My ex and I have been separated almost 3 years and legally divorced since last May. We went through court with just a counselor and everything went smooth but at the time my ex was unemployed and living at his parents and had just been in a bad car accident so when it came to child support we agreed that in lieu of payments he would just take over the car payment we still owed on and when he came into more fulltime work and got back on his feet we would reevaluate child support.
Well it's been 16 months and he is still only working part time. Also, shortly after the divorce he moved in with a lady and now they are getting married in a week and moving into a new house. My question is should I push for him to help out a little more and go back to court to reevaluate the CS or be happy with what I'm getting? the car payment (a minivan) turns out to be about $300 a month and we have two kids together. Is this all I can hope for with him only part time? It just doesn't seem like unless he has a little legal push telling him to get it together he will never get a full time job and start helping out with the kids a little more.
I should add I do have the car while he pays the loan but it is a mini van and I had to get another smaller sedan to use b/c I have such a long commute to work and needed something better on gas. so I pay for that, rent, utilities, all food and clothing for the kids, anything they need for school, lessons or sports they want to do, etc. So I definitely spend more then 300$ a month caring for our kids! I work two jobs and most of the time am living paycheck to paycheck, I'm trying to move up and give the kids more but I feel very alone in this and am thinking I should be getting a little more 50-50 help from the ex. I know he could help more if he just tried a little harder and worked at least full time, but like I said I think maybe if he had some legal motivation it would work better then me asking him if he is going to get a job soon!
So I guess I'm asking if I went to court and tried to get more help would the courts do anything to pursued him into working more?