my son was un-named at birth, due to a very abusive biological sperm donor. he was adopted through catholic social services in tampa, florida, located on bay to bay blvd. date of birth is 1/27/1982. mother listed as mary brennan or zimmerman. born at st. joseph's hospital, tampa, fl. adopted just a few days later by a couple who was waiting for his birth. i have done searches until i can't see anymore, and they all want money to do a search. i don't have any money. i am disabled and lonely. please help.
desperately searching for my son
Hi elizabeth, sorry to hear of your sadness. This forum isn't really about helping connect birth moms and kids, its for support for adoptive/foster moms. I can leave your post up for a little bit just to see if anyone has any ideas to give you about how to pursue this without having to pay a lot.
Welcome to Mothering though!
The best thing to do is contact Catholic Social Services in Tampa. The social worker might be able to find the file and from there, reach out to the adoptive family and give them your contact information. Since the "baby" is now an adult, he can choose to contact you. It's a long shot, but it's the only way to find out for sure rather than guessing at some stranger's info online.
The family sent pics thru catholic charities. Some of the pics had the name of a pharmacy on the back with a store number. The bm called the corporate number and got the location of the store that printed the pics. Once she had the name of the town, she searched Facebook for that town and the parents first names. took her like 10 mins start to finish.
I know this is a slightly different situation, but...
My biological father got my Mother and also another woman pregnant in MA and then left for CA, where he proceeded to get another woman pregnant with my twin brothers, dumped her, stayed with another woman in WA long enough to have two more boys, two years apart, and then got another woman pregnant with my youngest paternal brother in AZ a couple years after that. This all happened roughly between 1975 and 1982. I managed to, through Facebook search, track down all but the two middle brothers (their Mother left the country with them). It took a lot of work and persistence, and about 4 years, but I found out the whereabouts of all but two- MA sibling was aborted, CA twins, one was stillborn, the other I got to know through phone calls and we didn't have much in common, so it fizzled out and my youngest one is my very good friend on Facebook now. Leave no stone overturned, leave messages with info on the adoption on any website, in any forum it applies, with an email address to get a hold of you, and the hardest part, be patient.
Good luck. I hope you find your son.