Abra, plan B sounds great. How is the Spanish coming?
Nicole, all the pictures ar great.
Joanie, you're awful quiet, what's going on up there?
Oh, Nicole… the look on his face is too much! I love it.
Jaimee, I am not really getting much support. To be honest, I’ve told very few people. And then I pretend to be fine and act like it’s totally not a big deal. And I think my dad is mad at me. I have one friend that I talk to about it. I don’t want to bother anyone. I am still going to Chicago, but my trip was cut short so I’ll just be there for some meetings. H will watch J and dd1 and dd2 will stay with their dad.
I'm sure it would be my instinct to act like everything is fine, too. But eventually I'm worried it's all going to catch up with you if you don't get some more support. Do you have more friends you can talk to or at the very least just get some help from to watch the kids a bit or assist with the fire clean up? I mean, if you were part of a church, people would be baking you casseroles.
Were you able to really explain things to your dad? If he thoroughly knew the why behind it all then wouldn't he just want to support you? Or do you not have that type of relationship with him? How about your mom?
Jaime, I am really embarrassed and ashamed. I don't want to tell anyone else. I lost all my mom friends when I got divorced last time. And I'm sure my dad just thinks I've disappointed him yet again. See, this is why I can't talk about it! Such a bummer...
The fire stuff is finally done. Dd1 is back in her room, so that's good!
Amanda while I totally get the divorce feelings, you have to confide in some of your close supportive friends and family- you need and DESERVE support right now. Anybody who loves you will know that, even if they have mixed feelings about your situation. Everyone else can suck it.
Nicole, that's adorable! I know its just the angle, but she looks huge.
Abra, I'm sorry your trip plans didn't work out. The puppy thing is like a double hit.
I got a surprising letter yesterday telling us that because of government furloughs and pay cuts, our yearly gross income will fall below the poverty limit this year. I was shocked. My husband went through 5 years of school on the governments dollar, to hold this generally great and secure job he has. It was a list of resources for late payments and breaks and stuff that we don't need, luckily- we don't live above our means so its been possible to stay on track. Hard sometimes, but possible. But it made me realize everyone isn't so lucky. And it made me mad. We nearly qualify for food stamps for the rest of the fiscal year, until our normal pay is restored. It just...seems criminal...
You DO deserve support. You did everything you could to make it work, but when your partner stops being a partner, there's nothing left to do! You fought the good fight. It is okay to ask for help. And especially if you have something concrete to ask for help with, like say studying for your exam, people will likely be even more willing to help. You need some relief so you can feel less overwhelmed and therefore able to study as well as have some down time to fill your own cup.
If you could make a wish list of the types of help you need right now, what would be on it?
Thanks, guys. I really don’t think there’s enough help in the world for me to get through the exam. I can’t focus anymore. I think logistics is the hardest thing right now. Like today, for example. I need to stay at work until 5, then pick up J, then pick up dd2 from aftercare. Her aftercare closes at 6. I will be lucky if I get into town by 6. So I have to leave early. Also, she is very upset about having to go to aftercare. I may ask a friend or two if she can go home with their kids every once in a while so she doesn’t have to stay at aftercare until 6 every day. But that would mean telling said friends. Sigh.
My job is flexible, so that is good. But I don’t want to take advantage. I may start working from home one day a week. I’ll still have to drive Jasper in to daycare, though. It’s tricky.
She could, Ash, but she goes to a school outside of my district so there is no transportation. I can't get her back to the house. Dsd doesn't drive yet and there's no extra car anyway. I was considering moving dd2 to my district, but she just got into the school play and really wants to participate in that.
Anyway, I'm watching Orange is the New Black now! (Well not right now... but in the evenings.) I'm such a joiner.