A little background:
Though I am a huge prononent of natural, at home birth, I am scheduled for my 4th c-section next week, at 39 weeks, 1 day. I am 42 years old and have a pretty large amount of amniotic fluid, causing my OB to panic a little and want that baby out. I am also a bit anemic (not sure of my hemaglobin count, forgot to ask, but I would guess 9 or 10, since I have been tested at that before). I had my last child after 42 weeks 5 days of unassisted pregnancy, on purpose, and was hoping for a home water birth, but after 3 1/2 days of labour, found a doctor who would do my c-section that afternoon and off I went, whereupon I found out that baby was double footling breech. This baby is still, as of last week, breech (not sure exactly which sort). I feel great, and am tempted to push my c-section back a week (against my doctor's wishes) but due to my friend's availability (she will be watching our other 3 children during surgery and possibly during the days/nights) and my husband's work schedule (though he could reschedule his days off), I am hesitating. I am also quite tired and ready for baby, in a way.
Anyway, onto my questions... I have mentioned to my OBGYN and one of her partners (I have an appointment with her other partner tomorrow) that I want baby not bathed and brought to me as soon as baby is born, I don't want vitamin K or vaccines, no drops, no finger or heel pricks, nothing, just baby brought to me and put on my chest while I am being stitched up. My husband will be beside me the entire time and will help hold baby on me, or take baby onto his chest for kangaroo care and cuddles. I don't want baby taken to the nursery (where my 2 1/2 year old was born, and taken there for 45 minutes before being brought to me in recovery, and it was for no reason whatsoever, she was extremely healthy, and just cried much of that time in the heating incubator - awful!, with my husband only able to reach in and being told he could not remove her, so dumb!) at all. When I went for a quick tour last week, I told two nurses there that, and they both seemed fairly amenable to it, but I know that sometimes, they will say "sure" but then not live up to that when the time comes. I am certainly hoping to avoid that, but also to not annoy anyone.
I do plan to bring a box or two of chocolates to give to the nurses' station when we arrive. :) I want as many good vibes going my way as is possible.
My OBGYN has said yes, generally, to all of the things I requested of her, but just to remind her the day of the c-section. That makes me a bit nervous, as I don't want to forget anything and I don't want her to forget anything, so I am thinking a written birth plan would be prudent. One thing that she didn't exactly say yes to was when I asked for the cord to be kept intact until it finished pulsating...to which she said she could cut it very long, both times that I asked. That isn't exactly what I wanted though, right? Is there benefit to keeping it long for the baby, or not?
Do you think a written birth plan would be helpful? Or will they all pretty much ignore it and go on with their plans, forgetting or avoiding reading it?
I found this sample cesarean birth plan
and this one
but I would love to hear other suggestions or see your c/s birth plan and figure out what to keep in and what to leave out.
I am nervous that if it is too long, it won't be read or paid attention to, but I also don't want to miss anything important. This is our 4th and last child and my last c-section birth, so I am hoping to not regret parts of it, if at all possible.
Thank you so much for your input!