:) Oh, it's time. It's time time time. After denying the truth, trying to change him, hoping things will get better, I'm done. And I'm surprisingly not that upset. Actually I'm excited for what will come once he's gone. Backstory - we've been having problems for a long while. He's just a general dick, is very self-absorbed (to the point I think he's narcissistic) and is emotionally abusive to our 9-year-old. We've tried therapy, I've tried to bully him into getting therapy on his own, but it all came to a head this past week when my dad and stepmom offered to come over one day and help me clean my house. He BLEW A GASKET. As in, he flipped out so bad I had to take the kids and stay at my mom's because I didn't feel safe. Said there was no reason to have people in our house, the house didn't need it, and if I'd just do a little every day I could get it clean on my own (lies, lies, and lies - the house is so messy that I can't have anyone come over, not even close family). He thinks since he works 50+ hours a week there's no reason for him to do any housework, not even pick up after himself. He's got the outside, I've got the inside. Except I work 40 hours a week plus we have 3 kids. So when the offer of help was made, I jumped at the chance (and let me tell you, the house looks fabulous! I can have people over now!). He yelled, he threw a fit, he threatened to call the sheriff if we so much as touched a single item of his (my dad laughed and said "Bring it" when I told him this). We went round and round and he said the marriage was over, this was it, he was leaving. I didn't take the bait, just asked how soon he would be out. He started saying things like "Just you wait, you'll see" and "You have no idea what's coming". I finally got it out of him that he has a girlfriend! For the past 2 months! Yet the housecleaning was what killed the marriage, right. So I'm thinking his "big news" was that he was going to get his affairs in order, then move in with his girlfriend without any notice and leave me high and dry. So today I'm taking a loan from my 401k, opening my own checking account, diverting my paycheck/bills, and putting a retainer down with a lawyer next week.
Edited by CallMeMommy - 9/30/13 at 6:05am