Anyone NOT want to tell their kids?
My son is five and he wants a baby brother or sister soooo bad! Actually, he wants five of them. All at once. I'm not going to tell him until I'm about 9 or 10 weeks, because I'd hate to have to explain to him if we lost the baby, and also, because as soon as he finds out, he'll tell everyone and their dog and their grandmother and the mailman and the hairdresser.
My daughter is only 2 and is not really into other kids. In fact she tends to hit the littler ones that invade her space. I don't know when/if we'll tell her. I guess it will be unavoidable once I'm really showing. I'm just crossing my fingers that she'll be okay with having a sibling. I'm an only child, so I have no point of reference here.
We told my stepson we were pregnant early the last time, and when we lost the baby, his expressions of grief were hurtful and disturbing, so we aren't planning on telling him this time until we absolutely have to, right before we announce to everyone else. So, at least five more weeks, hopefully six...
My daughter is getting close to being 4, and she really wants a sibling. We told her about our last pregnancy, and then we had a miscarriage. She was very confused and sad. She had also told everyone at school that she was getting a baby, and adults started asking me if I was pregnant, which was really hard. So this time we are not going to tell her until around the second trimester.
My 7 year old read a text I sent my sister so she knows...but is good about keeping it mum for now. I can't tell my 5 year old yet because he will climb to the tallest rooftop and tell the whole world...and he would also be crushed if something were to happen to this baby so we'll wait. The 2 year old is 2, so he'll know eventually. I also think it is hard for them to wait SO long...so the longer we wait to tell them the less time they will have to "wait."
Im not telling ours just yet. Normally they are all about another baby but actually this morning my 7 year old told me that she didnt think we should have any more babies "because we have enough" which made me super sad and a little nervous about telling them.
Regardless, we are going away with my IL's next weekend and I know the kids will tell them the *second* we arrive if they know. Since we are not planning on telling them for many, many, many months that would be a bad thing. So it will be two weeks at least.
We are another household who had a MC earlier this year after already telling the kids (ages 14 & 9). Both of my boys were pretty upset, the 9year old especially because he loves babies and has been wanting to be a big brother. So, I am hanging tight with this pregnancy until I guess a few more weeks. I am 7w3d now so...
I want to tell them though because I am tired and cranky and bloated! And they keep asking what is wrong with me! Lol!
This is us, too. I can't tell my kids (3.5 & coming up on 7) until we are ready to tell everyone. Strangers at the playground, the lady working the checkout at the supermarket, the works. We will probably tell them in the 10-12 weeks range. I am only 5 and a bit now, so we have a while to go.
For the past two years my daughters have loudly expressed their desire for a baby brother or sister. I managed to keep the pregnancy news from them for 7 days and couldn't keep it a secret any longer. They were ecstatic when they found out and have been excited ever since. I was about 5 weeks pregnant when I told them.