DB is back! He's sleeping some jet lag off now. So good to have him back again ☺
Weekly Chat August 19-25th! - Page 3
Then I think, OMG-what if that really is what my edd should have been, and I'm already full term and could logically go any time. I'd be so screwed. I have nothing ready. Long live procrastination!!!
mamamash, congratulations, and enjoy your babymoon! Welcome to Violet!
serena, enjoy your DB!! ;)
aidenn, good luck on the house hunt. Oy vay.
mrsandmrs, been following you on FB. I'm impressed you even find time to post!! ;)
AFM, I'm 35 weeks now, too, due 9/23. It's crazy to keep reading about those of you that are so close and still think (hope) I'll be pregnant another month or so. I have just about all my "to do" list high priority items checked off, but still a few things lingering that may or may not get done (mostly to do with the house). I'm just keeping fingers crossed that this baby wants to stay inside another 4-5 weeks or so...DS came in week 36, which was kind of rough.
Heading to the beach today with my very whiny 4 year old, as it's actually summer here again (had 60s-70 last week, now 90s). Garden is extremely weedy, house is a mess, laundry piles folded everywhere waiting for DH to haul upstairs, nothing planned for dinner, etc. I keep waiting for that big nesting energy to show up again (it was pretty good about a week or two ago).
Although our plan is to homeschool DS starting with Oak Meadow K next year, we decided to try him in a pre-K program 3 mornings weekly, starting September 9. It's based on Oak Meadow curriculum and it runs in a tutoring center where a good friend works. My mom and stepdad are footing the bill, so it's free for us, and some other friends are sending their (to be homeschooled) 4 year olds, so we can carpool.
I'm a bit anxious about it because, although I think he'd benefit from it in some ways, he's weird about doing organized things like that (he wanted to do soccer, but made a fuss every time, same with gymnastics and some ongoing play groups we've tried). But, selfishly, I'd like to have that little extra time to be alone with new baby, and not have to entertain DS 24/7 while newly postpartum. It doesn't change my intent to homeschool next year, when I'm sure I'll be firmly on my feet with a 5 year old and a 1 year old. Thoughts?
Edited by haurelia - 8/20/13 at 6:50am
For me, one main factor with keeping my son home was not wanting to mess with pick up and drop off with a newborn/baby. Since carpooling is an option for you, that would make me feel differently. I also think preschool can be really good for little ones sometimes-it gives them something to be involved with, but it's not like actually going to school in the grades, so I think it can compliment homeschooling quite nicely.
But yeah, if I had a ps which used OM, I would be very hard to talk out of sending my kiddo.
haurelia - Yeah, a 3-day a week preschool isn't too bad at all. When we were doing our own preK debate this year, it was either 5 days a week or nothing. I think 3 is a good amount to get some time with more one-on-one bonding, but especially with the carpooling thrown in, I'd jump on it!
thefreckledmama - I agree - that was the big reason we denied DD1 from going to preK this year - I didn't want to HAVE to commit to an 7:30 am wakeup call, especially if I had JUST gotten to sleep with a newborn with a growth spurt or something. Just not worth it this time around. We're hoping to be more involved with our local homeschool group's playdates. We'll see...I am a introvert and I feel exhausted just by thinking about it.
Thanks to everyone for reassuring me that I won't be the very last mom in our DDC who hasn't had her baby. Don't get me wrong, I don't think I am ready yet, emotionally or physically, to have my third one yet, but nothing makes me quake in my boots more than watching all these moms have their babies in August! And to dakipode, my EDD buddy, I hadn't even put it together before reading your signature that we're due on a Friday the 13th. We have a little joke between DH and I that he'll be born on 9/17. If you're up to reading our really ridiculous story, it's the following...
DD1 is born on 4/24. DD2 is born on 2/12 and they are 2 years apart. So if you take DD2's birthday and multiply it by the years they are separated, you get DD1's birthday (2/12 times 2 = 4/24). So extrapolating that whole thing further (but not in a totally sensical way), if we multiply DD1's birthday (4/24) by the next age separation (2 years again), we get 8/48 (August 48th?), which translates to 9/17 (31 days in August, then moving into September). So, it's become a silly joke that DS will be born on 9/17. Again, we've sort of massaged the math, but it would be a funny story to anyone who we manage to corner at a party.
vc2013 - Yeah, both Sanford and DeLand have these really beautiful, culturally significant downtown areas. I have become super spoiled by their presence in my life. The city we're looking at - Deltona - is nothing but urban sprawl. However, we'd be about 10-20 minutes from either DeLand or Sanford if we wanted culture. I just dislike that it has to become this more planned event rather than spontaneity of going for ice cream downtown on a Friday night.
As far as the homebuying, there's two big "pros" to pursuing it now even with new baby and the like:
- We have access to a limited down-payment and closing cost assistance program the state is offering to low-income homebuyers (DH and I are technically AT the poverty line) and the funds are only guaranteed through the end of the fiscal year on 9/30. It will likely be renewed, but no guarantee...
