I stuck it out through pregnancy even though it hurt like hell when I had no milk. On advice of my midwife, we had scheduled nursing times three times a day (morning, when i got home from work, bed) and I only let him nurse for a minute or two because of the pain. It worked well and nursing was a non issue. He often forgot to ask.
Now with Baby (7 weeks) it doesn't hurt anymore though it feels so creepy that I still can't do it long. We still have our scheduled nursing times, and I still don't nurse him for long - maybe 5 minutes but probably closer to 3. But, either because of the milk or because seeing the baby nurse is a trigger, he pleads to nurse all day long (I never say yes outside our scheduled time) and sometimes fuses and cries when I say our scheduled nursing time is up. Sometimes I think it because I am withholding, so I'll decide to nurse at our scheduled time till he wants to stop, but by minute 7 or 10 he is still sucking away, and I can't take it anymore, so ill say "ok that;s it," and he is just as fussy as when I call stop at 3 minutes.
I'm ready to wean him, but have no idea how and it isn't a good time because of baby and him starting preschool. He's three.
1) does tandem nursing get better?
2) when will he wean if I stick to my plan of letting him self wean?
3) if I decide to wean now or maybe in a few months, how do I do it without rejecting him?