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post #1 of 47
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Do you wear shoes? Always or never or somewhere in between?

Do you have rules about shoes for your kids?

Do your kids ever play outside barefoot?

I just picked up shoes and sandals that had been dropped around my house. I guess the best thing about having a no-shoes rule if I had one is that the shoes would all be near the entry.
post #2 of 47
We all take off shoes right inside the front door and store them all in a basket there. I will occasionally where shoes in the house if i run back in to grab something on my way out. DH is half Japanese, so this is partly a cultural thing in our family. We always wear shoes outside because we have dogs and don't clean up after them as often as we should. :)
post #3 of 47
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Originally Posted by mamazee View Post

Do you wear shoes? Always or never or somewhere in between?  We usually wear shoes outside but never in the house.  Even prior to having children, my husband and I never wore shoes in the house.

Do you have rules about shoes for your kids?  Yes, their shoes are kept on a rack in the garage next to the door.  They can also keep one pair in the laundry room - which is right inside the door.

Do your kids ever play outside barefoot?  Yes, and if their feet are dirty they wash them off or put on socks when they come into the house.  When they were little and in and out barefoot (and in and out of the sand box) I kept buckets of soapy water on the deck so they could wash their feet before coming in.

I just picked up shoes and sandals that had been dropped around my house. I guess the best thing about having a no-shoes rule if I had one is that the shoes would all be near the entry.

eta:  I do not ask guests to remove their shoes.  But most people we know take their shoes off at their houses so it is rare that someone keeps their shoes on.  My husband would like to ask guests to remove their shoes, but I think it is rude to ask...he thinks they are rude to wear their shoes inside.  Sometimes people ask if they need to take off their shoes...I some times hesitate to answer because I am surprised they ask but I say 'no' because I figure if they are asking, they do not want to take them off.  (Once a friend told me he hated taking his shoes off at people's houses because his feet always stink,,,I remember that and figure maybe they have stinky feet!)


Edited by dbsam - 8/14/13 at 2:30pm
post #4 of 47

We don't wear shoes in the house usually, sometimes if we forgot something we will run and grab it with our shoes on.  I grew up not wearing shoes inside and that is how my child grew up but there isn't really a spoken rule.  Growing up without having to wear shoes has made both me and dd happy to not have shoes on.

 

We keep shoes outside at my mom's house because she has a covered porch and we keep them inside by the door at our home because we don't.  There was no rule making about this though either, my mother was unhappy with shoe smells in the house wanted to try having the shoes outside and we always have just kept shoes in one area so nothing needed to be said when we moved to our own place.

 

We do go barefoot sometimes when we are outside.  I don't have a rule about this either but I do sometimes suggest shoes to my dd if it looks unsafe for bare feet and she typically heeds my suggestion.

 

I do sometimes have to pick up shoes and put them on the rack, but I typically have my dd come and put the shoes on the rack herself.  I saw a suggestion along these lines on a post a while back and I find that it typically only takes a couple of times doing this for her to get back in the habit of cleaning up after herself without a reminder.

post #5 of 47

I think it is cultural. I was raised in Georgia, and we ALWAYS had shoes on in the house. In fact, my dad would shout at us if we didn't, claiming we were tracking mud around. Made no sense imo, seemed to me shoes tracked more mud. Anyway, I had one indian friend who had no shoes in the house, everyone else did. I moved to NYC where some did, some didn't. I now live in Denmark, and no one here wears shoes in the house; they are left at the door. Also in our house. 

 

I don't have rules about it. If someone comes over and leaves their shoes on I let them be. I also let my kids run around both inside and outside barefoot. My DD loves being barefoot outside. The only thing I do not like is sock on but no shoes outside, just ruins the socks too fast.

post #6 of 47
I think it is cultural. I was raised in Georgia, and we ALWAYS had shoes on in the house. This is interesting... Growing up in the midwest, everyone seemed to wear shoes inside. When my parents come to visit, they leave their shoes on until they go to bed. Everyone else removes them at the door.
post #7 of 47
We don't have a hard and fast rule about it, but in general we wear shoes outside, and no shoes inside. We have a shoe basket near the door where we all kick our shoes off as we walk in, but if we're carrying stuff or something it's no big deal to us to walk through the house with our shoes on and then take them off.

I usually ask the kids to put on shoes when they go in the yard to play, but not always. Not during water play, and sometimes I go out barefoot to garden. And if we have people over for a barbecue and there'll be a lot of in-and-out, everyone just leaves their shoes on. I don't ask guests to do anything with their shoes one way or the other -- I just want them to be comfortable.
post #8 of 47
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Originally Posted by mamazee View Post

Do you wear shoes? Always or never or somewhere in between?
In the house, we don't wear shoes except if someone is on the way out or has been outside and needs a quick trip back inside for some reason eg. to grab a forgotten item or use the bathroom. Even in those circumstances, I usually take my shoes off and prefer if everyone else did too.
 
Do you have rules about shoes for your kids? I don't think of them as rules. It's our custom to remove our shoes at the door. It's a habit, lifestyle, whatever you want to call it.
I should mention that I've always believed that children, especially when learning to walk, should be barefoot as much as possible in order to strengthen the feet and ankles and develop balance and proprioception and important sensory feedback mechanisms and promote a healthy ambulatory kinetic chain. My kids didn't own hard-soled shoes until they were walking. I think we bought the first pair for preschool. That's aside from the fact that it's much more comfortable to be barefoot. 

Do your kids ever play outside barefoot? Yes. 
 

