I'm currently 15 weeks and a few days pregnant and so far everything has been very easy, aside from basic exhaustion and mild nausea during first trimester (and a very frustrating sudden aversion to Thai curry!). I've been careful with my diet and general health- lots of walking, lots of veggies, etc.
The thing is... my husband and I are in a massive transition period (literally), having left our jobs in Shanghai when I was about 7 weeks pregnant. We didn't want the baby to be born into such a polluted city, nor did we want the pregnancy to continue there when air quality readings were dangerously unhealthy. I didn't go to a doctor while we were there because, frankly, being at the high end of normal weight and nearly 39 years old, I didn't fancy getting yelled at by doctors who thought women over 28 years old or bigger than a size 8 were in serious dangerous of killing themselves and their baby (it happened to friends). I did talk to a close friend who is a paediatrician and she said as long as I hit the 12 and 20 week scans, I'd be fine unless something notable developed. The 20 week scan would let me know what I needed to do next, regarding pre-natal care.
Since we left China in early July, we've been bouncing back and forth between Canada and the UK (he's British, I'm Canadian), trying to sort out a residence permit for me to move back to the UK with him to be near family. Until then, I'm technically a resident of no country, as I'm not in Canada long enough to qualify for medical care (you need to be back here 3 month to reinstate residency). It makes getting an obstetrician/midwife very very hard. We tried getting me an appointment when we were in the UK on a tourist visa but the fact that I wasn't going to be there uninterrupted until the birth made the obstetrician annoyed with me, even though I explained to her that I wasn't trying to be difficult, I just needed time to get my visa sorted out. All I wanted was to make sure everything was okay. We ended up going to a fancy private clinic in London's Harley Street and paying cash for the 12 week scan/nucchal test and everything was just fine.
Now we are back in Canada, waiting for my UK visa and I don't know what to do. I can't enter the Canadian system as we will only be here a month, max. I haven't lived here in years so I don't even have a GP to talk to. We are looking into getting the 20 week scan done privately and acting accordingly based on those results.
Am I being irresponsible? I'm feeling fine, belly growing bit by bit, and intend to get a midwife as soon as we are settled in the UK (around 20-25 weeks). Any suggestions for what I can/should do, being so in limbo?