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post #41 of 78
I went yesterday for my first appointment and was told I'm 7w1d instead of 6w4d. I got to see the heart beating and hear it. Its still hard to believe its growing and alive inside me!
post #42 of 78
Thread Starter 

Oh TInaPa, that is what we all want to hear!  Less time to be pregnant!  That would be awesome...

post #43 of 78

I plan to wait until week 13 to have my first apt as the risk of mc is high until after 12 weeks, so I want to get past that week before I have an appointment. Even if something is wrong they can't do anything that early anyway, think you have to be over 21 weeks, so part of me thinks wait until that point, but I'll probably feel guilty if I don't have the 12-13 week ultrasound to check on the baby, so i'll go in for that, otherwise I might have waited a few more weeks for my first apt.

post #44 of 78
I've had my first visit on the 26th. My situation requires way more medical intervention than I'd like but it is what it is. I'm very proactive this time around due to my health. We had our u/s and so far so good! Whew! However, during that u/s I thought of the moms who have left our little group here due to their losses and my heart and thoughts were with them.
post #45 of 78

My first appointment is Oct  18th and I'll be 8 weeks 3 days.  With my first pregnancy, they had me come in at 6 weeks for my first ultrasound and they told me I was about to miscarry which happened a couple of days later.  I made sure to refuse coming in that early this time.  I'm hoping I'll be able to hear the heartbeat by then, but I;m trying not to get my hopes up.

post #46 of 78

I had my first appointment yesterday and we are right on target for due date - May 12th.  We're 8 weeks and 4 days along and they told us it was too early to hear the heartbeat (I think usually 9 weeks +).  We had an U/S instead and saw the baby!!! :)  So exciting!

post #47 of 78
You can hear the heartbeat at 6 weeks l. I head the heartbeat at 7 weeks just last week so I think that is strange.. Maybe they just didn't have the equipment? I don't know but I heard the heart beat last week at 7w1d
post #48 of 78
You can hear it by ultrasound (Esp if done vaginally, and i guess as long as the ultrasound has speakers, otherwise you could see it) but can't hear it with a Doppler and certainly not yet with a fetoscope.
post #49 of 78

What is the very latest one would go in for a 1st appointment? I am hesitant with my history of miscarriages, to go in till the 12 week, if not later.

post #50 of 78

IMO, it doesn't make a big difference when you go for that first appointment, provided you've done some research on what you should or should not be doing and are not having any problems.  Mine is set for just before 12 weeks, but mostly just because it fit in my schedule best at that time.

post #51 of 78
Yeah I don't think there's a rush on the first appt if all seems to be well and you are educated about pregnancy. I usually wait until 10-13 weeks to go for my first appt. I had a good friend interview practically every midwife in town and not have her first appt until 21 weeks bc she hadn't found someone she clicked with!
post #52 of 78
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Originally Posted by BubblingBrooks View Post
 

What is the very latest one would go in for a 1st appointment? 

If you are worried about miscarrying, the 14th week is when that risk drops to super low levels.  :)

 

I would be willing to wait until 20 weeks, because I would want to make sure I had time to scheduale my 20 week labs and get an ultrasound before the 24th week. Those are important to me for medical history reasons, among which are my CS scar.  I will be about 12 weeks for my first appointment this time.  It just worked out well as an appointment time and having already had several babies I know the basic drill by now.  And I am journaling my weight and any general issues like the annoying periodic cramps.

 

However, that said, I did not meet with my actual midwives with baby#2 until the 28th week.  I had gone to others beforehand, so someone was technically keeping track of my bloodwork etc, but didn't find them until that late in the game.   And later the midwvies had to redo several tests because the hospital had not recorded the results separately but as part of my old baby #1 charts.  Including my ultrasounds (PLURAL) which they'd not actually recorded (or if they did it didn't get into the records copy that they sent).  GAh.  Moral of the story: be your own tracker and make notes.  It was helpful to the midwives that I knew my blood pressure counts and weight curve and had made notes about what the previous ultrasound results had been, etc.  When you go in is ultimately not as important as that you are involved in your own care.


Edited by fayebond - 10/6/13 at 5:31pm
post #53 of 78
IMO the only benefit with an earlier appointment (assuming you know about dos and donts generally, and aren't doing any of the early prenatal testing) is that you are already established if a problem arises- ie if you had bad pelvic pain and spotting, you could be checked for ectopic in the office perhaps instead of the ER.
post #54 of 78
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Originally Posted by TinaPa View Post

You can hear the heartbeat at 6 weeks l. I head the heartbeat at 7 weeks just last week so I think that is strange.. Maybe they just didn't have the equipment? I don't know but I heard the heart beat last week at 7w1d

 

 

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Originally Posted by Ratchet View Post

You can hear it by ultrasound (Esp if done vaginally, and i guess as long as the ultrasound has speakers, otherwise you could see it) but can't hear it with a Doppler and certainly not yet with a fetoscope.

