I just wanted to reach out to you moms for some support. I don't want to print too many details but I have just now realized my son is being bullied by an adult neighbour. They moved into our complex a few months ago. They have the "fun" house...trampoline, all the kids are allowed to play there and such. When my son was over there for the first time he left crying. My husband went over and saw he was crying, my son said the kids weren't taking turns and he told the mom, she didn't do anything and he said that wasn't fair, she responded with "life's not fair" ok I get that, not too big of a deal. He said he was going to go home and she said "good" which was what made him cry. As he was telling his dad she came out onto the patio and said she never said that, my son looked right at her and said "yes you did" My husband just took him home because he was not going to get into an altercation. We believed our son but didn't get too excited over the matter. The boys have since played and the woman was very friendly to me. I started hearing things from other kids over the next few months, so and so's mom doesn't like J and whatnot. Again, didn't think too much about it. I started to notice changes in my sons behaviour, sleeping patterns, not wanting to go outside, just being generally depressed. He kept saying all the kids were at this boys house and he wasn't allowed over. I just brushed it off. Not all kids can come to my house either. Now I find out she waits for all the kids to be outside and then invites all of them in except my son and then tells him no one likes him. WTF? I actually witnessed it first hand today. When she saw my son crying she actually smiled. I walked my son home and went back, I still wasn't sure if I was right about what I saw. My son started crying, begging me not to go over, his reaction made me really need to go over. I calmly asked her about this expecting I was somehow mistaken. She fully admitted it. She saw nothing wrong with socially isolating my son and said he was a bully that no one liked and she won't be disrespected in her house. I realized she was talking about what happened months ago. And then told me my husband disrespected her by walking away. What's weird is she's usually overly friendly to me. She had just chatted with me about her dog less than ten minutes earlier. That's what is so creepy about this.
EVERYTHING in these last few months makes sense now.
I don't know what to do.
I apologized to my son for not taking him serious and said I would fix it and he was so relieved, except now I don't know how. She is clearly not a person who can have an intelligent conversation about our kids.
What's even more sad is my son didn't want to get her daughter in trouble because when he gets left outside she brings him cookies. We live in a secure townhouse complex but I don't have a clear view of their house, we've lived here for 6 years and the kids all play outside with no problems.
I am so sad right now, how could I have missed this? I feel like the worlds worst parent.