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6 month old transition to crib

post #1 of 5
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I'm looking for support about transitioning my 6 month old into a crib in my room. I have a couple things that have been the hardest about co-sleeping and I'd be willing to continue cosleeping if i could figure them out.

 

She doesn't sleep unless nursed completely asleep. I seems like she needs an hour or more of suckling to be in a deep enough sleep for me to take my nipple out of her mouth. She won't nurse unless we are laying next to each other in bed. Everywhere else is way too interesting. I'm trying to move nursing out of our room so that we can create other sleep comfort patterns but it hasn't been working. I'm having an impossible time sleeping because when she wakes she cannot get back to sleep unless nursing so we are attached most of the night. My body aches from this and I'm so ready to not be in pain or totally annoyed at bedtime. Naps are exactly the same. So I spend almost my entire life in bed with my baby. I'm a single parent and she has never gone to sleep without me. She is also huge for her age so I'm considering night weening at 1 year or 9 months because I think she wouldn't be negatively impacted. I love the closeness of co-sleeping and I guess I want the good stuff but not the painful stuff. I think I'm also afraid that I'm not good enough if I don't sacrifice my physical comfort for my babe's comfort.

 

So I have questions:

 

1: what has worked for ppl to stop the suck to sleep urge? (other than the pantley method)

 

2: is it a bad idea to think about transitioning to a crib just until she was night weened?

 

3: what do other ppl do with babes who won't nurse without being in a calm space?

 

4: what are your bedtime routines like that don't end with nursing to sleep?

 

5: does anyone crib sleep for naps but cosleep at night? is this too inconsistent?

post #2 of 5
Hi! I can only answer some of these because I co-slept much longer and didn't night wean hte one who needed night weaning until much older. I don't know how 9 or 12 months would work for night-weaning. My feeling is that it might not go well, but OTOH when I finally did night wean at 2 years it was SO easy that I know I could have done it easily younger. But by "younger" I was thinking 18 months. You can always gently try and if she shows she isn't ready you can try again in a few months. 9 months is so young and it seems like there's a growth spurt right at 9 months if I'm right and I can't imagine trying to night wean during a growth spurt. You said or 12 months - I wonder if that would work better. Hopefully other parents will chime in and let me know if i'm right about that and how it might go at 12 months. That's peak time for separation anxiety so that's another issue to consider.

Anyway

1. My older daughter nursed to sleep until she was 2, but the younger one never liked to nurse to sleep. She didn't like to nurse to sleep BUT she liked a pacifier, so still sucking. The suckling instinct is very strong. Are you willing to consider a pacifier? I know it isn't perfect, but it might be more gentle and have a greater chance of success.

2. I think it would be fine to bring a night-weaned child back to bed if you wanted. Once they are night weaned, it shouldn't be hard to continue that. I don't' think but now I'm starting to second guess myself. Hopefully there will be more feedback there too.

3. My second was like this and I just took her to bed to nurse, even in the day. It was the easiest, but I'm not a single mom and I don't have to work, so I was able to work with it. I know it is more of a challenge. I'm hoping some single moms are among those who respond to your thread.

4. The one who didn't like to nurse to sleep got a snuggle and a lullaby. But we co-slept so I'd snuggle till she fell asleep, and of course she used a paci. I'm afriad I am not of much help there.

5. No idea but good question.

Like I said, I'm not much help, but at least this will get the thread bumped up and maybe you'll get some more replies. Good luck!
post #3 of 5
Thread Starter 

thanks for replying. i think i'm going to try to just make this crib transition a really slow one. get her used to it even being a place that exists for sleeping and then i will see what happens.

