My DH started a job when I hit around 20wks pregnant with my second daughter. We were QUITE happy with that (oh yeah and now we can pay bills!) even though I'd almost be due by the time (now) that he'd share this info with the company he works for. We were told by MANY to wait until any probation periods are up (he's almost at 90 days) because of the sad reality-- the employer might not keep him on because of that and use the "at-will" employment as a reason for letting go, etc.
We live in California, and I know it's pretty progressive in this state with family leave and we even have PAID family leaves and such. But it seems like these *laws* to protect us as families needing to bond with a new baby are really looked down upon for partners. I've met many moms who's partners have only taken DAYS off or a week or two. Then some who take 3 months off.
We couldn't afford more then 6 weeks unpaid but feel like that's the MINIMUM we'd like to take. He's going to let them know he wants 6 but will take 3. With 2 weeks being the minimum. And that is just not enough, but what can we do?
Please share your experience and any suggestions you might have for me to research our rights for this kind of leave. I find it very unfair that we have to worry so much about something so important-- the birth of a child. I wish it wasn't looked at negatively the way it is in the workplace. I talk with my friends and family about it and the first thing they say is "oh, well he doesn't want to lose his job!" like THAT is the most important thing?!?! It makes me feel like starting a family isn't looked at correctly, we are growing baby workers here, isn't that what HELPS the economy? *sigh* I could go on...