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Big sister/brother gift?? Any advice on the big sibling meeting baby for the first time??

post #1 of 10
Thread Starter 
Now that i'm officially full term I'm starting to stress more about my 2 year old dd and how she will handle this transition. Have any of you gotten your little ones a big sibling gift? If so, what kind do you recommend? The only thing I can think of is a baby doll. But, my dd has about 10 baby dolls already. She does play with them daily. My mom offered to make a little blanket for her to wrap her babies up in. Also, should the gift come from mom and dad or from little sister? We talk about the baby. She points to my belly when I ask where her baby sister is, and she says "Vi" when I ask what her baby sisters name is. Adorable. But, I know realistically she has no idea what is really happening. I know to try to involve her as much as possible with the baby. Ask her to get the baby a diaper, wipes, blanket etc. But, I will gladly take any and all advice from you seasoned mamas. I'm so terrified my dd is not going to handle this transition well.
post #2 of 10
Subscribing to this as Im in exactly the same position, same age gap and everything smile.gif

We have a few big brother gifts for DS stashed around in case of people bringing gifts for the baby and forgetting DS. I do have a gift for DS for after baby is born (a Thomas train, his absolute favorite) but not sure when and how to give it to him.
post #3 of 10
Subscribing, too! My DS is two, also, and I've been worried about how this transition will affect him. He's very attached to me, and I know it will be hard for him to share my attention. I think a gift is a nice idea- though it's significance may be lost on him. I do want to give each of my DDs a little something, though. They have been amazing in helping with DS his whole life, and although I do try not to burden them, I know they'll be asked to pitch in more once the baby arrives.

Side note- DD2 was born a month after DD1 turned 2, and though the first year with both of them was hard, it's been awesome ever since. They were best friends as toddlers and they still are as teenagers. Their relationship is what made DP and I ultimately decide to have one more- we want DS to have a chance to have what his sisters have.
post #4 of 10

One gift I have seen some of my friends get/receive for their toddlers was a kids digital camera.  Then they can use it to take pics of baby like everyone will be doing or of anything they want.  I think they make some that are fairly kid-proof and around $40.  http://www.amazon.com/VTech-80-122700-Kidizoom-Digital-Camera/dp/B004N53IC0/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1376701877&sr=8-2&keywords=kids+digital+camera   

 

Maybe also something very special for the big sib like a book with their name in it (some companies make these)  or one that's published and uses their name for a character.  

 

Good question, my son will be turning 3 earlier in the mont (as long as baby isn't too early) and I just figured he'd have plenty of bday presents we can use but maybe I'll figure something else out specifically for this.  

post #5 of 10

My two sons were born 28 months apart. I didn't even think of getting the oldest a gift when the younger one was born. Oops! But, honestly, it's not something we missed. I, too, was pretty concerned about how DS would do once the baby arrived, as he was VERY attached to me. But he was an awesome big brother right from the start. :) No jealousy at all, and the first thing I remember him saying about his brother (and he said it over and over) was "Baby's sooo cute!". it was truly adorable.

 

Now they are six and almost four, and they couldn't be closer. They really are each other's best friend. They play together all the time; in fact, they're cuddled up in a chair together right now, while the older one is playing on his Innotab and the younger watches. They have their fights and their moments when they do stuff to annoy each other, but overall, they get along terrifically. Now, obviously not all siblings are going to get along so well. I think the age gap is important, and the mix of personalities as well. My younger son is much more laid-back and go-with-the-flow than the older one. If they were both more high-strung and exacting in their plans as my older one, I'm sure they'd have more clashes. I think we got pretty lucky, and not all sibling pairs are going to get along that well, or should be expected to. But, I guess my point is: don't worry TOO much about it, especially when the older child is still so young (two years old). They are very adaptable and soon won't remember being an "only" with all the attention.

 

As for gift ideas (it really is a good idea!), how about a doll version of a baby carrier for your daughter, MamaMash? If she doesn't already have one, that is. Some doll-sized cloth diapers would be cute, too. Then she can imitate Mommy and care for her baby too. 

 

Other ideas might be a "big brother" or "big sister" shirt, if you want it to be something that commemorates that moment for them. Or maybe a basket of special little toys and books for nursing baby time? I've heard of people doing that. (Honestly, I found it very hard to read to older DS when younger DS was really little and nursing, because I needed both hands to breastfeed. But it seems to work for some women!)  Or just any little thing that they would really love!

post #6 of 10
That is exactly what I needed to hear,
Bromache! DS will be 28 months when the new guy is born, and he is the sweetest, cuddliest little mommy's boy. I hope their relationship will be like your boys' smile.gif

My daughters are 25 months apart and have always had that kind of relationship. I've been hoping it wasn't just a fluke and that my sons will, too.
post #7 of 10
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Originally Posted by Jennyanydots View Post

That is exactly what I needed to hear,
Bromache! DS will be 28 months when the new guy is born, and he is the sweetest, cuddliest little mommy's boy. I hope their relationship will be like your boys' smile.gif

My daughters are 25 months apart and have always had that kind of relationship. I've been hoping it wasn't just a fluke and that my sons will, too.

 

I'm glad my story helps you feel better! I'll cross my fingers for you that it all works out well. smile.gif

post #8 of 10
Thread Starter 
Thank you for sharing your story Bromache! That does make me feel better. I just send dh to the store and told him he can pick out whatever he wants as her "big sister gift." So that's that. My mom is making her the little doll blanket so I'll probably pick up a cheap doll too. A basket for toys while I nurse baby is an awesome idea too. Jenny, your story made me feel awesome as well. My dd's should be just about 26 months apart. I hope they have the kind of relationship your dd's have. I have a sister who was 25 months old when I was born. We clashed a lot as teenagers but we also were always there for each other. Now we are very close. I also have a sister who is 8 years older than me, all 3 of us are super close now that we're adults. I love having sisters smile.gif
post #9 of 10

Bromache; thanks for sharing, that makes me feel better about the whole thing too!

 

On the present front, my daughter has lots of dolls, otherwise I would've got her one. So instead we got her a My Little Pony Princess; she's quite the fan, as is her Dad. He's such a Brony, it's funny.

post #10 of 10

Best wishes to all of you making the transition from one to more! 

 

I found during my pregnancy with #2 that I was focused so much on what my first son would be losing — my undivided attention, the spot in the bed right next to me, etc. — that I forgot all that he would GAIN, namely a sibling and friend for life. Someone else for HIM to love, too. It does all work out. smile.gif

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