Does it really matter? The women breastfed but didn't let her own kids see her do it!
Can we beat a dead horse any more? Just because one says something over and over (and over and over) doesn't make it true for all.
I'm with @skycheattraffic when she said, "I'm just saddened that in the breastfeeding beyond infancy forum, the consensus seems to be that her child is too old to nurse on demand."
Yes, it does matter because you keep accusing her of something that you have no knowledge of, and you made up things about this woman that aren't true. Here are some examples...
"I don't think she was the least bit "respectful" to tell you not to nurse in your own home." That never happened.
"Yes, friendships are important, but when someone disrespects you in your OWN home and wants you to pretend to be someone you are not, how "strong" or important is the friendship from HER point of view?" The friend did not disrespect the OP in her own home, nor asked her to pretend to be someone she's not. She just asked the OP to give her a heads up so SHE, the friend, could take action, not the OP.
"Seriously? I'm "shocked" a women would hide her own breastfeeding from the rest of her children and tell an other woman how to breastfeed in her own home" The OP's friend did not tell the OP how to breastfeed in her own home.
"I'm just calling it the way I see it. My issue is that the OP's friend asked her to change her own behavior in her own house AND the OP's friend didn't let her own children see her breastfeed her babies." Again, never did the OP's friend ask her to change her behavior in her own house.
The OP said that the friend hid her own breasts under a cover, which is the OP's interpretation by using the word "hid". Maybe the friend is more comfortable covering up while nursing... in front of anybody, which is totally fine. She didn't ask the OP to cover up. I covered up and so did others on this thread. Again, I've said this before, isn't the goal to get women to breastfeed? If they are more comfortable covering up, SO WHAT. You being a lactation consultant should be more understanding of this. Do you only work with women who don't "hide" their breasts? In your opinion, are those who cover up ruining the normalizing and subsequent success rate of breastfeeding? Are the comfort levels of all breastfeeding mothers important, or just the ones who don't cover up?
Oh, and don't lump me into the debate about how old is too old to nurse on demand. I have not commented on that, nor do I plan to.