I'm looking for advice to transition my 21 month old dd to napping/quiet time with less involvement from me. Currently, dd usually naps for an hour from around noon to one. I usually nurse her down. Sometimes this is a quick process (15 minutes) and sometimes this is a very long process ( i.e try at 11:30, no dice, try again at noon, no dice, try again at 12:30, no sleep, finally falls asleep around one or one thirty). As I said, she usually naps for an hour, but often still seems sleepy when she wakes from it, and then I will nurse her back to sleep for another 30 minutes but then I have to lay with her or she will wake up. We have a floor bed - don't use a crib, which I am regretting and wondering if I can get her used to a crib now. I am just so jealous of those mamas who get their babies down to sleep in cribs (or can set their babies in cribs awake) and have 2-3 hours to themselves in the afternoon. Compounding this is the fact that I am 22 weeks pregnant, and am concerned about dd's high need for naptime help once #2 comes.
At night she is rocked, then DH lays with her until she falls asleep, so I know she can fall asleep without nursing. She seems to need LOTS of decompression time to fall asleep - getting her to sleep at night is often a long process. Oftentimes, she doesn't even really show sleep signals or look that tired. Nursing really helps her relax, but as soon as nursing is over if she hasn't fallen asleep she will pop right up and be ready to go - she doesn't stay drowsy. Has always been that way. She doesn't really seem to even NEED a nap all the time, but I need it!! I am wondering if implementing some independent quiet time would be more successful, and if she falls asleep she falls asleep, and if not, oh well.
Ideally, I would love it if I could put her in a crib for some quiet time/nap time and let her be for that hour/hour and a half. I just don't know how to get there from here, and if any mamas have done it and HOW to do it. Advice?