my 3 yo daughter has come to our bed for the second half of the night since she turned 2. she's always been a wild, thrashing around in bed, really tough to bedshare with kind of gal.
but the last couple of weeks have pushed me beyond my limit. she comes into our bed anywhere from 4 to 6 am, and thrashes around awake for over an hour before either falling back to sleep or just getting up for the day (we get up at 6:30). even if she eventually falls back asleep (which has been rare lately), then i get insomnia and can't fall back asleep.
she's not sick and doesn't have anything ailing her, no major changes recently, etc.
i've started to just get up and go sleep in her room/bed once she's done her first few thrashes in our bed (since then i know she's not going to go peacefully back to sleep for a long time if ever).
however, i'm resentful of this solution because:
1) i am fully awake by that point
2) i rarely fall back asleep in her bed - insomnia kicks in
3) i feel i should get to rest/sleep peacefully in my bed all night if i want to
my best guess is that she maybe just needs her own space to relax/sleep at this point. especially since hubby reports that once i leave the room, she falls asleep pretty fast. she's agreed to try a palette on our bedrooom floor tonight. we'd tried a palette several months ago, and it worked for a while, but then it stopped working for a few reasons. i'm also strongly considering coming up with a consequence - "If you wake me up when you come in our room, you will lose xyz privilege the next day."
i wish she could just be a sweet, snuggly cosleeper that i often read about. but she never has been, so i realize it's not going to happen at this point. thanks for reading my grumpy/sleepy vent, and i'd welcome any feedback.
Edited by pamplona - 9/5/13 at 7:16am