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Conner at the playground. He's such an introvert.
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My spidey senses were tingling. I could tell you missed me.
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Cute, Nicole.

Well, I'm still not crazy. The message was basically, what are you waiting for?? So yeah.
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Cute, Nicole.

Well, I'm still not crazy. The message was basically, what are you waiting for?? So yeah.

Welp. There's that.
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Well, I'm still not crazy. The message was basically, what are you waiting for?? So yeah.

How do you feel about that?  Are you still waiting for a gut feeling of what to do?  Or do you have a deadline in your head of when you'll decide?  Or are you hoping to get him to therapy as well and get some concrete things for him to work on with the ultimatum that if he can't work on things you will be leaving?

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Umm, Im pretty sure nobody will ever return to our house for a playdate- ever.  B is the meanest, crabbiest child in the history of the planet.  Despite having older siblings she shares everything with, she wont share her toys, refused to get off of my lap, and screamed and cried a good majority of the time :eyesroll even when she was simply looked at.   And the little girl who was here was the sweetest kid!  She was all hugs and kisses and smiles. 

That is all my kids at this age.  Austin was the best at not beating other kids up, but still thew things, often at people.  Avalon had to be watched all the time and poor #3 has learned to be so scrappy that he picks on anyone that seems weaker than him.

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I've had the gut feeling for a long time. It's just been covered over by guilt and shame. I decided a while ago; I just thought I would be a bad person. The professionals seem to disagree. Staying is worse.

I feel okay. Thinking of logistics.
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That is all my kids at this age.  Austin was the best at not beating other kids up, but still thew things, often at people.  Avalon had to be watched all the time and poor #3 has learned to be so scrappy that he picks on anyone that seems weaker than him.

I'm SO looking forward to the day when play dates make my life easier than harder. That was such a surprising sweet spot with DD. She used to be a big bully, screaming, pushing etc. And then one day it was like "omg, I think they're fine upstairs by themselves."

Oren is a screamer when it comes to toys and OTHER kids. He's OK with DD. He used to be a biter, but we got that under control, now it's the occasional hit or hair pull. And he's my mellow one!
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Oh man. Oren hasn't napped today and it's SCORCHING hot outside. We went out for half an hour and both kids are red and sweaty. He is so grumpy.
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I received frantic texts from my sister saying that my nephew was suspended from kindergarten just a week into it starting. He pulled a fire alarm and punched a poor kid into having a bloody nose. At 6 years old. *sigh* I am 99% certain she and my parents will blame his behavior on his autism. Because they use it when it's convenient. God forbid he may be violent because of his home environment. Ugh... and they act like I'm the bad guy for not leaving Sora alone with him? Not bringing her to play more? He has hurt her before. When will they get it.....
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Amanda,  I'm glad you got more unbiased support for your decision.  Hopefully it makes it all a tiny bit easier.

 

Joanie,  Ugh, I wouldn't bring my kids around him either.  How awful to have a 6yo that is so far out of control.  I hope they can find him some help and maybe a custom school environment to help him.   

 

Kids at this age don't play together very well, even if they're easy going kids.  I haven't really had any playdates with Coralie for awhile, but I'm sure she'd just wander off and do her own thing.  

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I've had the gut feeling for a long time. It's just been covered over by guilt and shame. I decided a while ago; I just thought I would be a bad person. The professionals seem to disagree. Staying is worse.

I feel okay. Thinking of logistics.

 

I'm rooting for you, Amanda. I'm glad you are coming to decisions, and moving forward, and feeling OK about it.

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Oh, and just going back to DD and her sleeping issues - I would never initiate any kind of change right now. I'm just exhausted and frustrated, because in 4 1/2 years, this is the EASIEST it's been to get her to bed. And I was mistaken when I thought DH could just leave her - he has to stay with her too, it just takes less time, and never involves a meltdown. I've tried the "be back in a minute" technique (and every other in No Cry for toddlers and preschoolers) and she just follows me. I'm not even allowed to be in the bed next to her bed - she must be velcroed to me or no sleep.

 

I've tried to be so attached, but it really seems like she is insecure in our attachment, which makes me sad. I know some things will improve greatly when we feel settled (and that might take longer because we were unsettled for so long) but I also know a lot of the issues are just ours to work through generally. Her big screaming meltdowns are power related, when I absolutely cannot be flexible about something - health/safety issues, extreme rudeness (like spitting), food wastage,  property damage, personal boundaries etc.

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So I don't want to detract from the real and heavy crap so many people here are dealing with, but I just had to share a quick minute from my day with people who will appreciate it.

 

We left for an afternoon of lessons for my big kids. Teddy was fine. As the afternoon progressed, he got sick, then sicker, then vomited all over himself on our drive home. Lovely. So once I got him home and cleaned up, I was snuggling him on my bed when he started to gag again. With the cat-like reflexes of a mother, I directed the flow into my skirt and hands, rather than the bedding. We've all been there, right? Problem was, I had been hand-sewing a pair of shorts for my oldest (I'll post a picture as soon as they're done--they're adorable!) and since they were on my lap they got covered in goo. But they hadn't been hemmed yet, so I couldn't stick them in the wash with the raw edge.

 

I sat down and serged a pair of shorts that were dripping in vomit so I could toss them in the wash. I SEWED THROUGH BARF. Can I get some crazy mom points of some kind over here??

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So I don't want to detract from the real and heavy crap so many people here are dealing with, but I just had to share a quick minute from my day with people who will appreciate it.

We left for an afternoon of lessons for my big kids. Teddy was fine. As the afternoon progressed, he got sick, then sicker, then vomited all over himself on our drive home. Lovely. So once I got him home and cleaned up, I was snuggling him on my bed when he started to gag again. With the cat-like reflexes of a mother, I directed the flow into my skirt and hands, rather than the bedding. We've all been there, right? Problem was, I had been hand-sewing a pair of shorts for my oldest (I'll post a picture as soon as they're done--they're adorable!) and since they were on my lap they got covered in goo. But they hadn't been hemmed yet, so I couldn't stick them in the wash with the raw edge.

I sat down and serged a pair of shorts that were dripping in vomit so I could toss them in the wash. I SEWED THROUGH BARF. Can I get some crazy mom points of some kind over here??

High five for your awesome mom skills!!! I m on my ipad otherwise I could put some awesome smileys in my reply!
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Becca, that's so gross!

Amanda, good luck.

Kirsten, hopefully it settles soon.

Joanie, that sounds really stressful.
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Sewing through puke stories are always welcome. Lol.

Thanks for the luck and support. Jasper is finally asleep, so I'm going downstairs to talk...
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I decided to let Conner nap... Three hours later than normal. He slept for two hours and woke up evil. Bedtime is in 45 minutes. We'll see if that actually happens.

Seriously. Mad props on the puke story.

Amanda, good luck. Internet high five because I don't hug.

I just realized tomorrow is 9/11. Go ahead and stay in until at least Thursday, Layla.
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Good luck, Amanda. I hope it goes how you want it to.

Becca, that story is priceless. Lol

Kirsten, I'm sorry you're having a hard time with your DD. No advice, but I think you're being a good mother thru it.
Edited by birdhappy85 - 9/11/13 at 4:44am
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Nicole,  Hopefully bedtime happens.  Late naps tend to screw things up at my house, but some kids are more flexible.

 

Becca,  Ewww, but you gotta do what you gotta do.  Ha.

 

Amanda,  Good luck with the talking.

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