I'm ruminating over something that is relatively trivial and wanted your opinions...My MIL's closest friends gave me a travel system that was not on my registry and that I didn't want. They're old-school baby-gear people who believe that a stroller is the most important item you can have. I am more interested in babywearing with a basic stroller as backup. I registered for a nice umbrella stroller which another relative gave me and which I believe will work for the baby through toddlerhood.
The travel system I got is from BabiesRUs and it's a store brand with not a lot of reviews online. It comes with an infant carseat which does not work in our primary-use car (because our primary-use car has such a small backseat -- we had to get a Combi convertible for the primary-use car). The travel system infant carseat will work in our second car, which still needs to have a carseat in it as backup.
So the way I see it, if I keep the travel system the only use I will get out of it is infant carseat for 2nd car. I have read that travel systems are well-liked for first 6 months of babies' life but after that less useful? Using the travel system only for its carseat with perhaps sometimes use of the stroller it clips into is not as practical as exchanging the travel system for another convertible carseat for our 2nd car which will last longer, I think... I also think that I could use the store credit for something else that I really need such as a new crib mattress, and find a backup carseat used from a trusted friend (so I know it's not been in an accident).
But I haven't returned the travel system yet because it's kind of an emotional minefield...
- My MIL is already mad at me for returning the new Ergo she gave me -- because a friend gave me a used Ergo and I thought it would be better to have store credit for something else I needed rather than keep the new Ergo. Her feelings were hurt and I understand that -- she wanted the item we used a lot to be from her.
- My MIL will also be mad at me if she knows that I returned her friends' gift of the travel system. None of them will probably ever know, but she will be offended on their behalf. The stroller was supposed to be from her friends because in their minds it is such an important item (despite whatever I think!).
- I'm trying to live by the mantra of "people before things" and to be less materialistic when it comes to raising my baby... it is so easy to overthink the "gear" part of babycare rather than focusing on what really matters -- nurturing, relationships, self-care, etc. If I return the travel system rather than trying to use it, am I putting "things before people"?
What would you do?