Sorry for the rough day, Jilgayle. I hope today is better...it is exhausting.
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~Weekly Chat Thread Sep 3nd-8th~ - Page 3post #42 of 729/8/13 at 4:43pmThread Starter
Oh Jill, I remember those days. And there are more in my near future.
One thing that helped was putting us all in the bath. Everyone felt better and bonus was that we were clean, even if nothing else was. We would nurse, have bubbles, add hot water, use bath crayons...
We call out cloth night diaper night underwear and that seems to make a real difference.post #43 of 729/9/13 at 6:34amQuote:Originally Posted by Jillgayle
Ugggg! I think we are in the 3 week growth spurt! Although really is there a week they're not growing!!?! Yesterday was by far the worst day. DS1 and 2 plus myself were all in tears by 7 pm. Babe nursed all day. Literally. But was inconsolable, until I gave him a bottle of breast milk followed by 2 oz of formula in the sns at 8 pm. I could not put him down at all. DS1 had meltdowns the final one being over wearing a diaper to bed. He didn't want to but we haven't night trained yet. I think everyone was exhausted from babes crying:(
Big hugs! I've had a few days like this. It's hard. I hope the next day is better.post #44 of 729/9/13 at 9:23ampost #45 of 729/9/13 at 10:18amHi all! Nothing remarkable here. Clara is pretty easy as long as there is a boob in her mouth and you didn't try to put her down anywhere to go to the bathroom. Lol... She is a bit spitty as well, but seems to be better with some very extensive burping. When we get lazy about it, that is when it comes back out. She tends to overdo it on the milk too - I know, breast fed babies are supposed to stop eating when they are full, but she loooooves to just hang out at the boob. Trying to find a paci she likes to give my nipples and her tummy a bit of a break once in a while.
First day alone here too, so far so good, we have lots of leftovers and snacks in the house thanks to friends, so I am keeping fed. And with DS in 5K, I get most of the day to myself. I am loving the age gap, it has been a pretty smooth transition.
Hope everyone's bumps in the road smooth out soon!post #46 of 729/9/13 at 12:35pmThings are going okay here- I'm really sad that we had to put down my cat today. That's our second cat in 6 months. :-( My husband was awesome and came home from work at lunch to take her in to the vet. I told him I just couldn't handle it, especially with a newborn and 3 year old in tow. Cleo was my first "adult" pet, and she was such a fun-spirited cat. The only thing that slowed her down was the nasal tumor that she developed 5 months ago that progressively took over her face. I'm relieved that she isn't suffering anymore, but it's also so strange to think that we don't have cats anymore.post #47 of 729/9/13 at 12:40pmQuote:Originally Posted by GISDiva
Hi all! Nothing remarkable here. Clara is pretty easy as long as there is a boob in her mouth and you didn't try to put her down anywhere to go to the bathroom. Lol... She is a bit spitty as well, but seems to be better with some very extensive burping. When we get lazy about it, that is when it comes back out. She tends to overdo it on the milk too - I know, breast fed babies are supposed to stop eating when they are full, but she loooooves to just hang out at the boob.
Same issue here. He is like a fois gras goose except he force feeds himself.
My incision hurts, but otherwise, aside from sleep deprivation and the never ending laundry, Im ok. DH is getting annoyed w my mother. He runs a far more efficient home than she does and is having trouble with her peculiar and interfering ways. She, rightfully so, chastised DH for leaving baby alone on the changing table, and he is terrified that she'll fall again while holding baby. Im of the opinion that both are risks that need to be minimised. (I insisted my mother go to Dr and they said she is fine.) I'm very grateful for 85% of her help, and livid by the remaining 15%. Not really sure what to do, particularly as I may need her to extend her stay until Dr gives me go ahead w driving.post #48 of 729/9/13 at 3:14pmpost #49 of 729/9/13 at 3:47pm
Oh coffee! Sorry to hear about your cat. That is always so hard.
cardigan, I just keep reminding myself how easy things will be once all of our relatives go home and we stop having so much "help" around here! They have all truly been helpful in many ways, but when they aren't being helpful they are busy driving us crazy! Just one more week, just one more week, just one more week, just one more week....post #50 of 729/9/13 at 4:18pmpost #51 of 729/9/13 at 6:51pmpost #52 of 729/9/13 at 8:23pmI'm sorry about your kitty Coffee!
