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post #21 of 43
Yeah, I do nurse in bed, the problem I've had with co sleeping is my kids turn into nipple nibblers.then I can't get them to sleep without nursing (my oldest didn't sleep for a year unless she had a boob in her mouth the whole nap/night). My second took a soother so it was a bit better, but still a loooong time getting her to sleep without a boob (and now a soother). I'm hoping that if this baby is just put down to sleep alone he will be a better sleeper (not talking about CIO, just letting him find his own way to drift off). Three or four of my friends did this and their kids are better sleepers than mine ever were, but I don't know if that's genetics or environment...
post #22 of 43
Ah, I see. Sorry you've had to deal with that. :-\
post #23 of 43
yeah Lida, thats been my problem, too. She isn't even quite two yet, and she still wakes up frequently just to make sure I'm there (I weaned her of night nursing except for one early-morning one, but shes pretty good about rolling back over and going back to sleep). I have a little toddler bed in my room, and ideally I'd like to get her into it before the new baby is born. But its been terrifically unsuccessful so far. I just can't quite fathom what two nursers in a bed is going to look like, aside from the whole "safe sleep" thing with the newbie (I was a basketcase the last time about this...and it wasn't even winter for a while). But its starting to seem inevitable!

Changing table: I have one, down in the basement. The last time I just used it for diaper gear and storage- heaven knows I need THAT, but maybe I need to find a more economical use of space...
post #24 of 43
OMG my list is so long I don't even know where to start! Top priority would be to finish moving out of our apartment and into our house. Two months is a long time to be able to move. We still haven't bought a single baby item except for clothes I've picked up here and there (plus the stuff I've made.) At least I know this kid will have clothes and diapers...that might be as far as we get before she's born!
post #25 of 43
I found my change table saved my back, Roisin, plus I keep all my diapers and whatnot there too.
post #26 of 43

Lida  I remember around 11 months I said "that's it, she has to learn to go to sleep without a boob in her mouth" and since I did not want to do CIO, it took me almost two months of backing off slowly until she got it.

 

Now she still sleeps in our room but first falls asleep on our bed and then DP carries her over to her bed (in our room). She knows and understands the arrangement. DP and I realized very quickly that no one is happy if she shares our bed. I still love the idea so much of falling asleep next to her but OMG, the next day I regret it big time (she loves to cuddle, and by cuddle I mean drop herself sumo-style on my stomach/neck... I've also been kicked in the face by her foot).

 

I'm also going to try the "pause" with this baby that the woman in the "Bringing Up Bebe" talks about. When babies cry, the pause means waiting for a tiny bit of time before coming over. Then NOT picking them up immediately but first touching them and trying to see if they calm with soft sounds and gentle strokes. I remember the moment DD fussed even a bit, I picked her up immediately and held her so close as if something really bad just happened.

 

But if I learned anything from the first go-around, don't get married to expectations. :D

post #27 of 43
I did the same weaning off thing with DD1, Lilykay. The second time I didn't let baby fall asleep completely at the breast, like in the No Cry Sleep Solution, and that kinda worked, but I didn't have as much time to apply it. I like the "pause" idea, the problem is that with DD1, she was genuinely always hungry, and really did need to perma-nurse for the first little while, just to gain as well as she did. Then it just became habit...she is still an all-day grazer, and doesn't do well when her blood sugar drops. I also suspect that my breast storage capacity isn't very high, so I just need to feed my kids more often than other women, just for them to thrive on only breast milk.
post #28 of 43
I like the "pause." I didn't know it had a name! It's not CIO, just waiting to see if baby actually needs to be picked up. I know that when I'm sleeping, sometimes I stir and kick at the covers and almost wake up... And then fall right back asleep. Sometimes babies do the same thing. There's still plenty of time to respond if she actually needs you. ;-)
post #29 of 43
Thread Starter 

Anybody else have updated to do lists? Here is mine (I'm 35 weeks 4 days so I want to have if all done by 38 weeks). I am having my fourth homebirth.

-set up all birth stuff in baby bedroom (done 11/8)
-hang white Christmas lights in birthing room
-create labor playlist on iPad
-take down train table in baby room (done 11/6)
-make rice socks (done 11/13)
-make birth necklace (done 11/13)
-learn how to use tens unit (done 11/12)
-set up baby bassinet in room (done 11/9)
-buy postpartum things like herbal bath, depends, etc (done 11/13)
-set up postpartum items (done 11/13)
-set up baby diapers and items in her room and bassinet area (done 11/12)

-pick out her first outfit (done 11/12)
-buy new hose and get set up for birth pool
-make basic birth plan
-make birth shot list for photographer and figure out how to film it if possible (11/13)


Edited by KaliShanti - 11/13/13 at 3:51pm
post #30 of 43

Oh yeah, a hose!  Need to add that to the list. 

