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post #21 of 41
I suggest you chart your cycle for a while and then go for it on the early end of ovulation (if you want a girl). We did this and now have a healthy 7 mo old girl.
post #22 of 41
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Originally Posted by Selissa View Post

 

 and we dtd 7x that day.

 

Really? Wow. That sounds too uncomfortably sore and more like work than fun. Ha! During the months (years really) of our first TTC period before baby#1, we tried all the advice...to DTD every other day (before and during Ov) but the most we did it was 5 days in a row (more than once actually)...with no result.

 

Besides...the reproductive specialist we were seeing said that having sex too often when TTC (the week of Ov) can be counter productive because the man doesn't have enough time in between to make more (best quality) sperm. Something like that. This was back in 2010 so I can't recall EXACT words here. I mean...I guess it didn't matter in your case...you got pregnant, right? Just saying. :rotflmao

post #23 of 41
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Originally Posted by coffeegirl View Post

 

I have two girls. Both were conceived while charting, and were conceived relatively early in the cycle. I don't know my exact ovulation day, but I can tell you we waited till I was off my period for maybe a day, then started trying. And two girls.

 

 

Oh I am totally gonna do that....start TTC and DTD the day after period ends and as often as possible (at least every other day if not every day) up until I get the pos.gif OPK test and then do the opposite and NOT have sex. We shall see what happens!

 

I'm excited...I only have 1 BCP left and then it's au naturale and so October is a skip month (to get my body back to it's normal self and prep my uterus) and just track my cycle (using OPK kit test) and hopefully NOT get pregnant that month (gonna have to either lock the door on my DH or force him to use condoms! Ha. Then....November is the month to see if we get lucky. :goodvibes 

 

I would just track my cycle for a few months before actually TRYING to get pregnant like many of you have suggested however we have been through infertility before (it would take 3 months to a year to get pregnant each time....and the first 2 were miscarriages) so I can't really afford to lose any precious time "getting at it" so to speak. I hope that makes sense. And like I said, I don't REALLY care if we end up with another boy or a girl (it's not the end of the world or anything) but it would just be nice to have a girl this time around.


Edited by MountainMama2Be - 9/14/13 at 6:52am
post #24 of 41
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I gotta say that based soley on the posts in this thread, the numbers are showing that the majority of you have indeed got the desired sex of your baby by timing (15) opposed to getting the opposite sex (5) of what you were hoping for.

 

I'm going to do another talley notes2.gif on other sites/discussions soon and post the results here but I am thinking that they too will show that there is some truth to the Shettles/timing method.

 

Numbers don't lie folks.....that's 15 to 5!

post #25 of 41

When we were trying for our first we did it on and after ovulation and got a boy. I am wanting a girl this time so we did it a week and again a few days before ovulation and not sure if we are pregnant yet so cant tell you the sex for awhile or if at all depends on if we get a bfp

post #26 of 41

I'm pretty skeptical of the timing method. 15 to 5 seems convincing, sure, but that is a really small (and not to mention self-selecting) sample size. When I was pregnant with DD #1, every single one of my 7 or 8 friends who were pregnant at the same time all had girls, except for 1. I don't think it was statistically convincing, though; just a coincidence brought on by a small sample size.

 

I conceived both girls the day before or the day of ovulation (not totally sure as to timing). So I guess that's 15 to 7...

 

ETA that I hope you get the result you want, OP. I desperately wanted a girl with my first pregnancy (though we weren't trying any special timing), and was thrilled to get one this time around, too.

post #27 of 41

Yeah, I'm pretty sure my first was conceived the day before or the day of ovulation, and she's a girl. Don't know about the one on the way yet. And this is definitely a self-selecting sample because people who didn't use the method or for whom it didn't work probably are less likely to read this thread or post on it.

post #28 of 41
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I'm pretty skeptical of the timing method. 15 to 5 seems convincing, sure, but that is a really small (and not to mention self-selecting) sample size. When I was pregnant with DD #1, every single one of my 7 or 8 friends who were pregnant at the same time all had girls, except for 1. I don't think it was statistically convincing, though; just a coincidence brought on by a small sample size.

 

I conceived both girls the day before or the day of ovulation (not totally sure as to timing). So I guess that's 15 to 7...

Thank goodness someone pointed this out. I was biting my tongue. This is a very select sample. Sure, timing works -- for about half the cases!

 

OP, I also hope you get what you want -- if you are serious about trying for a girl, there are really good methods out there and it is possible. But if you want to take a carefree approach, that's cool too, just realize statistics are not necessarily on your side! Probability of boy is 52%, given the rate of boys/girls (more boys than girls born naturally in the population).

post #29 of 41

I'd definitely look into other methods of genderswaying. From what I've heard, timing is based on flawed science. I've actually seen it suggested that going longer between ejaculation sways pink, so the traditional TTC method naturally sways blue because couples have sex so often. Again: these methods are not 100%. The best odds I've seen for genderswaying is 65%- so it still fails more than 1/3 of the time. Not exactly great odds. I have to admit, though, after looking into gender swaying- we were both massively shocked to have a male baby, but everything we'd done actually swayed blue.

 

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Originally Posted by porcelina View Post
 

Thank goodness someone pointed this out. I was biting my tongue. This is a very select sample. Sure, timing works -- for about half the cases!

 

OP, I also hope you get what you want -- if you are serious about trying for a girl, there are really good methods out there and it is possible. But if you want to take a carefree approach, that's cool too, just realize statistics are not necessarily on your side! Probability of boy is 52%, given the rate of boys/girls (more boys than girls born naturally in the population).

