If anything, I would feel sorry for this woman. I mean she is basically admitting to you that she cannot tolerate associating with anyone whose viewpoints differ from her own. Wow, I mean what a boring and potentially lonely exsistence she will have and what a disservice she is doing for her child who will learn intolarance from her. Very sad, but she is doing you a favor. But I am sorry you feel hurt, that is never fun.
i have been on both sides of the fence and so i feel i need to stand in defense for this mom to express her side of the story since she cant do it.
i am not denying the pain to the other party - even i would find it painful. sometimes unfortunately the truth IS painful.
the point is two contrasts. they happen. whether it is conservative or liberal views, attachment or mainstream parenting - whatever.
just dissing this mom just coz she spoke up is doing the same thing. being intolerant.
when your kids are young its really hard to have two opposite contrasts actually mingle together. once they get a little older then those things become easier to handle and its not so difficult to hang out tog.
for instance i am pretty liberal and talk to strangers. dd's friend doesnt. and they have reason to. her bro was almost kidnapped. so the dd is freaked out of strangers. and the fact that i was talking to a man and so was dd at the bus stop really freaked the 8 year old out. i noticed after that incident she wasnt allowed to come to our house coz we'd take public transportation and talk to strangers. because we didnt live next to each other the mom didnt have to say anything.
there is a child in our neighborhood who loved hanging out at our place. that was fine with me till i realized what she was doing to my dd - then 8. she was 13. the girl was bossy and dd didnt get to do anything to play. she would bully dd around other kids in the neighborhood. before things got worse she even had sleepovers at my place and most evenings she was having dinner with us anyways. i was ok with that. but as she started bullying my dd (mom not present, mom when home watch tv - no connection in the family, girl left to fend for herself for social stuff on her own, plus i think she had some special needs issues and she never hung out with older kids or her classmates) and finally dd spoke to teh girl. dd tried to be kind, girl would not get it. dd finally had to be truthful and upfront. yes hurtful words. dd achieved her result. she would run across the girl on teh street, but the girl no longer lived in our house as she did before.
i know for many parents i am too liberal. i let dd scooter by herself on our culdesac without supervision. it was a huge problem when dd was a toddler. she minded well so she could do things on her own (like go to the counter and get napkins on her own) that other parents would never allow their children to do. so dd would go to do something and the other child wanted to do it too and her mom would not like it. sadly some of our friendships have broken up due to this. kinda. when dd and N were 2 dd was a screamer and N became VERY sensitive to sound. mom and i were good friends. we decided playdates not a good idea anymore. we tried at 3 and tables turned. now dd was way too sensitive to sound and her son became a screamer. we have one last playdate at 4 where things were perfect, but then they moved cross country. life never allowed us mom's to hang out together as we had no extended family to watch our kids. this whole situation could have become very unpleasant for us if we both werent already friends.
so i can see living in the same neighborhood and having a child that you dont want in your life can cause a problem. esp. during summer vacation. esp. when the child loves your family. and if the age group is wide perhaps that is a problem there too. and i can see a right wing family not wanting to hang out with an obama family. of course i dont know what the details are.
but i think its quite ok for some families to want to get along with the whole world, and some choosing not to do so. just coz they are not the way i wanna be doesnt mean they are horrible. i have seen people change. families change. perhaps in another 5 years the situation might be quite different. one just never knows.
esp. if this mom had older kids. but whatever the reason - the dynamics are very tough when you live in the same neighborhood.