How are you all handling the waiting? What are your plans to pass the time?
How are you all handling the waiting? What are your plans to pass the time?
I feel like I still have tons to do and I'm actually glad to have the time off so I can take care of these last minute things. Still need to make more freezer meals, meeting with my bookkeeper & related business stuff, finish more craft projects, look at the household finances, get postpartum supplies, buy some more baby supplies... Those are the things that I can list off the top of my head.
I feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever; I was due yesterday and I'm not getting any symptoms or anything. I'm pretty much organised, although there are a few small things I could probably do around the house to make me a bit more organised. This week I'm trying to pass the time by having friends over. It would be nice to have more of a clue as to when he might make an appearance!
My only worry is having to be induced if he's really stubborn. I want to avoid that sort of thing as much as possible and intend to use nothing more than gas and air during labour. But once he's two weeks overdue, the midwife will have to organise for me to be induced. But hopefully it won't come to that. I wish he'd hurry up and come out!
I try not to place much thought into waiting. I try to not plan anything that I can't back out of and aside from a WIC appointment on the 12th, I really don't have anything that I HAVE to do. Thinking every day that "Today could be IT!" just makes me antsy and more reluctant to go into labor. If I just clear my mind and keep chugging along like I have been, I think either it (1) preps me for labor more by removing emotional impediments or (2) gets me more excited about the surprise rather than worrying about the "what ifs". I'm certainly not trying to judge anyone who feels differently - this is just what works for me. A surprisingly fun thing for me to do is take a photo a day. I love after the babies are born to look back at these photos and think - "Funny, I had NO IDEA I was only 36 hours from labor in this photo!"
My focus has been trying to ensure we at least have a week's worth of food in the freezer or fridge, making sure my Kindle (and thus my playlists/hypnosis tracks for birth) remains mostly charged, and to take care of little piddly things like scheduling bill pay (oh joy!) and moving carseats into new configurations.
I'm doing okay now, but I still have three weeks. When I get down to that last week, I'll be the same way. I find it very hard to really concentrate on anything else when I know a baby is coming so soon!
I'm actually really looking forward to a couple of weeks of mostly relaxing while both my big boys are in school before the baby gets here. My youngest starts tomorrow, so this will be a big change! I have some plans for productive things to do — like sorting through their toys while they're away — and not-so-productive things to do — like watching some non-kid movies! Still waiitng on birth supplies to arrive in the mail, and I have a few odds and ends that need doing. Plus my mom won't be here till the 14th, so baby needs to stay inside till at least then. But, yeah, once she's here, and we're down to that last week (hopefully the last), I'll be getting antsy, too!
Last time, I gave birth in week 36, so I wasn't having any "waiting" feelings yet then. I'm rather like aidenn on the waiting piece this time around. This time, I've made plans that are cancel-able up to my due date week (like massage & chiro appointments, playdates, dinner at home with friends, etc). I've been hesitant to commit to obtaining huge amounts of produce to preserve (I usually do beets, peaches, corn, beans and tomatoes this month) because I don't want that mess if I start labor during the project. I have a little corn to do this week, though, which I know I have a buddy to count on finishing if for some reason I can't (she'll be coming over for labor anyway, so that could be her "labor project!"). And also, I feel it's important to keep on top of groceries and cleaning bathroom, etc, so we're not caught out when baby comes.
My DS will start preschool on the 9th on M/W/F mornings, so like Bromache, I'm probably going to use that time for some toy sorting/purging and some lounge time with knitting, movies and napping. I'm also thinking about purging through my baby carrier and cloth diaper stashes, and selling a bunch of stuff that I don't think I'll use this time (like ring slings and pouches, and microfiber/PUL diapering gear) to fund the stuff that I grew to want and use the most (like wool for diapering and woven wraps for babywearing).
The waiting is difficult. I try to have something special planned each day, so I have something to look forward to. They aren't extravagant by any means: read a magazine that doesn't deal with birth/babies), take a candlelit bath, get a back/foot massage, have my toenails painted, get a chocolate crossaint from our local European Pastry Cafe, watch a feel-good movie (that doesn't have to deal with birth/babies), read a novel, etc...
Did you know there is a term for this "waiting" period? A MN midwife wrote a short article about this philosophy and its importance: http://www.mothering.com/community/a/the-last-days-of-pregnancy-a-place-of-in-between
"The last days of pregnancy— sometimes stretching to agonizing weeks—are a distinct place, time, event, stage. It is a time of in between. Neither here nor there. Your old self and your new self, balanced on the edge of a pregnancy. One foot in your old world, one foot in a new world.
Shouldn’t there be a word for this state of being, describing the time and place where mothers linger, waiting to be called forward?
Germans have a word, zwischen, which means between. I’ve co-opted that word for my own obstetrical uses. When I sense the discomfort and tension of late pregnancy in my clients, I suggest that they are now in The Time of Zwischen. The time of in between, where the opening begins. Giving it a name gives it dimension, an experience closer to wonder than endurance."
I'm due tomorrow but don't feel anxious about when it'll happen. I think I'm actually a bit in denial that it ever WILL happen at all. I think it's because I'm a FTM so it's all still a bit surreal to me. I'm not scared of labor, just of being a mother. Everything is finally settled here so I feel fine just hanging out. I haven't really had many symptoms that labor is about to start so it's easy to stay in denial. I have things to keep me busy too: a bunch of thank you notes to write from my baby shower and I've been on Duolingo learning languages; something fun that's not at all baby related.
granted, i'm among those moms to be with the most time left - due 9/28. so the waiting in itself hasn't really been an issue for me (..yet?).
like some others have mentioned, i still have soo many things on my to do list that i'm pretty sure i could keep myself occupied for another 3 1/2 months if i had to!
but what my days look like right now, and i feel very fortunate to say so, is a mixture of getting stuff done and resting - a LOT. the past month has been the only time in my life so far (!?!?) where i didn't feel bad napping in the middle of the day.. or lying around on the couch all day.. or sitting in the lounge chair outside reading a book and doing nothing else.
it's a quiet time unless i happen to have an active day again and get several things off my list in one day. DF works from home mostly, so we're both resting as much as we can / want. later today, if it works out, i'd like to go to the beach.. simply because it's a holiday and i'm imagining it might be a bit complicated taking a newborn to the beach.
Luckily I don't feel too much as if I'm waiting yet either as I'm due 9/19. My son was almost 3 weeks late so I figure I can handle anything after that! It was extra difficult bc I was made to take maternity leave at 41w so my leave kept counting down and he still hadn't arrived. This time I can work up until the baby comes which I am grateful for as it's only 2 days/week and it helps to keep me occupied. When I'm home I'm with my son so that helps as well. I still have a good bit of stuff that we need to organize, sort, clean so I feel like I'm not quite ready yet anyway. I am trying to mentally get ready by listening to Hypnobabies more often and just visualizing/thinking about birth, as I know it could really be anytime.
Today I've been more relaxed about being pregnant and have not been symptom spotting or wishing for labour to start. Although I may have ended up nesting anyway! I cleaned all the furniture, doors, light switches and fireplace surround, and even washed the cushion covers. I have never washed the furniture or cushion covers in my life! It's a good job I had a friend visit in the afternoon otherwise I would've done more.
But in general I feel a lot happier about just going with the flow and not stressing about when labour is going to start. And general positive thinking helps too.