post #4 of 5
Hi, I am a single mom of a 7 mo old, BFing and cosleeping. Since age 5 mos he's become increasingly distractible while nursing, where I have to cover him with a light blanket (it's like he's in his own private room) but lately if others are around and talking even that isn't enough. He sometimes needs 10 min nursing before I can slip out, sometimes 30-45 min. Depends on the night. While we sleep he usually can go several hours the first half but frequently has hourly awakenings closer to morning. And I notice he will frequently have very restless nights with legs moving a lot and more frequent nursing. Between my research and my gut instinct, I think sometimes he nurses more frequently at night for several reasons: he was too distracted during the day so is tanking up while its quiet and he's bonded with me, he's teething and uncomfortable, he's about to have a growth spurt, or is working on a milestone of some sort. There is so much going on in their little brains and bodies right now, and I think a lot of it shows up during the night. I have had some improvement in in latching him more quickly with Pantleys method but not total success. I use pillows to keep myself comfortable at night - it wouldn't work otherwise! I have one for my head (he stays in line with my breasts below the pillow), one I pull up behind my back, and one between my knees. I'm pretty comfy this way, and mostly feel rested in the am. Regarding naps, he won't go to sleep anywhere but on me or in bed while nursing. He rarely hits a point where I could get him in the crib without waking up. For now I've decided to use my bed as a napping place by only using the mattress, putting rugs and pillows on the floor around the mattress, and no bedding at all during the day. That way I can sneak away at least for short periods, even though I'll be monitoring and hovering the whole time. I'm off work right now but will be returning soon. You'll have to see how your baby does with weaning at this age - she might really be getting a lot of comfort from it besides the nourishment. If you haven't read Dr. Sears sleeping book, I really liked that one. I do get burned out with all the nursing and time laying down (sometimes I just have the simple urge to stand up!! And walk around!! Lol) but I'm trying to remind myself he will eventually grow out of this high need phase. Sorry I went on so much, I don't think I said anything helpful but I really do feel for you!! Hugs to you - sarah
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Hi, I am a single mom of a 7 mo old, BFing and cosleeping. Since age 5 mos he's become increasingly distractible while nursing, where I have to cover him with a light blanket (it's like he's in his own private room) but lately if others are around and talking even that isn't enough. He sometimes needs 10 min nursing before I can slip out, sometimes 30-45 min. Depends on the night. While we sleep he usually can go several hours the first half but frequently has hourly awakenings closer to morning. And I notice he will frequently have very restless nights with legs moving a lot and more frequent nursing. Between my research and my gut instinct, I think sometimes he nurses more frequently at night for several reasons: he was too distracted during the day so is tanking up while its quiet and he's bonded with me, he's teething and uncomfortable, he's about to have a growth spurt, or is working on a milestone of some sort. There is so much going on in their little brains and bodies right now, and I think a lot of it shows up during the night. I have had some improvement in in latching him more quickly with Pantleys method but not total success. I use pillows to keep myself comfortable at night - it wouldn't work otherwise! I have one for my head (he stays in line with my breasts below the pillow), one I pull up behind my back, and one between my knees. I'm pretty comfy this way, and mostly feel rested in the am. Regarding naps, he won't go to sleep anywhere but on me or in bed while nursing. He rarely hits a point where I could get him in the crib without waking up. For now I've decided to use my bed as a napping place by only using the mattress, putting rugs and pillows on the floor around the mattress, and no bedding at all during the day. That way I can sneak away at least for short periods, even though I'll be monitoring and hovering the whole time. I'm off work right now but will be returning soon. You'll have to see how your baby does with weaning at this age - she might really be getting a lot of comfort from it besides the nourishment. If you haven't read Dr. Sears sleeping book, I really liked that one. I do get burned out with all the nursing and time laying down (sometimes I just have the simple urge to stand up!! And walk around!! Lol) but I'm trying to remind myself he will eventually grow out of this high need phase. Sorry I went on so much, I don't think I said anything helpful but I really do feel for you!! Hugs to you - sarah
Your baby sounds just like mine! He just started getting distracted while nursing. Currently we don't co sleep at night but after these last two weeks of getting up seven times a night I am trying to figure something out.
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