I actually question if boys are naturally born more often- because, from what I've seen, most of the TTC methods sway blue. Part of the genderdreaming method for swaying blue is the "High Everything" diet- high(er) calories, high nutrient, etc. Most people who are planning to conceive take prenatal vitamins, get enough calories (the low calories that sway pink is within dieting, not keep-your-weight-steady, range), etc to ensure a healthy baby while also trying more often- generally every few days. Assuming that the logic behind their genderswaying methodology is sound, this would sway blue. People are more likely to have a baby when they're TTC than when they aren't, but genderswaying isnt' an exact science, so the slightly higher probability of boys may be because we're swaying blue without knowing it.

 

From what I can tell (I could be wrong), that statistic is based on this study- which is only based on Europe and North America, in other words, primarily first world countries where most people have access to birth control, knowledge of contraceptions/etc, and are able to have a healthy to high caloric intake. It's possible that third world countries have the opposite probabiltiy- although I've seen no studies so this is pure speculation based solely on the idea that gender swaying has an effect.

 

I'd also like to point out that, in that very study, there was a difference in sex ratios by geographic location- "Significantly more boys were born in southern countries (table) than in central Europe (χ2=57, P<0.0001) or the Nordic countries (χ2=8.8, P=0.003; χ2 for trend=120, P<0.0001). The difference between central Europe and the Nordic countries was not significant... A low male to female ratio was found in Mexico, a higher ratio in the United States, and an even higher ratio in Canada (χ2 for trend=57, P<0.0001)... In Europe, significantly more male babies were born in southern latitudes than in northern latitudes, whereas the reverse was found in North America. We are unable to explain these findings, which do not support a temperature related effect."  So it's not that every single time we DTD there's a 52% chance of it being male, there are other factors.

 

This actually suggests that genderswaying can have an effect because there are generally differences in diet/habit/etc from country to country and culture to culture. This, however, does not give any indication of WHAT effects the likelihood of one sex over the other. Also, again, the best statistics I've seen from genderswaying that actually had a chance of being statistically significant was still only a 65% success rate- so this isn't exactly foolproof.

post #30 of 41
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Originally Posted by MountainMama2Be View Post
 

Numbers don't lie folks.....that's 15 to 5!

Unfortunately, numbers do lie if the sample size is too small and the samples are not randomly selected.  There's no way of demonstrating this without a very large randomized sample, which is very hard to do in the real world.  I can understand the attraction to gender selection though.  But 20 self-selected individuals would never produce a statistically significant result.

post #31 of 41

My last three babies I charted "religiously" and based off ovulation they should each be the OPPOSITE gender from what they are! lol 

post #32 of 41

I read the book by Dr. Shettles a few months ago.We already have 2 boys and would like a girl. After that I decided I didn't want any more kids, my second can be a bit of a wild card at times.... then I changed my mind again so in September we followed the "girl" method. Having sex every day from when the period ended until 4 days before ovulation. I figured it would take a few months to work since you stop having sex so far from the most fertile day. But I just got my positive pregnancy test the other day. Just got to sit tight for awhile now I guess! I didn't find out the gender with my second pregnancy but I think we will this time. I need to mentally prepare myself! So...baby will be coming in early June. Such a nice time of the year to have a baby!

post #33 of 41
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Originally Posted by shenanegans View Post
 

But I just got my positive pregnancy test the other day. Just got to sit tight for awhile now I guess! I didn't find out the gender with my second pregnancy but I think we will this time.

Can you please post the baby's sex when you find out. I'm following this thread and am dying to know if you scored a girl. :-)

post #34 of 41
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I'm officially on AF this week so it's almost DTD time! I'm hoping for a girl (as I've stated earlier) so I'm gonna get busy next week! LOL. I might just keep going around + OPK time though....just because I wanna get preggers ASAP and like I said I don't really care what it is...I just want a healthy full term pregnancy and adorable little babyf.gif# 2.

post #35 of 41

I was reading around that Shettles actually had it backwards and that more girls were conceived immediately prior to ovulation than boys.

post #36 of 41
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Originally Posted by WifeofAnt View Post
 

I was reading around that Shettles actually had it backwards and that more girls were conceived immediately prior to ovulation than boys.

Oh my! well I know with my second, we conceived our son on the day of ovulation. I also took lots of calcium prior to TTC this time which is also supposed to help if you want a girl. I will keep you posted! We will probably know sometime in January. 

post #37 of 41

We ended up finding out the gender. It's a girl!

 

We have 5 babies. We have used a modified shettles twice. Both of those times resulted in the conception of girls while the others, conceived right at ovulation, were all boys. We're either really lucky or the method works for us. 

post #38 of 41
We have our ultrasound booked for Feb 6th so I will keep you posted! Only 2 more weeks!
post #39 of 41

Yes, I had two boys (23 months apart), both conceived while charting, but not using Shettles method (we were just trying for babies of any sex.) For our third we successfully timed for a girl. If I recall correctly, we tried 4 days prior to estimated ovulation.

I though for sure that conception didn't work, because we refrained from trying again any closer to, or after, ovulation, but it happened! Then I was convinced, the entire pregnancy, right up to delivery, it was going to be a boy (no testing or ultrasound during the pregnancy), but we got our girl. :-)

 

Michelle

post #40 of 41
I tried the method for a girl, we already have 2 boys and we found out yesterday that it is another boy. I feel really disappointed and sad as I can't imagine having any more kids after this. I always imagined I would have a daughter, I have 2 sisters a wonderful mom and so many amazing aunts I can't believe I will never have a daughter. I also feel terrible that I feel this way at all. The baby is healthy. But I am afraid 3 boys will just make me insane. I don't think anyone understands. I haven't even been able to talk to anyone about it, I just told my family by text because if I start to talk about it, I just start crying. Ugh.
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