CDsmom - I'm definitely feeling less movement. When I sit down and do movement counts, I'm still getting about the same counts and if I drink something cold, that automatically gets him moving - so I'm trying not to worry. I mentioned it to my MW at our last appointment and she said that's normal. Though honestly, I think he's slowed down more and it's worried me more since that appointment. I think I had read that they run out of space towards the end, so stop moving as much. It just feels like he's not as crazy active as he had been before. And the movements are more rolls and shifts, rather than bigger kicks, punches, and stretches. And it seems like his patterns have changed a little. I used to feel him move a lot when I woke up around 8 AM and then later around 10 PM, but now not as much. But I've also been sleeping in later, maybe sleeping through his movements cause they aren't as intense.
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Weekly chat September 2-8 - Page 2post #21 of 1089/3/13 at 9:10pmpost #22 of 1089/3/13 at 9:37pmpost #23 of 1089/3/13 at 10:40pmCdsmom, I am feeling significantly less movement, too. In fact, last night he was so inactive I went to the hospital to get checked. I only counted 7 movements in two hours despite doing the sweet drink/lie down bit. He was fine, though, and today he's moving enough that I'm not worried. But it's still less than before. Guess these wee ones are getting too big to want to move as much.post #24 of 1089/4/13 at 8:24am
It's so quiet on the chat boards now. It seems like so many babies are born and the rest of us are kind of cocooning down for the final weeks. The naturally quiet slump of the last month, right?
Count me in on the less movement bandwagon. When I was a FTM, I was freaking about it - I thought it was because I needed to take Zyrtec daily and I was drugging my baby into a sleepy stupor. Now that it's my third time in the rodeo, I just sort of notice less movement and think "Huh. Please don't wait until you're so big you don't fit on the way out!" I really only feel his movements when there's an odd elbow or a foot sticking out where it shouldn't be. I guide it back into place and that's it. I still feel hiccups occasionally and this weird movement like he's having a seizure or something, just about 10 seconds of constant spasming, and then quiet.
The girls are at my MILs today and I have no car (DH's Bug is in the shop, thanks last minute gigantor expenses!) so I am just lounging around the house watching Broadchurch (I know it's already been aired in the UK, but old BBC America just picked it up and I am now addicted!). I am also trying to line up a good TV series to watch in those middle-of-the-night nursing sessions. Last time I had a newborn, Downton Abbey has just come out, so I spoiled myself with that and Lark Rise to Candleford; with DD1, I watched my old VHS tapes of Whose Line is it Anyways. Now I am thinking reruns of Seinfeld or Friends might be good for this baby. Something I won't mind nodding off in the middle of and that is a bit mindless.
We've finally put a halt on the rest of the house hunting stuff until after DS arrives. We're putting a backup contract on that one house I liked, however, but that is pretty low maintenance from us unless we become primary contract on it. The expected close date for the primary contract is my birthday (October 1) so we should know by then if we're back to square one or if we've managed to somehow pull this out of the bag. It feels good to stop searching for a bit. House hunting is a terribly fun activity for me, filled with hopes and dreams, and I am excited about potentially owning a home again soon, but I will enjoy having my evenings back and not making breakfast for dinner every night to accommodate showings when DH comes home from work. That sourdough French toast WAS amazing though! I'm 39 weeks on Friday, so I think I just need to take some time and focus on the excitement for DS. He's likely to be our last baby and I want to honor the pregnancy (it's been harder than it was with the girls!) and the birth (such a bittersweet moment to walk into this knowing it's our last birth!). I don't want his baby book to be overshadowed by all the other worries going on in my life (that mechanic bill for the Bug is weighing heavily on me now).post #25 of 1089/4/13 at 8:47amQuote:Originally Posted by thefreckledmama
I can't imagine having family visit ad stay with me so soon after a baby. But I'm also very weird about people being in my space for any amount of time anyway. I also think there's a divide between having houseguests and having help come-and I think it's rude of anyone to visit new parents in a houseguest capacity-but again, I'm funny about that.
I plan on limiting visitors at the hospital to 20 or so minutes, and getting the nurses to help me out with that. In my experiences they seem to be very wiling to usher people out of needed. Fortunately there's not a lot of people who would visit that I'm very worried about, but I'd rather have them at the hospital than my home. Once I'm home I just want to veg and relax as much as I can because I have all the older kids to jump back into life with, and I know it will happen faster than I'd like.
