I have a sister who will turn 9 next month. I became her primary caretaker this year after some issues with her dad and mom. We get along great and I have the added bonus of working at home, which makes looking after her much easier.
However, a few days after moving in, she developed a wetting problem. At first, it started off as a bedwetting problem at night, which increased in frequency until she wet the bed pretty much every night. However, she started wetting during the day as well, which had me worried. I did some digging online and found out that her situation could be caused by stress – as a result of moving away and being separated from her parents (whom she misses dearly). She told me that she can’t feel anything when she wet herself, and at night, she would somehow dream that she was the toilet or shower, which subsequently led to wet sheets in the morning. She didn't have such accidents at all before she moved in with me.
Here’s the thing – her wetting continued (both day and night), and became worse as time went on. I couldn’t keep washing wet sheets and cleaning dirty floors and furniture all the time, so I discussed with her the idea of wearing protection. The idea was met with some resistance and protests but I managed (somehow!) to convince her that it would be better for both of us. I got her some pull-ups initially, but she soaked those through and caused them to leak, so we settled for Pampers diapers. She’s a small kid and fits in the larger sizes easily, but she can’t manage on her own so I put those on for her.
Fast forward eight months later – she’s still in diapers, but she’s a much happier kid now after settling in. She doesn’t like having to wear diapers, but feels that it’s much better than waking up in a cold, clammy bed. There hasn’t been any improvement. Her diapers are almost always soaked in the morning, and we have the occasional wet pull-up during the day.
I’m kind of worried about it. Obviously she still needs diapers now because she hasn’t had a dry day in the past 6-7 months, but she’s growing up and I’m afraid it could affect her development. In the summer she was perfectly content sitting in her wet morning diaper while watching cartoons, until I told her to change. I know she’s trying her best to stay dry but it just isn’t happening at the moment. I don’t want to remove her protection yet because it’ll just add undue stress which would make her feel terrible about herself again.
So yeah, it’s kind of a dilemma I’m facing. Any help, advice and opinions will be appreciated!
Thank you ;)
EDIT: Yes, we did go to the doctor but did not find any physical problem with her. It's probably a phase that will pass as she grows older.
Edited by CharlieP - 8/26/13 at 11:00pm