 

I don't have much left to do...will save these things for December as I'm pretty busy the next couple of weeks and I'm only 34 weeks.

 

-Buy: a hose and more pads

-Set up: Co-sleeper (and move out my bedside table)

-Borrow: electric pump for the birth pool

-Get a box of birth snacks and recharge together (and then hide the box!)

-Choose birthday cake recipe and get ingredients together (then hide them)

-Thank you cards from my shower gifts

post #31 of 43

I actually just went with DP over our two days ago and I'm pleased we're making progress. I'm 37 weeks so we really should be done soon.  A lot of those left are nice to have, except maybe setting up the bed and preparing the papers.

 

Home - Indoors

  • Order lamps for the kid’s room, living room, kitchen and bedroom. 
  • Hang lamps in all rooms.
  • Order curtains plus hanging rails for both bedrooms.
  • Hang curtains.
  • Close off the electricity connection next to the kitchen island.
  • Get a filter for the kitchen hood.
  • Re-organize storage closet in the hallway.
  • Make a boot-tray to put outside.Organize the remaining drawers in the bedroom and clear all junk lying around.
  • Deep clean the place: windows, drains, dishwasher, defrost freeze and clean fridge.

 

Home - Outdoors

  • Order storage cupboard for the balcony/terrace.
  • Build cupboard and put away all gardening supplies before the winter comes.
  • Buy protection a cover for the terrace table and one for the chairs.
  • Remove all annual plants and save all usable soil in a container for next year.
  • Clean/disinfect empty pots and store in the basement.
  • Clean balcony!
  • Bring rest of the plants to a protected area before frost and winter weather hits.
  • Remove watering system before frost.

 

Basement

  • Buy additional shelves.
  • Hang shelves on the wall.
  • Sort unwanted stuff into one of the following: keep, toss, donate, sell
  • Put away all keep items in containers and label.

 

Baby

  • Sort through all the baby clothes in storage: 
    • Suitable for boys, keep
    • Suitable for girls, pass on to a friend
    • Rest, toss or donate
  • Make inventory of what is still needed for the first two months.
  • Order missing/necessary clothes for the first couple of months.
  • Setup an Amazon wishlist and tell colleague/friends about.
  • Wash and clean baby car seat and baby carriers.
  • Stock up on diapers, wetwipes and laundry detergent.
  • Buy blanket for baby from neighbor.
  • Prepare letters/documents that need to be sent after baby is born.
  • Setup the baby  side-bed.

 

DD

  • Sort through her clothes and order/buy what is necessary for the winter.
  • Buy her a book about getting a new brother.
  • Make her an album of her first three years to give as gift when baby is born.

 

Christmas

  • Order/Make/Buy Christmas gifts (for DD, DP, SiL, BF..).
  • Make plans for a few Christmas activities with DD:
    • Bake cookies and pack as gifts for her Kindergarten teachers.
    • Make cards for friends/family together.

 

Food

  • Print out a collection of easy to make recipes/meal ideas (30 minutes and under).
  • Get flyers for our favorite to-order places.
  • Hook up the freezer in the basement.
  • Make a list of recipes to freeze.
  • Make a list of food items to to stock up on.

 

Other

 

  • Get a haircut and henna my hair.
  • Get a pedicure.
  • Make a names list.

Edited by LilyKay - 11/19/13 at 4:53am
post #32 of 43

- Sort through last few boxes of baby clothes that were given to me.

- Wash newborn and 0-3 month clothes, blankets and sheets, and changing pad covers

- Clean/dust out dressers

- Set up diaper changing area

- Finish setting up side-carred crib (now that the mattresses arrived last night, yeah!)

