Hello! My daughter was almost 5 when I gave birth to me son, and it has been a really wonderful age gap. She was so helpful and involved in the pregnancy, there at the birth. I got to really focus on my son and him being a baby, I was able to nap with him when I needed it, DD was never violent (even accidentally hurting him), didn't have any regression. It was a really nice age gap. I really want three more, so it just really isn't feasible to keep waiting that long between them, although I'm only 26.
DS just turned two a few days ago. He is still nursing (which is really difficult during the week before my period as I get really uncomfortable and touched out) and bed sharing. We would be up for bed sharing with both. He is communicating well and a total sweetheart. I don't feel like he could understand the concept of pregnancy or anticipating a new baby right now, but of course he'll change so much during the course of a pregnancy and he may be able to really "get it" a lot more nearer the hypothetical due date. Anyhow, TTC is on my brain constantly and it is exhausting. We were talking about waiting until Jan/Feb, but part of me doesn't want to wait that long because if we do and it doesn't happen right away there are some big TTC Blackouts for the holiday season due dates, and I also don't want to risk a due date around the first of March (family stuff).
I'm also thinking about "trying" for a girl. DH isn't DD's biodad and he would really like a daughter. I think it would be nice to aim for one now, because the longer it takes to have a daughter the less close in age she'll be to DD, who would be 7 when the baby was born if we got pregnant in the next six months. I figure using the methods to try and get a girl might make it take longer to TTC anyway.
Ultimately my question is, for those of you who had a new baby born when a sibling was close to or just turning 3, what did you like/dislike about it? Would you have done if differently if you could go back? Because all I know is a longer spacing I am a little nervous about the uncharted territory.
(ET fix spelling mistake)