What do you do when a family member tells you this?
Personally I would have settled for "Hey, that's rough"
Get your support from different people.
A friend and I have been pondering how we as a culture have this belief that if we aren't hard on people, they won't "learn." If we get support instead of disapproval we won't be motivated to not make mistakes. That's how I grew up, how I was raised.
It's crap, and there are people out there who don't act like that.
I definitely will, thanks sparklefairy.
It's even more unfair because I don't actually need to learn anything (except perhaps to cultivate indifference and grow a thick skin?). The conflict is between the exes so I stay out... but it means that I don't get to see my partners child potentially until court happens, and am aware that BM is likely punishing my partner because she doesn't want to let go.
I wonder if I'm nuts to put myself in this situation by being in a relationship with a separated dad... All I can say is I care for dad and child and hope things will one day settle down.