Jenny, ok, i would pull out of it right now for the following two reasons:
(1) your midwives have clearly failed to show any kind of common sense and conflict resolution skills. this goes beyond bad customer service - can you even imagine how they would handle labor? i would actually take it as a sign that this is not the place you want to be.
(2) you are stressed out about this whole situation now and you shouldn't have to be. this is also dragging on way longer than it should. instead of addressing you directly at least once, they have now done two shitty moves, they copied the person you wrote about and now they posted your letter without your consent. so it's not that they're just "too busy" to respond. do yourself and your baby a favor and start looking for a different place / a different provider.. i really think the stress isn't any good for you or your baby at this point.
Originally Posted by nettlesoup
I don't know why no one will do breach births anymore. I hear of midwives willing to do them in America, but I have no idea about here.
from what i've been told from midwives in the US, the insurances took breech births off the curricula (i'm not sure how that exactly worked) for doctors, nurses and midwives a little while ago. so hardly anyone even KNOWS anymore how to vaginally deliver a breech baby. i actually thought they still did them in the UK or at least in Europe..
Originally Posted by dakipode
vc, so nice to hear that your DF is so supportive and helpful! DH is generally patient and understanding with me although the other day he couldn't see why it was such a big deal when I proudly announced I cut my toenails and wanted to show him!
I'm not sure if I would trust the bandmate either from what you're saying but it doesn't sound like you have a lot of options. What about calling a pet store that sells ferrets for a referral?
thanks dakipode. i think i'm going to talk to DF's bandmate next week when he hopefully comes over to OUR house for band practice. show him a few things and see how he reacts. if he seems overwhelmed, i'll start looking for somebody else.
Originally Posted by CDsMom1031
I would accept labor with open arms right now. I woke up today seriously just... over it. I really just can't breathe. And my work isn't very pregnant person friendly... A lot of bending, lifting, etc. Plus my boss has me on the schedule until the 13th, when I'm due the 10th, so I hope to go early just to screw her for being so inconsiderate. Ugh.
ouch. what are your maternity leave plans? i work at a place with a manager who was completely inappropriate, rude, inconsiderate during my pregnancy. so i handed in my maternity leave about a month early, out of the blue, with no prior warning. best decision i've made in a while! forget about schedules - i was supposed to train my replacement later this month, but once you present people with your decision, you'll be surprised (as i was) how quickly they adapt and change their plans.
so we're having a good week in terms of getting stuff off our list. yesterday we had the car seat approved by AAA, and in the evening we took the infant CPR class.
random vent, i feel like it should be forbidden to talk to pregnant people about dead babies. unless the pregnant people specifically want to know. the paramedic who taught the class, despite being great and knowledgeable and funny, told us a few stories involving dead babies that i simply thought were unnecessary and insensitive. and then i couldn't get the pictures out of my head of course.
this also goes for colleagues at work who, a few months ago, felt the need to tell me tragic stories they themselves or someone they knew had been through. why can't they just shut up and just be happy for you for a change? ignore, ignore, ignore.
anyway, i'll go to my list to take stuff off of it now. tomorrow we'll be 34 weeks. having lots of discomfort now and this morning i'm feeling like i'm having one huge contraction..