First of all, I recently made friends with a guy whose daughter refers to him as "mom" only since transition, and I can tell he's uncomfortable but doesn't want to take that away from her... The main issue is her outing him in public or to coworkers who don't know his history. It could be unsafe for both of them. He is also excited for our soon to be 13 year old daughters to hang out together, they have spent a bit of time together and get along well. The main issue is his daughter goes to a really preppy school and doesn't know any kids with gay parents, much less trans, so she
doesn't know anyone besides DD in a similar situation. I worry that this girl is a bit of a bad influence on DD but understand this girl is in a tough spot, so it's hard to say no.
I also feel like DD is also likely queer and denies it because she is so obsessed with this cheerleader/sorority girl/trophy wife identity that I can only imagine is her way of rebelling? Please tell me that being a republican or moving to L.A. is something that other queer couples' children do... I know she is only 12 and has no idea who she will become, but the relationship she shares with her best friend is exactly like the one I had with the person I now refer to as "my first girlfriend", if not more so.
I also feel like queer parenting involves a lot of discussion regarding beauty myths and the expectations placed on women in this culture that straight families don't address or get partially wrong and end up perpetuating damaging stereotypes.
Anyway, I hope y'all are out there!