Originally Posted by MarieWalter
I know it can be a can of worms, so let's all be nice to each other, mm? :)
I am glad to nurse F to sleep and don't mind night-nursing either (usually 2-4 times, sometimes just once per night). However, she takes a looooong, loooooooong time to nurse to sleep - sometimes 90 minutes or more. If I try to slip away, she'll stay asleep for 10-15 minutes and then wake back up wanting to nurse more.
We didn't introduce a pacifier and she won't take one during the day; at night sometimes I can pop one in her mouth, but it falls out in ~5 minutes so it's not really easier than going in and nursing her back down. We co-sleep, if that's relevant.
I thought maybe she wasn't getting as much sucking as she needed during the day, but even if I lay with her for her entire afternoon nap, letting her stay latched on (I snooze then, usually, too), it doesn't seem to affect bedtime.
And she's definitely not short on milk - she's super hefty!
Ideas? Thoughts? "Hang in there"s? "Me too"s?
Meadow has always slept very well DURING the night, but had difficulty getting off to sleep.
She is going through a growth spurt now, and it's even harder! She's doing that thing where she needs me to stay with her- mostly latched on- and my poor boobies are empty and it feels just dumb. Grrr.
When I do manage to sneak off, she wakes up within 10-15, so she's sleep deprived, then is overtired and has a hard time sleeping in the evening!!! She'll also go to sleep in Moby or car, but I don't think it's a good idea to habituate those ways of going to sleep...
Just keep on swimming, I suppose. I've tried letting her fuss a bit to see if she can fall asleep on her own, but I don't do 'let her cry' past the 'I'm tired' cry. Once it gets too sad, lonely, or panicky, that's it for me.
Some babes have an easier time self-soothing than others. Also, they go through stages- I'm seeing 3 months as such a, "Holy cow! There's so much going on in the world I'm just now noticing! It's kind of over-stimulating but I can't stop looking!" phase ... I'm sure it'll get better. Or worse ;)
Meadow's big sis was the same. Hoping to have Meadow be a bit less boobie-crazy. But big sis is 5 now and has been sleeping alone for a year or more ... there is light in the tunnel, but it's mighty far away ;)