My mom has been with us since the end of July, but i have to say I'm really glad. Annoying mom behavior and all. We are moving in about a week and the baby won't let me pack, or do anything for longer than 5 min. I'd be screwed without her help right now!post #53 of 729/9/13 at 9:06pmCan you over feed a breastfeed baby? Mine has spent 4+ hrs nursing today. 15 feeds and counting. Some are 10 min long, others are 40 (about 30 one side, 10 other). He is 8 days old. Not too much time "hanging out" but most of it is active nursing. Im using an app to track things, as otherwise in sleepy fog I would forget to take my meds/ which side I nursed on/etc.post #54 of 729/9/13 at 9:18pm
2 weeks postpartum here. My 3 year old went back to school today and my husband went back to work too. The day went well--we all made it out of the house fed, dressed, happy and on time so I will call it a success. My ODD is doing so awesome and I could not be happier with how she has adjusted. Baby is doing awesome so far too. I know she may change at any time but for now she sleeps, grunts, eats, stares into our eyes and goes back to sleep. She wakes me up at night with her grunts. We gave her a bath tonight and the girl didn't even bat an eye during or after! Love her.
Inlaws are in town. They are NOT the cooking/cleaning/helpful type. But the best thing they have been doing is giving lots of attention to my 3 yr old. Thank goodness for my husband. He take care of EVERYTHING. Cooking, baking, cleaning, playing, grilling, laundry. Everything.
I am finally feeling some relief down below. I still have the hemorrhoids but they are not as bad. That was definitely the worst part of recovery after a vaginal birth! But since I got to have a VBAC, I feel like I want to have 10 more babies.
Feeling emotional at times--mostly happiness but also just getting emotional watching my ODD because she has changed and matured so much in just 2 weeks. I am so proud of her. Also emotional because these two weeks have flown by and it is my last baby. I keep wanting to savor every moment.
The most stressful part right now is my mother. It would take forever to explain it all so I will be brief. She lives in the opposite part of the country of us and we see her about once or twice a year. last year left a terrible man after being with him for 14 years (I was so shocked and proud that she finally left him). But now she lives in a low income housing because she only has a PT job and little job experience. She has NO money. NONE. NO retirement, no health insurance. She really does not have many friends and her sister is the main person in her life who lives 1.5 hours from her. My sister lives near her but they have a strained relationship and my brother just moved here. So basically she is very lonely. She has a history of depression and I have noticed since I've had the baby, she has been emotional and her life seems to revolve around us and her grandchildren from afar. We got in this silly fight today and she makes everything about her and turns it into a pity party. I know she just has nothing but time on her hands to think. I feel so sorry for her but I have no control over her life. All her choices through out the years have led her to this point and here I am, a mother of two. I can't really help her or make her happy. It just sucks because I get so upset and worked up when I think of her and her life. Sorry if I am not making sense. It is just so hard to have parents that I feel like I have to parent or when they are lonely. My father is the same way. So hard!
Dreading the hospital bills. My husband had to take a bunch of time off unpaid too and I am not working right now. Trying to stay calm about it all.
Okay, enough about me. Now I am going to read about how you all are doing. It is nice to know we all have had babies around the same time and may be dealing with similar things.post #55 of 729/10/13 at 5:48amThread Starter
Oregon sorry for the drama. I am glad your inlaws can make your older child feel special.
Cardigan. You can not overfeed a baby at the breast. They will take as much as they want and not a suck more. That can be more than their tummy can hold, and then they very efficiently send it back up. Most of my kids feeds are under 10 minutes, but they do have their 40 minute love in feeds too. Or the wait I was not done come back 10 minutes later ones.
Coffee, sorry about your cat.
