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post #21 of 24

I was teaching middle school when my first son was born and I took my full 12 weeks of FMLA.  During that time I did absolutely nothing - no lesson plans, no grading, etc.  I had met with my long term sub several times, felt totally comfortable with her and she and my partner teacher did everything together.  A few years earlier I did the same when my partner teacher at the time was on her maternity leave.  None of my administrators contacted me except for congratulations and nothing was expected of me while I was gone.    Maybe that is weird of my school/district??? 

 

to the OP: so sorry about your DH's job.  That sound super crappy of his company.  Our country is so backwards with this family leave stuff!!!

post #22 of 24

With our first, DH had just started a new job 2 months prior, but he took off about a week (it was the week of Christmas).  My mom came out for a week, and it was our first so there were no other responsibilities.  With our second, he took off 3 weeks and it was bliss.  He knows how I like things done and he could take care of our first and keep the home running.  I remember those as some of the best weeks of my life.  This time I am asking him to take a minimum of two weeks.  His job is more demanding now and I don't want to stress him further, plus my oldest will be 9 and will be quite a help if I need it.  Our oldest is having surgery a month after this baby is born and my DH will take as much time as needed then (I will primarily take care of the newborn).  I would say how much time is needed is dependent on how many other small children you have, how long you need to recover (c-section vs. uncomplicated vaginal), and how much other help you can get from your community (meals brought in, other moms to watch your other children for a few hours, a friend to pick up your groceries for you when she goes to the store, etc.)  If you don't have any other support you may need him home longer.  If you have support, you'll probably be okay if he only takes the 2 weeks.  Your DH may be different, but mine never knows what to do with babies until they are older anyway.  He starts to really enjoy them around 9 months.  Before that he feels kind of useless...

post #23 of 24

Oh dear, just read your update...

 

I'm so sorry that your DH's company did that.  They should have been more honest with him instead of pretending they were going to honor the 3 weeks. That is absolutely exasperating!   Best wishes for him to find a new job soon!  Take care of yourself, mama!

post #24 of 24
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Thank you! I am still in shock over the whole thing. Thank GOODNESS unemployment insurance covers us under FMLA. This must happen a lot. greensad.gif
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