 

I think they meant via Doppler.  They didn't want to worry us if we couldn't hear it.  Our vaginal ultrasound didn't have speakers so we didn't hear it, just saw it.  

post #55 of 78
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I would feel comfy waiting that long I think. We can track blood pressure at home just fine, and we have a scale :)

Seemed to me I saw a tracking sheet for this kind of stuff years ago. I should look for it.
Originally Posted by fayebond View Post
 

If you are worried about miscarrying, the 14th week is when that risk drops to super low levels.  :)

 

I would be willing to wait until 20 weeks, because I would want to make sure I had time to scheduale my 20 week labs and get an ultrasound before the 24th week. Those are important to me for medical history reasons, among which are my CS scar.  I will be about 12 weeks for my first appointment this time.  It just worked out well as an appointment time and having already had several babies I know the basic drill by now.  

 

However, that said, I did not meet with my actual midwives with baby#2 until the 28th week.  I had gone to others beforehand, so someone was technically keeping track of my bloodwork etc, but didn't find them until that late in the game.   And later the midwvies had to redo several tests because the hospital had not recorded the results separately but as part of my old baby #1 charts.  Including my ultrasounds (PLURAL) which they'd not actually recorded (or if they did it didn't get into the records copy that they sent).  GAh.  Moral of the story: be your own tracker and make notes.  It was helpful to the midwives that I knew my blood pressure counts and weight curve and had made notes about what the previous ultrasound results had been, etc.  When you go in is ultimately not as important as that you are involved in your own care.

post #56 of 78

My first appointment was supposed to be today but I was rescheduled for Monday. Thank goodness I have LOTS of free time since I'm furloughed!

post #57 of 78

My first appointment has been rescheduled for Oct 29th.  By my calculations, I will be 11wks4days.  I don't want the midwife to use the Doppler, and I will not be getting an early ultrasound.  Is there any way that she will be able to tell me if things "seem okay."  I believe it would be too early for fundal height measurements.  Is there anything else they do that would help indicate that a baby is indeed alive? I guess I'm just feeling nervous today because I haven't felt sick and I've eaten more today than in the last few days combined.

post #58 of 78
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Originally Posted by MrsGail View Post
 

My first appointment has been rescheduled for Oct 29th.  By my calculations, I will be 11wks4days.  I don't want the midwife to use the Doppler, and I will not be getting an early ultrasound.  Is there any way that she will be able to tell me if things "seem okay."  I believe it would be too early for fundal height measurements.  Is there anything else they do that would help indicate that a baby is indeed alive?

 

I am just going by whether I'm bleeding or not... if the baby dies then wouldn't a miscarriage happen within a couple of days? If I bleed then I will be worried and go in, if not then I assume it's all okay. A miscarriage before about 5 months is it? they can't do anything to stop it anyway...if it's going to happen then it will, I'm trying not to worry about it, not in my control anyway...

post #59 of 78

Winter, it is possible for a baby to die and never miscarry.  It happened to me in my second pregnancy.  It apparently just never developed a heart.  I happened to have an ultrasound just at the point when it was the right size that the heartbeat should JUST have become visible but it wasn't, and the embryo looked perfect otherwise, so there was about a 10% chance that it was okay but just not beating visibly yet.  I waited 12 days, during which I had not a drop of bleeding, my nausea continued, and my tummy continued to get bigger.  But when I had the next ultrasound, it was obvious at a glance that my body was valiantly continuing the pregnancy for a heartless dead embryo that was lying down in the corner of a huge gestational sac with a very very long umbilical cord. :irked  I was furious at the little brat for making me so sick for no reason--as well as sad.  I continued to feel very pregnant right up until my D&C the next day.  It was creepy.  My midwife said it is pretty common for a dead embryo to just hang around, failing to signal the mother's body to end the pregnancy, and if it isn't removed it causes blood poisoning and other bad stuff.

 

Sorry for the horror story!  Although I wanted to clarify that a miscarriage isn't necessarily obvious right away, I think it is fine--in fact, best, for your sanity and avoiding unnecessary testing--to assume you are all right if you aren't bleeding.

 

Mrs. Gail, your midwife or doctor will listen for baby's heartbeat--if you don't want Doppler, they may be able to hear it with fetoscope.  They will feel your uterus to check if it's about the right size.  If you want, they can test your blood HCG level.

post #60 of 78

I'm so sorry, EnviroBecca. Just to add my two cents, the same thing happened to me. I saw the fetus at 6 weeks on an early ultrasound, and then at ten weeks it was gone. Not just dead, but completely gone, leaving behind an empty gestational sac, which means it failed so early on and stuck around for so very long that my body was reabsorbing it. No miscarriage in sight. My midwife sat me down to discuss our options and "Wait for your body to miscarry on its own" wasn't on the list of choices, because it was obvious it wasn't going to happen on its own, and she didn't want to wait around for me to get blood poisoning or something.

 

Back on topic, my first appointment was today (10 weeks). The doctor drew a bunch of blood for a newfangled blood test (materniT21) that didn't exist yet for my last pregnancy, and we heard the heartbeat with the doppler. He told me I was measuring very large for ten weeks, so possibly twins, or possibly my dates are wrong and I'm further along than I thought. I'll find out at my first ultrasound next week.

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