I keep reading over and over (in new threads and old) that hitting and name calling are NOT ACCEPTED in their homes. I get it, but what do you do when a child does hit or says hurtful things? We've entered a really unsafe, hurtful territory that is causing a lot of stress in our home. Our five year old always, without fail, hits her younger brother. It can happen over a toy/book/, or if brother accidentally bumps and hurts her she always, always goes after him and hits. And these are not soft wimpy hits..they seriously hurt, I've taken a few myself when I've seen it about to happen and I dive into the room to prevent him from getting hurt.
We've spoken with her dozens of times about this being a safe place for everybody (she says "I know. That's what my pre-school teachers said too."), that hitting is not okay, that we love one another and name calling and hurtful words are not okay, but it makes absolutely no difference and her behavior continues again and again.
So my question is, what do YOU do in your homes if a child is a hitter (or a hurter..)??? And it's worth saying that her hitting is never inflicted upon other children, just her little bro.