I guess there aren't too many options for us as we live far away from family AND friends, too. So I'm actually appreciating DF's dad and godmother coming to stay at our place for a bit. I feel a bit weird because DF's godmother booked her flight around my due date so she could be in the hospital with us for support, but DF fortunately found a polite way of telling her we hired a doula and would prefer nobody else there during labor (although I'd love a few visitors later!).
DF's dad knows we're hoping he'll cook for us and stuff like that. He says he'll stay as long as we want him around. He's usually the type to come out for a weekend and stay at a hotel, so this should be interesting.Quote:
Same here! I'm packing a small suitcase and the diaper bag. Not sure how much to bring so I'm bringing a whole pack of diapers, wipes etc. can't figure out how many clothes I'll need or which ones to pack. Still need to figure out the playlist in cases I want to listen to music in the hospital.. Etc etc.
Been sick for 1 1/2 weeks now, ugh. DF caught it and is now sick too. Our to do list is being majorly neglected as we nap our way through the day.. Need to get back on it today. Where did all that nesting energy go?
Having a bit of cramping I can't ignore this morning, although its gotten better since I got up. My belly feels pretty hard now though and I don't think it felt like that before.. Not sure if that means anything, though. I any case, having my next appt tomorrow so I will just ask then.post #26 of 1089/4/13 at 11:57am
On the houseguests ... I'm ambivalent about it. It feels like a huge NO to me, but because our families are far away and none of our friends have kids, it's the only way we'll get any sort of help with the baby. So my mother will be coming once the baby is here (I really don't want her here for labor, so we're not "allowing" her to purchase her plane ticket till baby's born), hopefully won't stay longer than 2-3 weeks, since 2 weeks is the longest we've managed to cohabitate before wanting to kill each other. She knows she's here to help, mainly do laundry, cook, and tidy up; so I'm hoping it goes well.
After that it's the ILs turn. I'm a bit more nervous about that, since I'm not sure how much DH has primed them to fact that they're here to help, not to hold the baby or be entertained. But the one that really makes me nervous is SIL - she'll be coming at some point in between and is being totally selfish in assuming any dates will work for us even if they overlap with other visitors. Which is a big no - I'm putting my foot down on the fact that there will only be one set of visitors at home at a time, no one can stay over in the sofa, I will not feel like I'm banished to the bedroom if I feel like I need to spend my days naked with baby on my chest. So basically if SIL comes when someone else is already visiting she can find her own place to stay as far as I'm concerned, but it won't be with us and I'm not going to go asking our friends (DH can do it).post #27 of 1089/4/13 at 12:02pmpost #28 of 1089/4/13 at 12:18pm
We're planning on having my husband's family over about two days after we leave the hospital or so. I don't really want visitors in the hospital unless there's an extended stay involved (our birth program tends to have very short hospital stays) and then I would like a day or two to settle in just the three of us.
We're going to ask my parents to come up from Alberta and stay with us for a week once my husband goes back to work.
I'm lucky that both sides of the family are really good boundary respecters and are completely willing to provide actual help and not just "holding the baby"-help. I'm planning on requesting that my father in law bring over a batch of the amazing mini-muffins he makes which means I'll likely get three freezer bags full or something. :)
Last night at our prenatal appointment, my fundal height hadn't changed since two weeks ago but the doctor didn't seem overly concerned and suggested that maybe we'll do a growth ultrasound at the next appointment in two more weeks if there is no growth then either but we might not. I love this practice for how laid back they are.post #29 of 1089/4/13 at 1:53pmI am slightly more dilated (3cm vs 2cm last week), but nothing has changed. Glad I got to be there for my DD's first day of kindy/DN's first day of HS, but am now quite ready for this kid to make his debut! I was so bummed when doc suggested I make an appointment for next week. I did it, but am not happy about it. DH suggests that making the appt means I will not need it. Sure hope he is right...post #30 of 1089/4/13 at 4:44pmI was 3 yesterday after being 2-3 last week. DF and I went to a parent volunteer meeting at the kids' school today. When the parent coordinator went around at the end of the meeting I was like well, I'm due in 12 days, so we can really commit to anything that we are critical for. She was like, oh honey I know, it was nice on you guys to come though. We did sign up to supply a sandwich tray in Oct for parent/teacher conferences (yay Costco!!), but besides that we're kinda useless for the time being. That being said, every family is required to do 20 volunteer hours for the year, and because DF is great at stuff like that, we're already at 10 hours and only 3 1/2 weeks into the year.
