cynthiamoon, I know that hyper-tired state you speak of - it's the worst. Oliver does that before naps sometimes, and I just try different things that pop into my mind. sometimes they work, sometimes not. today I whispered to him while I laid next to him in bed, and his eyelids got heavier and heavier... when I stopped whispering, they just dropped right closed and he fell asleep for an hour. it was pretty adorable.
I've been lucky that Oliver has almost always fallen asleep pretty easily at night. there have been times he's woken pretty frequently, but he always goes back to sleep when I nurse him. I was worried about it at first, because the one time I tried to leave him with my husband to put him in bed, it went really badly, but it doesn't bother me now. at this point, I'm okay with being the one who takes care of him 90% of every day and night. that'll probably change, but hopefully his habits will too, eventually.