This is actually timely for me because I am thinking about this week, DH's 3-day trip, and what I do all day when DH doesn't get home until late (thankfully rare!) I need to figure it all out!
Here's a "sample" day-- they vary a bit in content and DEFINITELY vary in exact timing since I feed on demand and have very few hard deadlines for anything (plus, her naps are anywhere from 20-45 minutes, occasionally as long as 1.5 hours, especially if I nap with her), but I am just giving a "for instance." (This would be one of my "long" days-- MWF. TTH, the content is similar, but I switch baby care with DH ~every 2 hours, and weekends with DH are, naturally, somewhat different.) You know I run my own business from home.
Okay... She wakes up between 6:30-7:30 these days. We'll say...
7:00-- Wake up, potty, change from a nighttime (fleece/stay dry) diaper into a regular cotton daytime diaper or training pants. The nighttime diaper is always dry, so we set that aside to reuse. Clean baby nether regions and face with rinse-free cleanser and slather her with coconut oil, etc. I change into something halfway presentable-- "yoga pants," etc., and put a top and maybe Baby Legs on baby. We chat and maybe read a book in bed, visit with Kitty and/or Daddy, then make our way to the sun room, where I will drink some caffeinated beverage and eat a granola bar or something easy. She plays independently with her baby gym (hanging toys), either on her back or sitting... She's not crawling yet, so I think that limits her independent play a little... Also, we don't have an exersaucer, jumper, bouncer, etc. Anyway, she plays independently for 5-15 minutes while I drink/eat/do basic inbox-clearing on my phone or Kindle Fire. Then semi-independent play (sitting/pulling up) while I spot her/sit behind her but also look at the 'net or email.
(I should note here that we actively avoid all screen time for Miss L, so I don't let her look at my phone-- see how much longer we can keep them from her!-- or computer while I check emails or whatever. The only exceptions are 1-2x/week Skype with her grandparents-- obviously directly interactive, she recognizes them now and talks to them-- and she will see my boring order screen on the computer when she "helps" me pack orders for my business. I think baby would be a lot more "along for the ride" if I A) were chasing after an older child, because at least that's "interesting" to her, and/or B) my business weren't 90% staring at a computer screen and typing, because even if I were okay with that screentime, she wants to move, so she won't have it anyway.)
7:45 (again, just for example)-- Nursing. She really isn't hungry when she just wakes up anymore, but will get so within 30-60 minutes. I might clip her nails while she nurses-- I have to do it at LEAST 2x/week!
7:55-- We might play/read a bit more, or if Daddy isn't in a big hurry, I will give baby to him and shower then.
8:15-- Maybe potty. She's going a lot less frequently these days.
8:20-- Into the sling to "help" pack outgoing packages. Yes, it takes longer than without her, but I really consider any "work" I can get done during her waking hours to be a bonus. She does well with this now and something in her hands to distract her, but we'll see how much longer I can get away with this!
9:15-- Sleepy baby (she usually only goes 2-3 hours awake, as she naps 4x/day), so I ease her out of the sling and put her in her sidecarred crib for a nap. If I nap with her because the previous night's sleep wasn't great, I will do it for this first nap of the day and it will last longer with me by her side. But let's say I don't. I grab something more substantial to eat at this time, answer customer emails and maybe catch up on FB and MDC, etc.
9:45-- Baby wakes, potty time. Also probably nursing time.
10:00-- We get ready for an outing and I stick her on my back in the mei tai. Usually we go to the mailbox/post office and run an errand (usually not super-essential, just to get out of the house). Sometimes it's closer-by, sometimes we walk all the way downtown in our near-suburb mini-city (about 30 minutes to the middle of downtown). Let's say we do that. She will stay awake most of the time and charm the folks in the shops and whatnot...
11:30-- Nap #2-- baby falls asleep on my back.
12:00-- Home, baby still asleep, I am checking email or whatever on my phone.
12:15-- Baby wakes up, potty time.
12:20-- Hungry baby! Nursing.
12:30-- Maybe some chores (mostly laundry or general pick-up-- DH does most other chores), with baby in the sling. In a way, that's independent play time, IMO...
1:15-- Potty or diaper change (we do use a few diapers a day-- don't want to give the wrong impression!)
1:20-- Reading, playing in the bedroom, etc.
1:45-- Let's go for a walk in the mei tai (or possibly jog in the jogging stroller)!
2:30-- Sleepy baby down for another nap. I eat a little something more, customer emails, possibly get a little website work done.
3:05-- Wake up, potty time, fool around for a couple minutes, nursing.