I'm so ready for my chiro appt tomorrow. My hips and tailbone are so achy and getting worse daily. I keep hoping once I'm adjusted that the baby will settle in and labor will be eminent.
I also rewashed some baby blankets today. Because I could.post #31 of 1089/4/13 at 5:03pm
aidenn - I'm glad you guys got to put a pause on the house hunt. It sounds like it makes the most sense, and it gives you a good project to get back to once you get your wits together again after the baby comes.
We're reverse on the houseguests situation since we are having the baby at my parent's house and staying here for a month after he is born. When DH and I were discussing all this before coming, he was really hesitant about staying with my parents. He was worried he wouldn't feel totally comfortable and that he'd feel like they were watching over his every move. My winning argument was when I told him how much money it would cost us to rent a place temporarily while we were here - money we simply didn't have. But now he totally has come to understand that my parents (who are being super generous and taking great care of us already) will be such a help once the baby is here. They are totally prepared to cook all our meals and do our laundry. And we still have the room we are staying in to get privacy when we need it. Plus my mom will be great at running interference on drop-in visitors or friends who come for a visit and stay too long - she's extremely direct and doesn't care if people think she's being rude. In El Salvador, I'm sure my folks would have come down soon after the baby was born and also been a big help. But our house there is a lot smaller than theirs, so we would have been on top of each other with little privacy. And while I'm sure we could have called on some friends to bring us occasional meals, we wouldn't have had the kind of 24-hour support we are going to have here. And DH's father and siblings really aren't in a place that they could have helped us much.
The decreased movements had me kind of freaked out today, so I decided to do some fetal movement counts. I got 10 movements in 50 minutes, so I guess I don't really have anything to worry about. Hearing that everyone else is experiencing the same thing is reassuring. I have been having almost constant toning contractions. I'm calling them toning contractions because they don't hurt at all, they just mean my belly is hard and lopsided more often than not.post #32 of 1089/4/13 at 5:06pm
I'm checking in at 37 weeks and 5 days. I have been emotionally ready to get this baby out for weeks now but I know he will come when he wants. Since Sunday I have been having more tightening and pains, nothing that makes me think THIS IS IT! but I notice them. Today I had a chiropractor appointment. She adjusted me and said all was well. She mentioned that some babies move a lot after an adjustment and some move only a little bit. Little man has been pretty quiet since the adjustment, nothing I'm worried about but since everything adjusted so well I guess he was all lined up and in a good position to begin with. I have noticed two powerful contractions while sitting on the toilet today. I've been having a really good appetite again and my sleep is so so. DD still co-sleeps with us after she wakes in the middle of the night so I've taken to moving to the couch for some space. Plus it's cooler out here.
We had our home visit on Friday. It went really well. The doula came and my mom was here. The midwife did a cervical check and a GBS test. Baby boy was thisclose to being engaged and my cervix was soft and forward. I was dilated to 1.5 cms at that time. I think the supplement I'm on is helping ready my body. I check in with my doula every few days, since she will be coming before my midwife, and today I was updating her on the new tightenings and pains I'd been having. She said something that really was just a great way to put my feet on the ground. She said, "Every contraction you have now, is one less later." That sent me into a meditative thought process and I keep thinking that to myself whenever I feel a pain.
A few days ago I was emotional and bawled so much. I was reflective of my daughters final womb days and who she is becoming. I got sad because we are graduating from a family of three to four. I started thinking about the way my parents raised me and where they failed and I got emotional about that. I started thinking about my dreams of raising two girls and no longer having that dream since we are having a boy. I thought I was at terms with how I felt being a mother to a boy but after a good cry and some journaling I realized I had been putting this away mentally these past few months. So I worked through it all. I cried and cried and journaled. I feel better about everything. I'm excited for birthing day. I'm taking photos and cherishing these last womb days. I'm excited for a home birth, our water birth, and allowing my son to have a Lotus birth. I feel very grateful that this little surprise baby came into our lives. He through all my 2013 plans out the window but he sent me down a better path. A path I needed to take before I could move forward with my own personal future. It's amazing how much my kids have taught me and they don't even know it.post #33 of 1089/4/13 at 5:52pmpost #34 of 1089/5/13 at 1:39pmpost #35 of 1089/5/13 at 1:44pm
40w2d here, yesterday I felt like I had PMS x100 - I don't know if I've ever been that bad since I've been pregnant. I wanted to kill everyone, and I was crying at every little thing. I feel better today but still not quite jolly. I'm feeling a mix between wanting baby out and feeling anxious/overwhelmed with the things I have to do, like getting auto insurance, writing thank you cards, car registration, etc. It's been SO painful to move in bed and just in general the last week. I just hope that will go away once I have the baby.post #36 of 1089/5/13 at 4:47pmQuote:
Thank you! This pregnancy has had it's rough patches of course but overall it's been more pleasant and I am very much looking forward to my birthing experience.