Having said all that, I have a fondness/weakness for pretty shoes, so I could never live a barefoot lifestyle.  

post #9 of 47
After bringing baby home for the first time we considered the amount if "stuff" brought in on shoes and began taking them off at the door. When baby started crawling, we asked everyone to take their shoes off upon entering. My thought on it was, if you wouldn't lick the bottom of your shoe then you shouldn't wear it in a home with a mobile baby. She crawls on the floor and then sticks her hands in her mouth (not to mention whatever she finds in the floor that may have come off a shoe). Yuck! Outside dirt doesn't bother me as much as the chemicals that may have been picked up in a parking lot, a sprayed lawn, industrial building, a shopping center or the nasties that may be on shoes from a public bathroom.

That being said, we run around outside barefoot all the time and slip on socks when we come in or wash feet. I like the soapy water at the door idea!

For those of you who are no shoes in the house, how do you request guests remove their shoes when they come in? I still feel awkward asking. We have a basket of shoes at the door so i get really jazzed when i see people get the hint and take their shoes off without being asked.
post #10 of 47
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For those of you who are no shoes in the house, how do you request guests remove their shoes when they come in? I still feel awkward asking. We have a basket of shoes at the door so i get really jazzed when i see people get the hint and take their shoes off without being asked.

 

I don't ask. 99% take them off because it is customary.  The 1% who don't often have good reasons eg. they wear supportive orthopaedic shoes. But I don't have babies crawling on my floor. I also have a dog who tracks in mud and dust and sheds A LOT, so my floors aren't exactly dinner-plate clean to begin with.  

 

If you feel strongly but are uncomfortable asking, you could place a small sign at the door requesting shoes to be removed, near a basket of various-sized slippers for people to borrow if they prefer to have some kind of foot covering on even when they are inside.

post #11 of 47
We don't wear shoes in the house. And if you want to come in my house, you have to remove yours. I have booties for workers, and when I lived in Japan I had slippers for people to wear, but I think americans would be weirded out by wearing communal slippers so I don't have them now.

I want to order some disposable slippers, like the thin kind you get in some hotels. I should get on that.

I let my kids go barefoot around the house outside sometimes, we don't have pets or use pesticides. But I usually make them wash their feet before coming in.

I have a shoe cabinet by the door, and a tray as well. I even converted the closet by the door into a seating area, so you can sit to remove or put your shoes on.
post #12 of 47

Take them off or clean them if they're filthy, otherwise shoes inside, barefoot outside, doesn't matter to me. No shoes on the couches and beds. We've had a few guests ask if they should remove shoes, I say if you like you can but there's no rules.

post #13 of 47

We generally don't. Here people just take them off for the most part. I think it's because of the winters snow, sludge, mess that is made. I am in Minnesota, so it may also be a culture thing. D.S. and I go barefoot frequently, especially when we are running late, lol. I don't ask people to take off their shoes or boots, most people just do. But like Ollyoxenfree we have dogs that shed so the floors are perfect anyway.

post #14 of 47
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Originally Posted by mamazee View Post

Do you wear shoes? Always or never or somewhere in between?

 

We never wear "outdoor" shoes inside. Shoes wore outdoors come off right inside the door. Inside we wear slippers or socks or go barefoot. Because the basement can be cold, we have one set of sturdier-than-slipper shoes at the top of the basement stairs that we wear only in the basement.

 

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Do your kids ever play outside barefoot?
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Originally Posted by dbsam View Post

Yes, and if their feet are dirty they wash them off or put on socks when they come into the house.  When they were little and in and out barefoot (and in and out of the sand box) I kept buckets of soapy water on the deck so they could wash their feet before coming in.

 

We do this as well!

 

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Originally Posted by happilymomma2 View Post
For those of you who are no shoes in the house, how do you request guests remove their shoes when they come in? I still feel awkward asking. We have a basket of shoes at the door so i get really jazzed when i see people get the hint and take their shoes off without being asked.

 

We have a sign on the door saying that we're a shoe-free house and asking anyone who enters to please remove their shoes. Everyone who has come in during the last 10 years has taken off their shoes! Inside, we do have a basket with clean, fluffy socks in case people would like socks to wear (either because they weren't wearing socks or because they'd like an extra pair); in the winter, lots of guests appreciate this! After a guest leaves, we throw the socks in the laundry and then they are ready and waiting for another guest. 

 

We stillheart.gif love stillheart.gif being shoe-free inside and are thrilled that it seems that more and more houses of those we know are becoming shoe-free inside!

post #15 of 47
I really like the sign ideas! Way to go Mamas! We have a pooch too that runs outside on occasion but we arent so much worried about 'dirt' as the other stuff that gets tracked around on shoes. We don't put chemicals on our lawn either. I do love the sign idea and the basket of fluffy socks!
post #16 of 47
I really like the socks idea too. You know, I'm kind of a nut. I'd probably make my dog wear booties outside...
post #17 of 47
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 You know, I'm kind of a nut. I'd probably make my dog wear booties outside...

Our dogs are trained to stand on a rug when they come back inside so we can wipe their feet.  My husband and I always wiped their feet prior to having children, but we have become lax since the kids were born.  

When one of our dogs became blind with old age, I wish I c/h put him in little rain boots...he would get caught in the landscaping and get really dirty feet. 

post #18 of 47
No shoes inside. Shoes outside.
post #19 of 47

No shoes inside......after living in Costa we transformed. It's pretty rainy here in Oregon. We do have indoor shoes which sometimes DH walks outside and realizes he has the wrong shoes on *sigh*

post #20 of 47

I would LOVE to have a shoe-free house, but DH won't agree to it. However, I don't think I would ever require my guests to remove their shoes. And while most of the time I don't think I'd have a problem respecting someone else's shoe-free home, I really feel it's a comfort thing. If I'm not comfortable for whatever reason, I don't want to feel like I'm breaking a rule, and I certainly wouldn't want my guests to feel uncomfortable in my home.

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