The question is for my ex husband. He dragged out our divorce for over a year and spent hours and hours in mediation with me because he was insisting on joint custody and 50/50 time at each house. We ended up with me as sole physical custodian, joint legal custody but with me having final call on issues in the case of a disagreement (medical, education, religion issues), I had every Monday and Tuesday, he had every Wednesday and Thursday and we alternated Friday, Saturday and Sunday every other week. Holidays were divided evenly as well. After all that my ex has NEVER had my son 50% of the time. It was always one excuse or another about why he was "too busy". In the past five months he has visited my son ONCE! He doesn't call or send notes. The first day of school was Monday. My ex knows this but he has not called to ask DS how it went. It just pisses me off that court wasn't really about my ex wanting to be part DS's life, it was all about fighting me! He also owes thousands of dollars in child support arrears (the office of child support enforcement is handling it so I don't have to do anything). I am very nice and supportive of my ex seeing DS because I think the relationship is important. Ex and I never fight. But I am starting to feel like telling him off because it seems like he doesn't really care about DS. My current DH thinks I am way too nice and that I need to say something. I am really mad that ex doesn't seem to really care about DS at all!
Thanks for letting me put that out there!