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Nursing Moms - Page 2post #21 of 669/19/13 at 11:10amI am currently nursing my two year old and it is already getting difficult. She nurses a lot and still three times at night. I nursed my first child until I was 7 months pregnant and it was really difficult for me. I get the heebie jeebees and it puts me in a very unhealthy place. i am wanting to begin gently weaning her but she will just scream if she can't nurse, and I can't just let her scream. So I don't know what to do. Most people I know who weaned did it when their kids were really young or they just nursed until their children weaned by themselves :/ so any advice would be great.post #22 of 669/21/13 at 4:18pm
I am also nursing my 21 month old and since I became pregnant I really am feeling "done" with nursing. I plan to continue until she is 2 at least but would like to night wean because I'm not getting quality sleep right now and I know it will just get worse.
Lotus- I'm right there with you! DD is very clear about not wanting daddy to put her to bed and wanting to nurse to sleep. I have just had to tell her no. It's hard but she understands (meaning she hears my words and knows what i'm saying, not that she empathizes) and I think if I pick a consistent "schedule" (like no nursing from midnight until sunrise) then she will get used to it. Or I hope so.
Have you tried setting some respectful limits during the day first? I think that helps a bit. Just "I know you want to nurse but milk is all done right now. You can have some water or a snack. Or you can sit and snuggle with me. (or both)"
I had to realize that i was not being selfish for needing to say no once in a while. That is so hard! We moms want to do everything we can for our kiddos but truthfully I am not at my best when my own needs aren't taken care of, therefore I am not able to be the most patient mom.
Has anyone successfully night weaned while co-sleeping?post #23 of 669/21/13 at 8:43pm
marinwoo- I agree, there needs to be respectful limits with baby. Once its no longer a supply thing or a need thing, I try to set a mental number of feedings I want to aim for in a day. Right now its 4-6. And I have night weaned successfully only once baby is in her own room and bed. This helps her not wake up every time I need water et al, and it helps me not wake up every time she rolls over. The screaming ends if I give her a gentle no, set her down, and then she can see me go straight for the fridge, where I get out her full fat greek yogurt which she loooooves. Its a great substitue right now because its sweet and rich (hello, it has more calories than ice cream), like my milk. But its got probiotics so its easier to digest than formula or cow's milk straight up.
I havn't gotten the heebie jeebies yet, when I go there I will give her her two weeks notice. I think that feeling is my body's way of saying, "duuuude, relax. You got busy and now its official, I'm busy!" Some mamas can do it for all the kids at once, I don't think I'm one of them, its just not healthy.post #24 of 669/22/13 at 6:51ampost #25 of 669/22/13 at 7:01amNewly pregnant and currently nursing my 33 month and 15 month olds. I nursed through my first pregnancy and although there were a few moments where my nipples felt on fire, I'm so thankful I didn't prematurely wean. We do the "don't offer don't refuse" with my 2.5 year old and my 15 month old nurses about 3-4x/day. I night weaned about a month ago (DS night weaned at 2) with DD and it's been great for my mental state We bedshare, so she still gets a lot of cuddles.
I plan on nursing through this pregnancy, although I do think DS is in the weaning process. He's already said something about yucky milk.
Tandem nursing with a newborn was challenging at times for me. My first were only 17 months apart and I still wanted to treat my oldest like a special sweet baby but give the newborn constant nursing on demand. We've made it through and I think they're much closer because of all that shared time together at the breast!post #26 of 669/22/13 at 7:06amOh, Dr Jay Gordon has some gentle,AP advice on night weaning while cosleeping. We've done it with both our kids and I recommend it. Google search.
I noticed with nursing the newborn and toddler my letdown was crazy and it would choke the baby half the time. I had to work on nursing her more upright so she could unlatch when the stream got too strong. The toddler wanted to nurse like a newborn everytime he saw baby nursing for the first month or two. Busy, busy!post #27 of 669/22/13 at 7:08ampost #28 of 669/23/13 at 10:35am
what is a camelbak?