We are really settled in to three. We went apple picking this weekend in Michigan and the kids did great. Monkey was in the middle in the car (I got three car seats properly installed in the back of a Zipcar, which I have worried about for a year) and could help the rear facing girls. It was super hot, but everyone had fun picking a few apples and C slept in my new gauze wrap the whole time. At the end I felt hot and tired, but not any more sore than I would have last year. Sunday our church had a little welcome celebration with a great book about three little bears, cake and singing the songs my big kids picked, Happy Birthday and Twinkle Twinkle. Yesterday I got more laundry done and folded and upstairs than I have in almost nine months.
Of course the kids are not sleeping in their beds and I keep getting kicked, but nothing is perfect.post #56 of 729/10/13 at 8:19amCoffee, I'm sorry to hear about your cat. That's really tough.
Leigh, the apple picking sounds like a lot of fun! We're planning on doing that soon, too!
Oregon, I'm sorry about your mom. Maybe things will improve as she gets used to being free of a bad guy. I get emotional watching my older child too. I cried at the playground the other day wondering when he got so mature.
Cardigan, sounds like normal nursing to me!
My first day alone with the kids yesterday wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, though I did break down and cry a few times. DS is going through a phase of not listening and just laughing when asked to do something. I think we've got to work on discipline, it's just not working right now.
Kind of stressed right now because some relatives from across the country are arriving today (they'll be staying near my parents though) and I'm sure there will be expectations that I will drive the 2 kids 50 miles to visit. If I do drive down to visit, I'll have to time the drive home for rush hour so I can pick up DH from work. I don't even know if I'm supposed to drive yet (cesarean).post #57 of 729/10/13 at 12:59pm
cardigan, It can totally feel like a never-ending-nurse-a-thon! That was how DS1 was. In fact he'd probably still be like that if I let him. Our new LO is a pretty good nurser, but I get longer breaks than I ever did the first time around.
oregon, My MIL just left and she sounds like a mix between your inlaws (not into cooking, cleaning etc, but good with DS1) and your mother (lonely, somewhat egocentric and often childlike). It was a real challenge, but it meant so much to her and DS1. I feel like the best was to deal with my MIL is to be as I am to DS1, try and be a 'pillar of calm'. I just take everything really slowly and try not to take anything personally, because she takes everything personally. Anyway, I hope that you feel supported and can keep the stress monster from creeping in; it sounds like you have an amazing DH! Hugs from afar!
Leigh, I want to go apple picking! That sounds like so much fun. How many weeks PP are you? Will I ever be there??? I feel so ouchy still. And with all three children... rock star!
mamapigeon, We are having listening problems with DS1 right now too. It started when mu parents were in town right before DS2 was born. I think they let him get away with a lot and talk his way around having to do anything. Now when we ask or tell him to do something he starts with, "Well, actually, I think that maybe instead..." or some other ridiculous nonsense.post #58 of 729/10/13 at 3:54pmQuote:Originally Posted by Mama505
mamapigeon, We are having listening problems with DS1 right now too. It started when mu parents were in town right before DS2 was born. I think they let him get away with a lot and talk his way around having to do anything. Now when we ask or tell him to do something he starts with, "Well, actually, I think that maybe instead..." or some other ridiculous nonsense.
We get the "wellllll, actually...", too! I feel like my sanity flew out the window a few months ago when DS became faster than me and now he's just used to being able to push my buttons. It's all tantrums and teasing these days. How are you dealing with it, Mama? Your son is 3.5, right? The worst here is when DS starts trying to attack me (bite, hit, and pinch) while I'm holding the baby.post #59 of 729/10/13 at 4:14pmThread Starterpost #60 of 729/10/13 at 4:19pmAdd another one to the club with older children who aren't following instructions and ere being generally difficult. My 5yo very bright boy has always been challenging and remanding of my attention, but we finally found an approach that works and had his best tro weeks ever. Then hub was born and all process is out the window, and we're having his worst 2 weeks ever. He won't listen at all and us breaking every rule he's ever learned. Oh, and now he's hitting people at pre-school. Breaks me down that I can't give him the positive attention I'd like to and they he's getting s reputation for b3ing a difficult kid. When he's behaving, he's an incredible little person, but when he's at his worst, he's an absolute shocker. :/ The hardest part of having a baby has been his behavior.
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