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For those of us who can't put our babies down...

post #1 of 16
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This is a nice little reminder of why.

Even for a third time around mama, it's good to hear again.

http://babycalm.wordpress.com/2012/07/06/the-fourth-trimester-aka-why-your-newborn-is-only-happy-in-your-arms-30/
post #2 of 16
Thanks for sharing smile.gif

It is a good reminder.

What upsets me the most about the industry is the heartbeat sounds on machines. Creepy. I don't want my baby to think that chair is me.
post #3 of 16

I should show that to my MIL. My biggest peeve right now is old skool advice regarding spoiling kids. 

post #4 of 16
I need to show my husband. He keeps saying I hold her too much. Next time he says it I'm going to tell him that until he reads even part of one book about raising babies he has no credibility. You can't refuse to do any reading then purport to be some kind of expert.
post #5 of 16
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Originally Posted by harmonious View Post

I need to show my husband. He keeps saying I hold her too much. Next time he says it I'm going to tell him that until he reads even part of one book about raising babies he has no credibility. You can't refuse to do any reading then purport to be some kind of expert.

I've had that conversation about a billion gazilliondy times. About babies, crying it out, sugar, media, child development, plastic toys, co sleeping, homeschooling, cloth diapers, health care Etc. it just never seems to end.

My DH and I were raised in vastly different environments and so there is a huge gap for us. One thing that stopped the endless circular conversations (where I would voice an opinion and quote research and then he would say "well I don't believe that" and off to the races we go) was to give him something to research and study and then present it to me. Since he wouldn't read my folders full of research and articles from being a Waldorf teacher, he had to go get his own. It's only fair, since you're both raising the kid, for both parents to read up on things.

I asked him to look into intact care and vaccinations to start. He's not a great researcher but it did get him involved a bit more than lazily spouting off vague opinions that probably came from his mother.

I have said that if he can't provide an article/book/research that says the opposite of what I'm saying- for example that television is actually good for developing brains and nervous systems- then I have no actual interest in entertaining a debate about it. Having him looked into it ahead of time often made it so 1- the conversation was much les charged because I wasn't challenging him personally, just the research and vise-versa and 2- we often did not need to debate much because I'm always right and he would find out via his reading. Just kidding smile.gif We would be having a thoughtful conversation instead of challening the upbringings we had. (What's wrong with the way my mother does things?)

Going back to holding my baby all day long while homeschooling the kids. smile.gif
Edited by wrenmoon - 8/28/13 at 10:36am
post #6 of 16

I was just talking to the receptionist at my midwife office about this. Someone on BBC had posted a sleep reference chart saying how many hours a day/night babies need to sleep, the max amount of time they're usually awake for, etc. The last column was "time to wait at night time wakings" at two months (8 weeks!) it said you were supposed to wait TEN MINUTES. I almost had a heart attack. If my child is crying, I will never make them wait for me (car rides excluded-he hates getting in the car seat, but loves riding in the car). 

post #7 of 16
smile.gif I love reading all of these replies! Makes me feel more normal to know I'm not the only one!

Completely unrelated- wren moon, how cool that you were a waldorf teacher! We are waldorf homeschoolers! smile.gif. I'd love to teach in a waldorf school one day!
post #8 of 16
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Originally Posted by rainbownurse View Post

I was just talking to the receptionist at my midwife office about this. Someone on BBC had posted a sleep reference chart saying how many hours a day/night babies need to sleep, the max amount of time they're usually awake for, etc. The last column was "time to wait at night time wakings" at two months (8 weeks!) it said you were supposed to wait TEN MINUTES. I almost had a heart attack. If my child is crying, I will never make them wait for me (car rides excluded-he hates getting in the car seat, but loves riding in the car). 

 

urgh! I feel your pain! Jaya has decided she hates her carseat. Depending on her mood it's either immediate or within 90 seconds that she will start screaming blood murder. 

post #9 of 16
Re Waldorf - I went to a Waldorf school smile.gif
post #10 of 16
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Re Waldorf - I went to a Waldorf school smile.gif

...did you love it or are you bitter? My three brothers went through middle- high school and they have varying reports about it. I was too old for the developing schools where we lived so I didnt go.

Kalista- Being a teacher was the crazy busiest I have ever been in my life. Crazy busier than having two homeschool kids and a newborn and a husband who is gone 12 hours a day and cloth diapering with not enough diapers. I don't recommend it until kids are out of the house.

My class of first graders all went off to college last week. I got lots tearful emails and messages from their parents, saying how sad it is that they're gone and how fast it went...
I am officially old.

Being a Waldorf teacher is like having a whole class of babies that you can't put down... In the best, but busy, way.
post #11 of 16
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Originally Posted by cynthiamoon View Post

Thanks for sharing smile.gif

It is a good reminder.

What upsets me the most about the industry is the heartbeat sounds on machines. Creepy. I don't want my baby to think that chair is me.


right?  my neighbor suggested one of those heartbeat/womb sound noisemakers when I said that Oliver doesn't like to sleep without me next to him.  she was being very considerate; I'm sure she figured I'd rather he sleep alone (and sometimes I wish he would, especially during the day!), but I laughed and said something along the same lines.  stuff like that makes me feel like robots are raising my child.  anyone else a Futurama fan?  I don't want Oliver getting comfortable with the Nannybot 1.0!

 

 

ETA: this thing says something hilarious along the lines of "sleep, tiny human.  I have replaced your mother."  so very soothing.

post #12 of 16
Thread Starter 
Looks like burping could get a little rough with that robot...
post #13 of 16
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Originally Posted by rainbownurse View Post

I was just talking to the receptionist at my midwife office about this. Someone on BBC had posted a sleep reference chart saying how many hours a day/night babies need to sleep, the max amount of time they're usually awake for, etc. The last column was "time to wait at night time wakings" at two months (8 weeks!) it said you were supposed to wait TEN MINUTES. I almost had a heart attack. If my child is crying, I will never make them wait for me (car rides excluded-he hates getting in the car seat, but loves riding in the car). 
I wonder if it means when baby wakes up before they cry. We wait about tht time an sometimes longer because DD often wakes up, stretches, makes noises that sound content, and then eventually decides "I want you! Wah!"
post #14 of 16

it might be that CynthiaMoon, we do the same thing with Elliott, he makes so many noises that if he's not crying, we assume he's asleep

post #15 of 16
Yeah, I def. wait to hear if the night noises are hungry grunts or fusses, otherwise i leave her alone--otherwise I spend all night in the rocking chair.
post #16 of 16
Awesome reminder! I feel "guilty" holding my baby so much & not putting the baby down so I can attend to the older two.
Trying to keep everything balanced:)
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