DD is starting second grade with her Nana as a sub instead of me, but I don't think either of them actually mind.
Anyway, hope today is pleasantly boring for me and for all of you too!
HappiLeigh, I think I would have been pretty freaked at the vision thing too, so I'm glad it went away with food! Glad DS just had a sprain and hope he heals soon.
Ciga, a caterpillar is an interesting visual, lol! I dunno what I look like, but I feel like a beached whale most of the time.
Y'all, my DH has been so great the last week or two. He was supportive during my grandma's viewing and funeral, keeps telling me that I look lovely and I'm doing a great job with the whole pregnancy thing, has made dinner the last two nights, plus several times last week, cleaned up the house yesterday, bought me flowers, made a fire in the chimenea on the deck last night since it was so nice out...He's really being quite a guy. I'm making dinner tonight as a small thank you (I don't do much cooking 'round here lol).
Last week, my midwife called me and told me my paperwork looked perfect. Today, the other midwife in the practice told me at my prenatal that I'm really anemic and if I don't get my iron level higher, I will have to have a hospital birth. I am trying not to freak out and have started supplementing like whoa, but I'd love any tips on better absorption!
Revolting, make sure your prenatal actually has iron in it. I thought that they all would, but apparently they don't all have iron, and it's not something that they have to advertise. I was taking the gummy prenatals (deliciousness, btw), and had really low iron too. I switched to a new prenatal and it's tons better. I'm not sure what will help with absorption of iron, but I feel like my doctor said eggs are great for it.
take iron with vitamin C or it won't absorb.
Eggs are NOT a good source of iron.
My midwife's daughter makes an iron mama tonic that has yellow dock, molasses, vitamin C with rosehips, apple cider vinegar and nettles.. a couple other things too.. it's working I think- or atleast I will report back when I get my iron levels tested on Tuesday! I'm mostly vegan so this should be interesting to see if plants alone (i think i've had salmon 10x during this pregnancy and an egg once) are enough to keep iron up. My guess is yes.
also- these DH/DS/DD abbreviations are driving me crazy. WHO STARTED IT?? It's so weird. Why can't you just write out husband/daughter/son??? why does there have to be a "dear" in front of it?? I don't like it and I will never use this stupid abbreviation. ever.
Hey there ladies, how are you all doing?
Things are a bit crazy in my neck of the woods, still recovering from the house move and we are now in communication with the ex- property manager as there is no documentation of the previous house and its state when we arrived so we are now having to dispute every picky little thing, which i have to say at almost 33wks pregnant is really stressful :-( I have tried to let it go and let dh deal with it but to be honest with him being at work such long hours and the property manager calling the house when he is not here its hard not to be involved.
Ciga - oh honey i hear you on not looking so graceful in your movements, im certain i look like a turtle caught on its back when i try to turn over in bed, its getting insanely uncomfortable and such hard work.
Happi - So pleased both you and your son are ok! It must have been the day for children to hurt limbs, my youngest was jumping off a chair while we had friends over yesterday and he landed like a fish, just completely flat on one side and made a very odd sound and had hurt his arm, we iced it and he seemed fine, until bedtime where for probably a good hour he was half asleep but tossing and turning in some degree of pain poor darling, he was moving it completely though which was positive and this morning despite our rough night is a box of birds and its not sore anymore thank goodness.
Revolting - If your iron is so low would you consider an iron infusion? Has she given you a reason why she would push for a hospital birth? I know here in nz low iron would not be considered a deciding factor for transfer to hospital.
Slammerkin - oh that is so sweet that your husband has been so loving and supportive!
Very random question but has anyone else felt uneasy about there babies mattress? or putting baby on a new mattress? We have co-slept with our first two children and to be honest mattress leaching fumes had never crossed my mind until a friend bought a fancy three thousand dollar latex mattress and we got talking about why she'd spent so much on it. So now i have this beautiful new crib and no mattress because im just not sure what to do, partially because our budget for the new mattress whatever kind it may be doesnt stretch to far.
I drink lots of red raspberry tea and that helps with my iron levels . . . but I know some people just have a harder time absorbing it due to "gut" issues! Hope you can find something to get those levels up, what a stinky reason to not have the birth experience you want!
I'm good . . . had my 33 week check up today! Weight gain is fine, fundal height hasn't changed in two weeks . . . but that happened with both my other babies, so thankfully the midwife isn't worried at this point. We just have "normal" small babies (I'm 5'2", hubby is 5'3" and babies were 6.11 and 7.3). Thankful for "calm" midwives! Hard to believe I have less than 4 weeks at this point until I'm "safe" to deliver at the birth center! Not that I think I'll go early, but it always helps ease my mind.
A few things left on my lists . . . blankets and baby wraps to wash, diapers to wash and prep and I need to buy all those annoying "little" things that add up at the store- pads, wipes, etc. etc. Getting so close, I think I'm going to freak when I flip the calendar to September in two weeks!