- Put away baby shower gifts

- Return unneeded gifts and buy more cloth diapers and a night light

- Inflate exercise ball some more

- Finish writing birth plan to take to health care providers

- Make a list with phone numbers of who is getting called when labor begins, when we leave for hospital, and when the babies are born

- Pack hospital bag for me (printed copy of birth plan, birth ball and pump, bendy straws, slippers, hair clips, going home outfit, nursing bras, socks, underwear, my own pads, water, nuts and dried fruit, hair brush, tooth brush, toothpaste, deodorant, extra cell phone charger, camera, extension cord/surge protector, nursing pillow), DH's bag (two outfits, Bible, underwear, socks, toothbrush, toothpaste, razor, shampoo, extra cell phone charger) and diaper bag for the boys (going home outfits, baby hats, swaddle blankets, blankets for car, diapers, burp clothes, wipes, 4 extra outfits, destin)

- I am sure I am forgetting something. I need to come back to this again.

post #33 of 43
Mine is:

- wash and put away new diapers when they arrive
- install baby's light when it arrives
- tighten carseats
- pack hospital bag
- wrap xmas presents (and hide!)
- clean and organize craft cupboard, kitchen cupboard
- go thru filing cabinet/file papers
- submit receipts for insurance $$$
- go thru more baby clothes and put away.
- organize baby's closet
- finish laundry and hang up postpartum clothes
post #34 of 43

- Sort through last few boxes of baby clothes that were given to me.

- Wash newborn and 0-3 month clothes, blankets and sheets, and changing pad covers

- Clean/dust out dressers

- Set up diaper changing area

- Finish setting up side-carred crib (now that the mattresses arrived last night, yeah!)

- Put away baby shower gifts

- Return unneeded gifts and buy more cloth diapers and buy a night light, back seat mirror and car window shades, swaddle wraps, orange hand towels and wash clothes

- Inflate exercise ball some more

- Finish writing birth plan to take to health care providers

- Make a list with phone numbers of who is getting called when labor begins, when we leave for hospital, and when the babies are born

- Pack hospital bag for me (printed copy of birth plan, birth ball and pump, bendy straws, slippers, hair clips, going home outfit, nursing bras, socks, underwear, my own pads, water, nuts and dried fruit, hair brush, tooth brush, toothpaste, deodorant, extra cell phone charger, camera, extension cord/surge protector, nursing pillow), DH's bag (two outfits, Bible, underwear, socks, toothbrush, toothpaste, razor, shampoo, extra cell phone charger) and diaper bag for the boys (going home outfits, baby hats, blankets for car, burp clothes, receiving blankets)

-Install infant car seats


Edited by lilacvioletiris - 12/1/13 at 1:00pm
post #35 of 43

- Set up diaper changing area

- Finish setting up side-carred crib (waiting for pool noodles that I bought online to arrive)

- Make a list with phone numbers of who is getting called when labor begins, when we leave for hospital, and when the babies are born

- Pack hospital bag for me (printed copy of birth plan, birth ball and pump, bendy straws, slippers, hair clips, going home outfit, nursing bras, socks, underwear, my own pads, water, nuts and dried fruit, hair brush, tooth brush, toothpaste, deodorant, extra cell phone charger, camera, extension cord/surge protector, nursing pillow), DH's bag (two outfits, Bible, underwear, socks, toothbrush, toothpaste, razor, shampoo, extra cell phone charger) and diaper bag for the boys (going home outfits, baby hats, blankets for car, burp clothes, receiving blankets)

 

- Sort through last few boxes of baby clothes that were given to me.

- Wash newborn and 0-3 month clothes, blankets and sheets, and changing pad covers

- Clean/dust out dressers

- Put away baby shower gifts

- Return unneeded gifts and buy more cloth diapers and buy a night light, back seat mirror and car window shades, swaddle wraps, orange hand towels and wash clothes

- Inflate exercise ball some more

- Finish writing birth plan to take to health care providers

-Install infant car seats

post #36 of 43

Shoot! I pulled up the bags of new baby clothes and gear today and the corner of the basement we had thought was dry wasn't! They are all covered in mold and mildew. In the tub soaking now with vinegar and oxyclean, but I'm a little worried about using them with a new baby. Any advice?

post #37 of 43

Yikes, everything covered in mold. I would be leery of using them with a new baby too, unless you can really get the mold/mildew out of them or off of them.

post #38 of 43
I wouldn't hesitate to use diluted bleach for another soak...as long as all the mold comes off and they are not stinky, I would probably be okay with using them. Yikes, though!!!!
post #39 of 43

I know, I'm kinda peeved at my dh, as I would not have put them down there at all. Its all my slings, carriers, swaddling things, blankets…I'll see how this soak goes, then I might try bleach tomorrow and see how everything looks and smells. It will be a bummer if I have to replace it all! But you hear so many horror stories about mold...

post #40 of 43
I do keep all the baby stuff in the basement, but its all in plastic bins...and its not wet/damp down there (finished basement). Hopefully it all doesnt need to be replaced, that would be so upsetting!
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