- While home prices aren't exactly rocketing up here, they are increasing steadily. For our meager approved amount of 120k, we can still occasionally find houses to hold all 6 of us in a 4/2. I'm not sure that in a year we'll be able to find anything above a 3/2, which means we'd have to consider converting a garage ($) or planning an addition ($$$) on top of the mortgage.
I hope by posting those reasons I don't come across as needy, but I did just want to add sway that looking for a home right now is completely out of character for me - I'm with most of you...when things look too much on my plate, I tend to say F- it and withdraw, but it just seems like it might be financially a good time, even if it is utter shit timing with the new baby. Knowing all of that, does it change your mind, or am I still insane?!
serena - Yay!! So glad DB is back and you can enjoy a sweet reunion with him.
I can't believe how fast all the babies are coming in... It's getting me more and more excited. My MW is going with the latest of three due dates we were given (Sept 20). But the EDD based on my LMP was Sept 9th and I just can't believe that I would have ovulated THAT late. I do think I have slightly longer than 28 day cycles - like 31-32 days...but that would put us more at Sept 12-13. Though, considering that FTMs often go late, the real due date could be Sept 13 but the baby won't come until the 20th. I think that was some of my MW logic in using the Sept 20 date, that it would buy more time before people start worrying about the baby coming too late. Plus it's the EDD calculated from the earliest US I had, but even that US wasn't until the 2nd trimester, which I hear makes it a lot less accurate.
My work supervisor is driving me crazy. I'm still working from home, making documents and doing some web stuff. And I just had a conversation with her last week about preferred means of communication, where I said that I prefer texting only for quick, very urgent things and I check my email several times a day and prefer that for most communication about tasks. And then yesterday (on the day of my marriage, no less) she sent me like 8 long, long texts about some stuff I had done updating the website that wasn't done correctly. And the thing is, most of the error was due to the fact that what she had originally done on the website wasn't correct and I didn't account for that when I was doing the updates. So then, I'm trying to explain the mistake to her via text so she doesn't think it was just negligence, which is exactly what I didn't want: back and forths through text. Plus she's requiring I send in time sheets of when I'm working on different tasks, which I find a little insulting because this has never been required before (and we've always worked in different cities) and it makes me feel like she doesn't believe I'm actually putting in the hours. Plus, I feel like those kinds of time sheets mean that I have to literally fill every second of my 40 hours up with non-stop work...when with her and everyone else who is in an office, there is some understanding that you will be going to the bathroom, taking a 15 minute break for a snack or coffee every once and a while, stopping for 10 minutes to chat with a coworker, etc. Ugh.... end rant.
That aside, the marriage was very nice and has DP (or I guess it's DH now) and I feeling very lovey-dovey. Thanks to everyone for all your congratulations and well wishes.
Count me in as another one due in the late end of the month, the 23rd to the 26th depending on who you're asking. I've been counting to the 23rd because I know for sure my conception date. Right now I am kind of okay with waiting since I'm not done with work and I have a bunch more baby things to acquire or do. I FINALLY ordered diapers (36 prefolds) and diaper accessories like a sprayer this morning. I can wait for baby which is a weird thing to me because I am BAD at waiting.
aidenn-I totally get the whole thing with birthdates. There's some weird patterns and consistencies in our family, like all the kids in my kids generation is either the day before or the day after the birthday of someone in my generation. Yesterday was my dad's birthday, so when I had a few contractions last night while going to sleep, I thought, "holy crap, I'm going to have this baby tomorrow to be next to his b day." As it stands, my EDD is two days before my grandmother's birthday, but our family has a ton of September birthdays-so there's an excellent chance the tradition will hold.
Good luck with your hunt!
I did loose more of my plug today!! I just can't wait for this babe to arrive even though we have not chosen a name for a boy or a girl. Picking 2 names is extremely challenging.
I'm due 9/30, and 9/29 last year was the day I had a horrible miscarriage and wound up hospitalized overnight for excessive blood loss. It was pretty traumatic, and I've thought it would be very cool if this baby is born on that date, for the symbolism and closure.
I conceived my son on February 20th. He was due November 12th.
I conceived my daughter on December 18th. She's due September 10th.
My siblings and myself have birthdays on the 4, 6, 9, & 9. (I don't know our due dates though.)
I know it all has to do with my ovulation and everything. I'd just never made the connection before. Mind blown.
Serena; I can't even imagine how you must be feeling! Feeling like that until 20 weeks was bad enough. I wish I had something helpful to say, but hopefully it won't be too much longer for you. If only we were those lucky people who loved pregnancy! Personally I can't wait for it to be over with, and I'm sure you must feel the same.
My sister had a similar issue in both her pregnancies-she would get randomly sick suddenly throughout the day. Nothing she tried helped-but it stopped immediately once the babies were born.
I hope DB and you are having some quality time together now that he's home, even if you aren't feeling great.