3:20-- Chores while she's in the sling or maybe some independent play for her.
3:45-- DH gets home, we all chat, etc. I would generally shower here if I didn't get to in the morning, as I would rather not do it while it is just me and her and she is napping (since I like longer showers and she takes shorter naps).
4:00-- Work while DH has baby-- usually I'll eat his leftover lunch (his work pays!) DH and baby play or do chores together. Potty or diaper change in there-- I don't know where.
5:10-- More work while DH has baby. She likely naps for 30 minutes, sometimes on DH, or he will put her down and do his own work. Wakes up from nap and potties with DH, all while I am working.
6:00-- We all make dinner together, chat, etc.
6:30-- We'd like to really eat the whole meal together, but usually DH and I aren't that hungry yet. Instead, baby in highchair while we share her fruit or steamed/grilled veggies which will be part of our later meal. Baby LOVES to play with solid foods, and this really keeps her occupied while we watch her/talk to her or chat with each other.
6:55-- Enough of that-- she may signal for potty time (we usually only take her when she "tells" us she has to go, BTW, unless it's right upon waking). Also, time for baby bath! (We used to only bathe her 2x/week, but now with the messy solids, it's every night, though not with soap if she's not sticky because she has a tendency toward baby eczema.) Baths are with one of us nekkid in the tub with her and one of us helping from the outside. We switch. We do the actual cleaning quickly and then play with her.
7:20-- Baby out of bath and ready for bed (coconut oil, nighttime diaper, sleep sack). Depending on how tired she is-- we try to tire her out!-- she will nurse to sleep from 10-50 minutes, while DH generally keeps us company (unless he is finishing making dinner or something). This is in our bed, FTR.
8:00-- Baby asleep, DH and I have dinner and either chat or watch a movie/TV episode on Netflix in the sun room. Also a glass of wine/beer/scotch, since baby will not actually get any more milk for at least 3 more hours. I will usually have to run into the room 1-2x over the next 3 hours as baby will stir and need 5 minutes of suckling to drift back off (sometimes she will settle for cuddles from DH). But I'd still rather have to do this than go to sleep with her at 7-8 pm! At some point, I retire to my office to plan my next day.
11:00 pm-- We go to sleep, joining baby in bed. She will actively nurse sometime around then (she never really wakes up, only half-wakes with closed eyes). Then she will nurse 1-2 more times, who knows what time? (I don't want to know!) But I am never 100% awake for those sessions, and am just side-lying, so it's totally no big deal. Usually she gets really restless once a night... very occasionally twice per night or not at all... and I will get her up and take her to the potty (master bath). Probably around 2-3 am. Her diaper then is wet about half the time, so I put on a new nighttime diaper after she potties. But either way, her diaper is never wet in the morning or after naps. I am considering letting her go naked on a fleece-covered pad of some sort at night, but not sure of the logistics of this with bed-sharing, and especially as it gets colder... Hmmm...
That was way more than you wanted to know!
In terms of "play"... The things we do that are directly interactive or at least semi-interactive are read books, tummy time/let her climb on me or try to pull up to stand on something (me spotting), her banging around containers and her ball or stuffed animals/teethers/etc., maybe a short visit with her BFF, Kitty, sometimes I will play peek-a-boo or wave the wrap or scarves around her or play tug-of-war, or we will dance a little (though we're usually also doing a chore then). DH does most of the same things with her, as well as walking around the backyard and talking and doing chores with her in the sling or FFO in the wrap. I guess there is a lot of her going along for the ride (not while I work, but when doing chores and errands), but we talk her ear off at LEAST half the time when she is on walks or doing chores... Besides, chores are fun for her! And going out and seeing us interact with people (she also says "Hey!/Hi!" to them now, LOL) is fun for her, too. I have not actually read The Continuum Concept, but I do believe that kids mostly just like to be a part of the world and what you are doing, YK? And don't "need" much directly interactive play or flashcards or "educational programming" or anything. In fact, they may be better off with less of that (as long as it's replaced with real life experiences and not TV or whatever).
Reminds me of a study that showed tribal Kenyan women (can't remember which tribe) videos of urban German women interacting with their babies and vice-versa. Apparently, the German women were like, "Why don't they ever look their kids in the eye?" and the Kenyan women wondered if the German women were ever allowed to pick their babies up. LOL! So I think... a balance is good. But even though I started out the opposite (it was a natural progression, really), I probably do more in-arms interaction and less face-to-face, "dedicated play."
Hope that helps-- thanks for the prompt!