give her time. my mom was so frustrated w/ me (and it's still legendary) that i refused to eat for a long time. and then the foods i did eat weren't 'proper'- tuna salad as a first food that i would actually eat as an example. i definitely think some babies are slower at maturing and i think it's best to just be cautious. my food allergies were a huge problem most of my life b/c they weren't diagnosed (and my lactose intolerance was disregarded by my mom b/c back then, kids need milk! no matter how much it hurts! even though she KNEW) or respected as issues. my DD1 was the one who refused all solids til 15 months. she's still delicate. textures bother her, the Dr noted her slower weight gain but was patient and willing to monitor her and not a chart, she's still a pickier eater, and feels bad if she's not. there's not ONE food that bothers her, but we've just been more cautious and less set in the rules on eating than w/ any other kid in my house. but she still eats a good balance- meat/protein, whole grains, good fats, veggies and fruits. just a more limited spectrum of them all than the other kids. she's also very biased towards probiotic rich foods and i wonder if that is helping her as well.
i still struggle w/ my bowels sometimes. it was actually learning about magnesium from love-n-garbage and others in this group that really helped get my body in order. now i know this is common enough, but it's nice to have a rhythm that works!!! w/ my kids, it was molasses that was a great source of magnesium. when they started drinking cow's milk (all my kids love it) i always added it.
you're amazing! aware, patient and really dedicated and you guys w/ figure this out!