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Birth control/plans for more kids?

post #1 of 23
Thread Starter 

I just wanted to know what, if anything, y'all are planning to do for birth control if you are *not* done having kids? 

 

I had a copper IUD for 8+ years before ttc, which I really loved. I am allergic/sensitive to latex and non-latex condoms, and had really bad luck with hormonal BC making me really crazy. So the IUD was like the only option I felt like I had left. Thankfully, it was awesome. I would get it again, but there was definitely a year of really heavy periods before my body "settled down". I would hate to go through that again and potentially deplete my iron stores just in time to ttc again....

 

I want to have at least one more baby, and my husband is significantly older than I am, so I feel like we don't have much of a reasonable window of opportunity here. Part of me wants to just go BC-free and hope that lactating works to stave of ovulation for a little while. Part of me thinks it would not be the worst thing in the world to get pregnant again relatively soon, provided I could nourish myself well enough. 

 

I charted while ttc and that worked really well for me -- if I started charting now, would that be too soon, or would there be a chance I could "catch" my first postpartum ovulation if I started now?

 

I can't believe I'm even thinking about this already.

post #2 of 23
Did you write this for me? Minus the iud, it's pretty much where I am/what I'm thinking. I hate condoms too, but a little space would be nice, especially after getting pregnant on our first try with this one.
post #3 of 23
I don't know either! We think that Lila will be our only one, so I'm considering an iud for now. I was on Mirena for 5 years before this but had lots of migraines and anxiety while on it, which I've since learned are others had the same side effects. I'm considering the copper iud but didn't know it causes heavy cycles. Is that common Zee? I haven't done any research yet.
I charted for 8 months prior to conceiving but dont think that will work for me now because I'm not getting enough uninterrupted sleep to get accurate temps.
Right now I think the plan is abstinence!
post #4 of 23

We definitely want to have more kids but not for a little while. I'm a little paranoid since both my mom and I had dreams that I had another baby next summer =/...... I told husband that they changed the rules and its no longer waiting 6 weeks post-partum to have have sex but 6 months. He just responded "uh. Ok." We will see how long that lasts. 

 

When we eventually DTD we will just pull out. It surprisingly worked as BC for almost 7 years. 

post #5 of 23
Thread Starter 

Chipi, I have several friends who got the copper IUD after hearing me rave about it, and while we all experienced heavier cycles, none of us found it too bad. They were noticeably heavier as well as longer, though. The first (and only before getting pregnant...) period I had after getting it removed was right back to my pre-IUD periods, though. I have heard that it might be different for women who have had babies, so I'm not sure! I definitely HIGHLY recommend it, though. After we are done having babies I will 100% get one again.

 

Also totally forgot about the lack of sleep affecting charting. Guess that would be pointless.

 

inconditus, my husband and I *both* had dreams that we had another baby next MONTH. Yikes! 

 

I just did a little googling and it looks like lactation amenorrhea works 99-98% effectively for 6 months if you breastfeed every 4 hrs during the day/6 hrs at night. So there's that.

post #6 of 23
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Originally Posted by zeeohee View Post

 

I just did a little googling and it looks like lactation amenorrhea works 99-98% effectively for 6 months if you breastfeed every 4 hrs during the day/6 hrs at night. So there's that.

 

Not to undermine DR google or be the bearer of bad news, but I HIGHLY suggest talking to family members who BF (if they exist) to get their experience on this. It didn't work for either my mom or my sister. My siblings are 13 months apart and my niece and nephew are 14 months.

post #7 of 23
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Originally Posted by inconditus View Post

 

Not to undermine DR google or be the bearer of bad news, but I HIGHLY suggest talking to family members who BF (if they exist) to get their experience on this. It didn't work for either my mom or my sister. My siblings are 13 months apart and my niece and nephew are 14 months.

 

It did work for my mom for longer than 6 months, actually. Not that that is a guarantee or anything, but it is at least one positive experience. Not sure who else to ask, unfortunately....

 

Then part of me thinks would it really be *so* horrible if I had another baby in 13-14 months? I'm really torn about this. I feel like 2 years is like the *maximum* spacing I want, but I am not sure the minimum. Argh I don't want to think about this yet but I also don't want to abstain. :-/

post #8 of 23
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Originally Posted by zeeohee View Post

 

It did work for my mom for longer than 6 months, actually. Not that that is a guarantee or anything, but it is at least one positive experience. Not sure who else to ask, unfortunately....