the signatures under the posts are cool, aren't they? theres and entire forum about how to make one, I keep thinking I need one but havn't had time. maybe after I figure out the rcddt thing :)
it sounds like tandem nursing helps with early supply. My milk usually takes for-ever to come in (three weeks!), so that would be nice.post #29 of 669/23/13 at 1:12pmCamelbak for kids is a BPA free water bottle sold on amazon or at Target. It has a straw and large soft nipple that you have to put pressure on to drink it. I feel like it's similar to breastfeeding but not a "bottle" because it has a straw. It's helped night wean both my kids and they also drink a ton of water from it all day. They're like $17, but they last forever, don't leak and are the best water bottle we've found with a straw (we do stainless or glass for everything else)post #30 of 669/30/13 at 10:16am
I am currently nursing my 2yr dd. I nursed my ds through her pregnancy, with many boundaries! I night weaned him when I got pregnant. We also chose to continue co-sleeping, mostly because he wasn't ready to move and I didn't want him to feel like no night milkies meant he couldn't sleep with us. It worked for us. I wasn't planning on tandem nursing, but was so glad I did when my milk came in strong because the older child helps with engorgement and even plugged ducts. It also seemed to make the whole sharing mommy thing go better when he got some milk too. Again, the older child had many boundaries for nursing compared to an infant. No one knew I was tandem nursing, except for dh. I am hoping to night wean my dd now, as it makes me feel more nauseous, but she is fighting hard! Also, she is getting more clingy in the day time. Kuddos to all the mommas here! It is not an easy or popular choice, but so worthwhile.post #31 of 669/30/13 at 1:25pmpost #32 of 6610/2/13 at 11:54ampost #33 of 6610/5/13 at 7:23pm
I'm currently nursing my 28 month old son. We night weaned in July when he was 2 and found out I was pregnant, then I had an early miscarriage at 6 weeks and we kindof lapsed back into night nursing and co-sleeping after going on vacation. We just found out we are expecting again and I night weaned my son again. He sleeps in his own room, in his floor bed and has slept there for the beginning of the night with me going to nurse and soothe him if he wakes since 18 months. We used the Dr. Jay Gordon night weaning suggestions and it has worked really well each time we've night weaned.
My son is attached to nursing, we still nurse to sleep for nap and nighttime and maybe 1-2 times during the day and I don't want to force him to wean if he is not ready. I have mixed feelings about tandem nursing and its something I want to learn more about and hear other mom's experiences. I'm anxious about the newborn time and the physical and mental energy it takes to nurse a newborn and being able to have energy to also give to a nursing toddler. I just don't know if I can mentally handle it.post #34 of 6610/9/13 at 1:34pm
I am 9 weeks pregnant and my son is nursing and will be 3 years old in November. I night weaned him very gently at 27 months old and it truly was the best thing I could have done for us... his sleep and mine. I hear your concerns about tandem nursing - I feel the same way. I also worry that I wont be able to sustain a good nursing relationship with my next child because I have already been nursing for 3 years. I then started reading "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" and "How weaning happens" and both books are giving me a really great sense of what natural weaning may look like with my son. I have now decided to not decide ;) I am gently nudging him into other ways of soothing and still do not nurse at night at all (I NEED my sleep now). But he nurses to sleep at his nap and usually a few more times through the day. He only nursed twice yesterday which is a huge milestone for him... so we shall see how my growing belly and sore nipples will change our nursing relationship - but for now I am ok to just see what happens. Have you heard of either of the books I mentioned?post #35 of 6610/9/13 at 7:38pmI'm totally on the fence about continuing to nurse my 22 month old. He's down to 1-3x a day and just when he goes down for a nap or when he wakes up first thing or from his nap. He's kind of a rough nurser-he frequently bites when he falls asleep and when he's done nursing after waking up he pops off too forcefully and he is constantly digging in my belly button. I'm nervous with the ready finger to break the suction the whole time he is nursing--it's not really enjoyable for me anymore. On the other hand...the thought of help from him after the new baby comes is so tempting... (I always have engorgement issues when my milk comes in). And I hate weaning him completely just as we are heading into sick season
Ebegreen, I feel the same way about wondering how it would be energy wise and touched out wise with a newborn and nursing toddler.post #36 of 6610/10/13 at 2:18pmpost #37 of 6610/10/13 at 7:15pmpost #38 of 6610/13/13 at 10:35amI am currently nursing my 25 month old. She is down to nursing at bedtime and maybe once or twice thru the night. My nipples are so sensitive, it is not a very joyful experience any longer. We are taking it one day at a time, letting her be the guide. I can see her weaning herself soon, but wanting to nurse once baby arrives. She's very into "my Mommy" when anybody comes near me!post #39 of 6610/14/13 at 1:54pmpost #40 of 6610/17/13 at 1:21pmMy little guy(23 months old) is done with nursing. Waaahhhh He nursed two mornings ago for the last time and then has refused since then. it's a blessing that weaning was completely easy on him and I'm ok to be done. I just with I would have known that two mornings ago it was our last curled-up-in-bed nursing session. Definitely bittersweet. Looking forward to my new nursling in May :*)
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