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post #21 of 26
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Originally Posted by MeepyCat View Post

I agree with JollyGG and LaughingHyena here - you're both being reasonable, which means the best thing to do is probably to skip this party. 

 

Plus, you just started this this past Monday?  So, eight days ago?  I'm glad it's going well, but in my experience, it can go any direction from here.  Potty training is not necessarily a linear or predictable process, and a kid who just quit Pullups last week is not low risk for accidents when distracted by a party and (probably) hopped on sugar.

 

I can see why your friend would prefer to limit the risk of potty accidents in a crowded bounce house.  That's really not a crazy thing, even if she's not responsible for cleaning it out.  Adding liquids to that situation is an additional risk for injury, and it's an unpleasant early end to the birthday if half a dozen kids come out of that thing with pee smeared all over.

 

It's no skin off your back, really, to admit that potty training can be an awkward stage in a kid's social life, and plan to skip some parties while you get that nailed down really solidly.

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post #22 of 26
I was just thinking, my son has peed his pants about a million times, and maybe three times it's leaked out of this pants.

It's a lot more likely that a kid barfs all over everyone in the bouncy house.

Cake+junk+juice+bouncy house= you need to chill out and embrace the toddler mishaps!!!

If a friend pulled this on me I would be like oh hell no. Of course I wouldn't say that to her face because I am a wuss LOL but I wouldn't go to the party. LAME.
post #23 of 26
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Originally Posted by dalia View Post

Cake+junk+juice+bouncy house= you need to chill out and embrace the toddler mishaps!!!

 

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post #24 of 26

Posting without reading the replies...

 

Having just finished potty training a toddler, I totally get where you're coming from. We passed on several events for a few weeks while DC needed to be naked to "get it". To me it was well worth it. She was happy at home, I was happy that she was finished with diapers and we got the process over with smoothly, without regression while the season was right for it. 

 

As for your friend, she seems a bit over involved in your child's potty learning, IMO, but that's kinda between the two of you.

 

If I were her, I'd leave the worry over a potty accident to the parent of that kid. I just can't imagine worrying about where someone else's kid pees. ;-)  Maybe that's very non-communal of me but, hey, we've all got our limits, right?  

 

On a weird metaphysical rant...  This is the type of thing that if I tried to do would invariably end up with some other kid puking in the bouncy house or something. In parenting, when I try to control things too much, life always has a way of showing me who's boss. ;-)  

post #25 of 26
I would skip it. It's her house, her rules but if she makes such a big deal over a possible accident, then I dont think the party would be relaxing and fun for me. My DD has been in underwear for 3 months but she still has pee accidents. For me it's just part of life. Toddlers are messy and I accept it/embrace it. I'd think the food in toddler hands would be a bigger mess and harder to clean up.
post #26 of 26
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Thank you for the input, Mamas.  I ended up going, after buying waterproof training pants that feel like underwear on the inside and like a diaper on the outside.  It wasn't in my budget, but I figured I could use them for backup if we need to take long trips or something.  That was my friend and my compromise.

 

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On a weird metaphysical rant...  This is the type of thing that if I tried to do would invariably end up with some other kid puking in the bouncy house or something. In parenting, when I try to control things too much, life always has a way of showing me who's boss. ;-)  

 

Funny you should say that... MY son stayed dry all day long, made it to the potty, even waited for the potty when someone was in there, twice, and didn't have an accident, but one of the OTHER guests 4 year old peed her pants in the bouncy house.  lol  tomato.gif  I know I shouldn't laugh... but I'm SO glad it wasn't my kid...

 

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Originally Posted by skycheattraffic View Post

I would skip it. It's her house, her rules but if she makes such a big deal over a possible accident, then I dont think the party would be relaxing and fun for me. My DD has been in underwear for 3 months but she still has pee accidents. For me it's just part of life. Toddlers are messy and I accept it/embrace it. I'd think the food in toddler hands would be a bigger mess and harder to clean up.

 

I almost skipped it, but my sisterand her kids were going, my fiance and his kids were going, my older son was going, my fiance's parents were going... I didn't want my little one to miss it.  I wouldn't have made any big deal about it except his accidents (rare that they are) always consist of a tiny bit in the pants or peeing and he's pulling his pants down in front of the potty, something that could happen with a Pull-Up anyways, so I was pretty confident he would have been fine in undies.  My son enjoyed the party immensely, which I'm happy for, but I was hyper-viligent of his potty training, so I didn't enjoy it very much.

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