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post #21 of 32

I'm a slob, I'll admit it.  But this is what has been working well for me recently.  And, yeah, it's just for one room of the house, but it's a start!

 

So, I'mma gonna talk about my sewing room.  I've had one nearly all of my marriage but it's never, ever been organized.  And I couldn't even think about decorating it.  Over the course of the last couple months I did a hardcore purge of my fabric stash and felt ready to get the ball rolling.  I'm nearly done with everything, including decorating.  This is a huge deal for me, because I have a very hard time finishing projects.

 

I've found these last few weeks it's been very easy for me to keep the sewing room clean.  It's a beautiful, inviting room, and I want it to stay that way.  It really helps that everything has a home, and I've been focusing on putting away one project before starting another.  Like, if I'm working on drafting a pattern I'll put away all my drafting supplies before I get out the sewing supplies.

 

I know it sounds really elementary, but I think it's supposed to be.  So, my advice in a nutshell:

 

1)  Purge, purge, purge.  Feel good about passing things one because it helps someone else.

2)  Make your space beautiful.

3)  Follow through with what you're doing in the moment, including clean-up.

post #22 of 32
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Originally Posted by Lazurii View Post
 

I'm a slob, I'll admit it.  But this is what has been working well for me recently.  And, yeah, it's just for one room of the house, but it's a start!

 

So, I'mma gonna talk about my sewing room.  I've had one nearly all of my marriage but it's never, ever been organized.  And I couldn't even think about decorating it.  Over the course of the last couple months I did a hardcore purge of my fabric stash and felt ready to get the ball rolling.  I'm nearly done with everything, including decorating.  This is a huge deal for me, because I have a very hard time finishing projects.

 

I've found these last few weeks it's been very easy for me to keep the sewing room clean.  It's a beautiful, inviting room, and I want it to stay that way.  It really helps that everything has a home, and I've been focusing on putting away one project before starting another.  Like, if I'm working on drafting a pattern I'll put away all my drafting supplies before I get out the sewing supplies.

 

I know it sounds really elementary, but I think it's supposed to be.  So, my advice in a nutshell:

 

1)  Purge, purge, purge.  Feel good about passing things one because it helps someone else.

2)  Make your space beautiful.

3)  Follow through with what you're doing in the moment, including clean-up.

 

*clap* Good for you! Just reading about your efforts to organize your sewing room and make it beautiful made my day!

post #23 of 32
Thread Starter 
I decorated the living room a couple of months ago and just realized how much less I mind neatening it up I mind. I didn't realize it until you said something! Thanks!
post #24 of 32

Thanks for the tips!

post #25 of 32

Lots of great tips here!

 

I don't have any more advice to give other than what has been posted, but just a little story for some perspective.  My MIL is an OCD clean freak.  If there was a directory of clean freaks, she would be the spokeswoman on the cover.  Her house is immaculate now, and was when she had four kids.  People told her that her house didn't look like she had kids.  Guess what?  My husband wishes she would have spent less time cleaning and more time with them.  So don't forget that in the striving for a clean home.  Being clean and organized is good, but not if it detracts from family time.  Remember, kids are small only for so long, and you probably will have many years when they are gone to have a display home--enjoy them while you can!!  ;)

post #26 of 32

Thank you, heldt123! I will try to remember that the next time I get upset, grouchy, irritated, and otherwise sick of my children's messes.

post #27 of 32
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Originally Posted by pepperedmoth View Post
 

I don't have a clean house, but I have found this site SUPER helpful in helping me get closer to that goal.

 

Warning: contains profanity. And is generally not for polite company! It's sort of the anti-flylady (I like the idea of flylady, but I find her annoying and condescending and I hate a lot of her advice). 

THANK YOU! I love what the FlyLady is trying to do, but I couldn't get past a lot of her cheery, sun shines out my butt, cutesy attitude. I can't wait to explore this link further - as soon as I get my lovely little hellions tucked into their very unmade beds...

post #28 of 32

Limiting certain activities to certain areas of the house is the best solution, I found. Painting and crafts in kitchen only, no playing in the bedroom, things like that. I sequester my dog also for the same reason. It makes cleaning a lot less difficult. Every so often it was necessary to say: this has to be cleaned up before [going to a friend's house, getting out more toys, having dinner, etc].

 

The other approach I used with my child was to emphasize that her space affected and reflected upon her. How she could get more from life through taking responsibility for her possessions so that she had space to play and work and ease in finding what she needed in good condition when she needed it. How successful adults require these skills (and I set an example). Also the benefits of self-esteem and presentation to others, with confidence, by being neat and clean.

post #29 of 32

My wife is a perfectionist and always is on the move.  When my kids make a mess, she makes them pick it up and she helps.  I help too when I'm home and not working but it is alot of work.  You just have to keep after the kids and follow up.  Pretty soon the kids understand and they actually start cleaning up after themselves.

post #30 of 32

ALL of what Rainbow said. That was a big thing for me. And realizing, it only takes me 10 minutes to fold that load of laundry. But if I put it off, it piles and piles and I'm there longer and usually grumpy about having to do it. I have older kids (12 and 10) that are responsible for helping. along with that stuff, most everything else posted, we do. We have 5 kids, one on the way. We have to keep it tidy. We also purge a lot and don't bring a lot in.

post #31 of 32

What a great thread!  UFYH is funny and I have found it helpful, thanks for the link :) I, too, did Flylady for a while but eventually started to find her annoying and kind of sexist, UFYH is much more my style.  My house looks a lot better in just a couple of days since reading tips here and getting the UFYH app.

post #32 of 32
Thread Starter 

I've had UFYH for ages now on my phone, I have found it incredibly helpful. Especially the timing part! And I really like that they talk about cleaning at your ability level. If you can do one minute then do it. I really like the inclusionary style. Thanks for the ideas everyone!

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