Woke up this AM with period like cramps and I thought, okay go back to sleep, try and relax. You wanna be rested for the big day." Well I woke up and was having cramps AGAIN but I fell back asleep. WOke up nauseated. Talked to my doula she said to just wait it out and go to my midwife appointment. Went to my appointment this afternoon and the apprentice midwife was there so I consented to a cervical check in the name of her education. Found out I'm 3 cms dilated, cervix is VERY soft and all the way forward so any contractions I have will work on my cervix even more. YES. After my chiropractor appt yesterday I passed a HUGE glob of vagina snot...lol my mucous plug. I didn't have any blood but I told the midwives it looked like my vagina had a loogey. They said with how dilated I am and the contractions it does sound like I lost it.
I was so stressed out this morning due to financial things so going to my appt and getting checked really helped me and recenter my focus on positive things like my body working and me trusting it. This whole thing is so different from my first time around. I was talking to my mom and she offered to watch my daughter for a few days so we packed her up and she's gonna stay with them for awhile depending how things go she may come back Sunday.
I feel like I can relax these next few days because I literally have NO obligations. Our weekend plans went out the window because we are broke but that's okay. It'll be good to just be quiet, not do a single thing, and just take life easy.post #37 of 1089/5/13 at 4:53pmpost #38 of 1089/5/13 at 7:03pm
Been following along but finally have the energy to do personals tonight:
CDsmom, yay for loving your job! I love my job too but it was getting harder to "be on" with my clients and I felt bad for them paying full price and me being less than 100%.
serafina, I've got the reverse of your situation: my mom is coming and I speak Dutch with her. DH doesn't speak it at all (even though I've bought him the Rosetta Stone course two years ago, but anyway...) and he easily feels like an outsider when I'm with her. I'm slightly worried about it because I want him to be an involved parent from the get go, but we will have about two weeks to ourselves before she gets here. I'm also hoping that as I start speaking very simple Dutch with the baby DH will be able to learn a little vocabulary and build his understanding along with the baby.Quote:
That was me today: all good intentions, got basically nothing done. Still contemplating making cauliflower soup and running to Walmart later tonight to make up for doing nothing all day.
haurelia, I've looked into canning and just reading about it made my head spin! I'm just not that ambitious!
freckledmama, your student midwife/doula situation sounds ideal! I'm starting to think maybe I should've looked into labor support a little more, not for me but for DH. He told me today he feels really uncomfortable about the thought of seeing all that messiness and blood. I know the midwife will be there as my labor support but now I'm wondering how DH will fare.
Re: chiropractors: how was your appt? I'm so suspicious of them, I know just like any other profession there are good ones and bad ones but I've only had experiences with bad ones so I've sort of written off chiropractic as a whole since then...
aidenn, I've experienced something similar to what you describe as the seizure movements: mine feel like when you're trying to drag along a heavy object over a rubber mat and it sort of scoots/bumps/skids rapidly along. I've wondered what those are. Still getting hiccups too, though less frequently than before.
chispita, good luck with the guest situation. I feel like in general people are so selfish when it comes to seeing newborns! Ever since DH made it clear to his parents that they're not welcome before October 23rd they've been sort of passive aggressive toward him and of course it's stressing him out more, poor guy.
mama ana, I enjoyed reading your post about coming to terms with your pregnancy and having a boy. It reminded me to be a little more mindful of these last days and enjoy them and acknowledge them as the last days for the two of us. In fact I was inspired to asked DH to take me out to fancy dinner one last time because of reading your post.