 

Then part of me thinks would it really be *so* horrible if I had another baby in 13-14 months? I'm really torn about this. I feel like 2 years is like the *maximum* spacing I want, but I am not sure the minimum. Argh I don't want to think about this yet but I also don't want to abstain. :-/

 

Oops. I just realized that "Dr google" could be read as condescending, which was not my intentions at all. Stupid internet not allowing me to voice a playful phrase well. Sorry if I came across as a jerk. I google pretty much every decision I make. 

post #9 of 23
My brother has a two month old and he said to my mom, how did people raise kids before the Internet?
post #10 of 23
Thread Starter 

Inconditus, no worries, I didn't take it badly at all :) I got the percentages from the Planned Parenthood website and was honestly pretty surprised that they were saying it was so effective. 

 

Harmonious, my husband has an adult son and even though he obviously did it, he was just saying yesterday how he doesn't understand how they managed to raise a child without the Internet, ha!

post #11 of 23
I definitely want another. I got done kind of progesterone pill for birth control. It's ok while breast feeding, and is actually only effective while breastfeeding. My husband and I think we will start trying next june... That way they will be about two years apart. I would like to start ttc this year yet, but I dont think my husband is on board with that. that may change once mason starts sleeping more smile.gif
I had an implant in my arm before, for bc, and it totally messed me up. Tons of weight gain even while on a calorie restricted diet, I would bleed for months on end, got really depressed... And then I had it removed in 2010, and it took almost exactly two years to conceive. So not doing that again!
post #12 of 23
My mom's oldest 2 are 11mo apart and she was ADAMANT that I figure out my BC situation ASAP because it was so hard.

Don't forget it's hard on our bodies too! Especially for those who got c-sections.
post #13 of 23
I am at a loss though. I charted for years with mixed success. It worked when it worked but it didn't work at all when it didn't, if that makes sense. It's very unforgiving. In 6 years I thrice slipped and lost track of things and got pregnant each time.
post #14 of 23

we're using condoms; cheap, effective, non hormonal and easy to stop

post #15 of 23
We didn't get pregnant for four years of rhythm method only until I had a baby, and then all the bets were off. I got pregnant while nursing, before i had a cycle, twice, both times DH pulled out. I then proceeded to get pregnant at the drop of a hat for the next three years. I swear all he had to do was walk past me and I would be pregnant. This after ten years of being in relationships and using the rhythm method without getting pregnant.

It could be me but I feel like once you have a baby your body plays tricks on you especially with nursing. Kinda like once the floodgates are open...my brother was a no cycle while nursing baby.

And there's always the joke- you know what they call a woman who uses the rhythm method?
(Mom)

I'm definitely not having any more babies from my body, so DH is planning to get snipped. Although I've heard some talk about autoimmune stuff with vasectomies and I wouldn't wish that on anyone... so abstinence it is until we figure it out. I'm already way past my original cut off age. I looked into having my tubes tied but its more major than I want to get into. That's a little off topic. Maybe I should have a I'm so done havin babies thread...
post #16 of 23
Thread Starter 

I wish I could do condoms -- it would be so simple! I have a latex allergy and the non-latex ones give me a rash. Not good. 

 

This is all good food for thought. Thanks, ladies.

post #17 of 23
Condoms here too. No hormonal stuff for me! Makes me crazy! Besides, I got pregnant with my first while on the pill so I don't really trust it.

I've been breastfeeding when I got pregnant with each of my last 4 pregnancies. So I wouldn't rely on that either!

My middle two are 15 months apart and that was my favourite age gap. I wouldn't mid getting pregnant very soon again. But if I say that to Ryan his eyes get all wide and terrified. Lol
post #18 of 23
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Originally Posted by heyitskalista View Post

My middle two are 15 months apart and that was my favourite age gap. I wouldn't mid getting pregnant very soon again. But if I say that to Ryan his eyes get all wide and terrified. Lol

What happened to 4 being the magic number? 

post #19 of 23
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Kalista, with the 15 mo age gap what was pregnancy like compared to others? Were you able to keep bfing your older baby? I am so worried about not being well-nourished enough or not able to keep bfing Clover if I got pregnant that soon. I would be totally fine with the gap (and so would my husband; he and his older brother are almost exactly 1 year apart and he thinks that's just dandy...eek!), I just worry about nutrition. I have no idea where this weird paranoia has come from. I think I eat a really good, healthy diet. I just don't want to do wrong by my baby or future babies :-/

post #20 of 23
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Originally Posted by zeeohee View Post

Kalista, with the 15 mo age gap what was pregnancy like compared to others? Were you able to keep bfing your older baby? I am so worried about not being well-nourished enough or not able to keep bfing Clover if I got pregnant that soon. I would be totally fine with the gap (and so would my husband; he and his older brother are almost exactly 1 year apart and he thinks that's just dandy...eek!), I just worry about nutrition. I have no idea where this weird paranoia has come from. I think I eat a really good, healthy diet. I just don't want to do wrong by my baby or future babies :-/

Second those questions. I would LOVE to have between 12 and 18 months as an age gap, but I am having the same worries as Zeeohee. 

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