AFM: I've been soooo lazy, still just slowly plugging away at the to do list. My midwife talked to me about stripping the membranes at my appt next week, which will be 39w5d. I feel this weird stress/obligation about my "due date". I'm a punctual person and take great pride in being on time and keeping my word so being at the whim and mercy of nature's timing doesn't come naturally to me.post #39 of 1089/5/13 at 8:17pm
dakipode-the doula was telling me about the last birth she observed, and in that case she was doing a lot of reassuring of the husband-just letting him know things that came up were normal, that everything was progressing as it should, etc. That's really what I'm thinking might be what I'm needing most too, as DF is kinda squeamish about bodily fluids and such, and it's been so long since he's witnessed a birth. I'm also afraid with how he's going to handle me being in pain, because I think it's going to bother him quite a bit.
The chiropractor was AWESOME. She's 33 weeks herself, so we had a lot to talk about...lol. She did all pelvic work, and it felt really good. More than anything it was massaging my hips and back and such, and she did a few little pushy adjustments, but it was all very gentle, and I felt relief almost right away. I'm going back Monday, because as much as she got things opened up and moving, I probably need at least one more adjustment, because I know how out of whack things were. She also gave me some stretches and exercises to be doing over the next few days to get things loose and open, too.
I had always heard negative things about chiropractors, about how they can do more harm than good and such. My first experience with any kind of adjustments was with my old primary doctor who is a DO. He had been my XH's family's doctor, and when I messed up my hip stepping over a baby gate after my first was born, they got me in to see him. He was really good, and I think only once when I had an acute issue with my sciatic nerve did I need to see him more than once to get things right, but I ended up leaving his practice because they were always running like 2 hours behind, and when it came to medical stuff, I didn't care much for him. Today was the first time I'd ever seen an actual chiropractor, but I had been getting recommendations and talking to a lot of others about her for a few months now, and she was highly recommended.post #40 of 1089/5/13 at 9:14pm
Mama Ana - I'm also so glad (and a little in awe) that you are finding such a peaceful place at the end of your pregnancy. I really think everything in life is about process, so even with some hard moments, finding the peaceful place at the end really proves you lived out the process you needed to.
dakipode - Enjoy the chance to be lazy!! Pretty soon we won't have the opportunity any more. Are there any downsides to stripping membranes? I'm starting to stress a little about when the baby will come, too. The MW used the latest EDD to buy me time before people started worrying since FTMs usually go late. But I have been convinced my actual due date is about a week sooner than the one she is using. And I've been telling people that, that I'm expecting the baby to come next week. But now I'm getting nervous I'm totally wrong, because aside from increased toning contractions and less movement from the baby, I really don't feel anything else that seems pre-labor-ish. But my dad seems to recall that labor for my mom came on out of the blue, so maybe it will be the same for me. I just don't want him to go past the EDD, because if he's anything later than a couple days, it will be a really close call to get the baby's passport in time for all three of us to all be able to travel home together (DH's permission to be in the States expires exactly one month and 3 days after my EDD).
I had an appointment with my MW today. At our last appointment, when we talked about all the anxiety I've been having, she told me she does craniosacral therapy and suggested I come in for a session. She actually didn't end up doing CST on me, but instead just lead me through some breathing and relaxation exercises. I felt so relaxed by the end. I even fell asleep for a couple minutes. Oops... And I've been a lot calmer the whole rest of the day. She wants me to start coming in every five days and we will divide time between the prenatal visit and different relaxation exercises as well as CST. And she's not charging anything extra for it. I do think I need to start really trying to do different relaxation exercises every day, so hopefully I can bring the same discipline I've somehow mustered up for walking and squats to doing that, too.
Today was DH's birthday, and I think he had a really good time. We didn't do anything huge - I took him for coffee and a blueberry muffin in the morning and gave him a watch as a present (well, a picture of a watch because the one I ordered won't arrive till tomorrow). And he went to his two different English classes, which he really likes, and then we had the split the tiniest (and richest) chocolate cake ever with my parents tonight. He really wants to keep going to his English classes once the baby is born. Originally a part of me felt like he should have to be there by my side for all the newborn care stuff. But it is only 2 hours a day Mon-Thurs and will be such a benefit to him in the long run, I'm amazed at how much his English has already improved. And it seems like so much of the early responsibilities are pretty mommy-dependent. I'm starting to feel like as long as he at least takes some time off from them in the first days after the baby is born and he is stepping up with diaper changes and other stuff when he is home...then it is fine for him to keep going to class.
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