I turn around with my back to the scale at my midwife visits, and she records my weight without telling me. SO HELPFUL FOR MY PSYCHE.
Just a thought....
I think it's really a difficult thing to control when your body is working so hard on growing the baby, and genetic dispositions are what they are sometimes. With DD I gained 55 lbs (I'm tall though and was at a "normal" weight beforehand). I didn't do anything crazy, and was able to lose the weight in a year or so without doing any dieting and my only exercise being walks with the baby. My mom has also gained lots of weight in some of her pregnancies, so although I'd love to gain less with baby #2 (currently pregnant, started below my last pre-pregnancy weight) I'm just going to eat when I'm hungry, try to make it (mostly) healthy food, and not stress over it too much.
How do the other women in your family tend to gain during pregnancy, especially ones who are also petite? BTW when I got married I ended up choosing a dress with a lace-up back, it was great to have that flexibility and no stress over it fitting. It would also help in the bust area as depending on whether you're breastfeeding things may look a little different there.
I did the same thing! Didn't want to know. Especially when it got to the point where I weighed more than SO and considerably more than I've ever weighed in my life, haha.
25-35 lbs is average and for good reason. Here's a little breakdown of where the weight should go: fetus 7,5#, placenta 1.5#, amniotic fluid #2, uterus #2, breasts 1#, blood 3#, water 3.5#, fat 7.5#. You HAVE to gain the correct amount of weight in pregnancy to keep your baby healthy. You can see from the chart though that the majority weight gained in pregnancy is not fat.
Thanks for this. This is great for us all!
Just chiming in that I gained 10# right off the bat as well, then it slowed and now at 32 weeks it's similar to a 1/2# gain or none per week. I was very fit/active prior and my bmi (along with other measurements since bmi can be super wrong), put me right at fit. According to obgyn that's what everyone else said-about a 20-30# gain. I'll prob end at 25# or so. For me it comes right off with nursing.
I also wouldn't worry about the wedding. My breast size alone alters my appearance after birth. You never know how you will look those first few weeks.
I was all belly. Literally ALL belly (and boobs, my boobs were huge). No swelling whatsoever anywhere or anything. My ankles never realized I was pregnant. I still gained 35 lbs. You need to gain what you need to gain. My son was nearly 9 lbs, his placenta was mighty, and he had plenty amniotic fluid. 20 lbs came off in the first week, the other 15 (plus some, I ended skinnier than I started) came off with no effort at all in the first 6 months.
As a second note, being undernourished for as little as a week can show permanent marks on a child's growing bones. Anthropologists can tell you when a child was weaned by how far down the nutritional stress shows on the bones. That's *after* birth. Getting the right nutrition before birth is even more important.
I agree with this. In the long run it's best for you and the baby to give your best shot to taking care of your body and let the weight chips fall where they may. It's not worth stressing yourself out about whether you will or won't get the figure you want 3 months after the baby is born. You have so many more important things going on between now and then. If it is really going to bother you that much I think it would be better to push the wedding back to give yourself more time to get back in shape, or find a dress style that is forgiving of a few extra pounds. (There's a thread somewhere on here with pictures of pregnant brides in different stages of pregnancy. Might have some stylistic ideas.)
There are no guarantees after pregnancy though. You could end up exactly the weight you started at by 2 weeks postpartum but have a completely different body. Who you were before is not who you're going to be. If its that important that you look a certain way at your wedding, postpone it another 3-6 months because its going to take some time before you get your 'final figure'.
Burning fat during pregnancy is also a no-no because it releases ketones. Those urine tests they do at the doctors office? They test for ketones and many doctors will be quite concerned if it comes up positive. Its a little inconclusive (needs follow up) but spilling large amounts of ketones has been linked to low IQ and learning disabilities in some studies.
I'm hearing you on being afraid to gain too much weight, as I am only 4 weeks 1 day along and the past few days all I want to do is eat! I feel like I've gained 10 lbs already, okay I haven't, but if I continue much longer like this then I'm scared how big I might get. And being over weight is probably pretty bad for the baby and pregnancy like being under weight is bad.
I just want to gain an appropriate amount and for it to be a gradual thing, not all quickly like right now eating everything whenever I want. I'm sure it's made me feel sick today eating too much. My plan is cut down on sugary foods and carbohydrates I think, and try to choose protein like eggs when I'm hungry for a snack instead of bread or cookies etc. It didn't work today though, so I'll try again tomorrow!!
Good luck to you!
I completely agree!! I am in the third trimester with baby number 2 and the pregnancies were completely different.
With my first pregnancy, I gained about 10 pounds in the first trimester. I was hungry and I kept morning sickness at bay by eating simple carbs. Things slowed down after that but definitely picked up to 1/2-1 pound per week by the end of second trimester. Overall I believe I gained 40-45 pounds with that pregnancy. I lost the first 30 within a week of delivery, with exclusive breastfeeding, and the remaining 10-15 before I returned to work at 12 weeks (without any specific effort). That said, my body was completely different, especially during the three years I nursed. While the scale indicated the same weight, my clothing size and what I looked like were not the same. And not bad, either. Just different.
I am now 34 weeks with number 2 and have only gained 16 pounds so far. I am eating when I am hungry and expect to gain another 5-10 pounds before delivery. Your body knows how to do this. While it is easier said than done, try not to freak out and worry about the numbers. Try to go by how you feel. All this talk about food and weight has me hungry now!!
Off to make myself a snack
OP, two things stand out in your post: one, there is a lot of focus on numbers and how many pounds you're gaining, which is probably what alarmed a lot of people. Two, and this might be blunt, you have very high expectations for the first 3 months after birth. Now, I've known a couple of angel babies that slept and ate so well from the get-go so you might be lucky. But for most new mothers, they'll be up to your head in diapers, feeding and putting a tiny baby to sleep. I actually enjoyed the postpartum phase but it is such a huge transformation that in all likely hood, body shape will drop way down the priority list. Babies also shake relationships to the core once they arrive. The arrival of a baby really rocks the relationship boat, mostly because of too many new changes with some sleep deprivation thrown in. If at all possible, I'd delay the wedding until the baby is around 6-9 months, they're generally sweet and cooperative at that point, more likely to say with other people, still not too mobile and "generally" better sleepers.
If you're unsure about which workout regime to do, I'd second whoever said lots of low-level cardio (like slow long walks, taking the stairs) and strength training (try the Perfect-Pregnancy Workout, she uses a lot of body-weight exercises and she's 8 months pregnant while doing them!)
All that said, this pregnancy I've gained 30 pounds so far (which would have freaked me out the first time around) and I am not worried at all anymore. Like the others said, if you're following your body's rhythm with good habits, it'll know what to do. This time around, DP and I are discussing tactics to keep our relationship healthy once the new baby arrives. The weight I know will come off eventually.
Winter2013 - For someone who feels like they are eating all the time, this is about the only time I'd tell you to watch the scale - only because it may not be rising nearly as rapidly as you think. With #1 I could barely eat, felt like I kept nothing down, and still gained around 35 pounds (much of it in the first half of pregnancy). With #2 I feel like I eat enough most days to feed myself and a teenage boy, and the scale has barely been creeping up. I've gained well under 10 pounds in the first half of my pregnancy with noticeable "loss" in other areas of my body and a growing bump. If your hunger is what your body needs, it will be used ... and if it's not, it won't, even if you're eating less. I have managed this pregnancy by watching the scales and since they're not rising drastically, then I don't worry about "eating too much"! I expect a gain of around 20 pounds or so during this pregnancy with current trends, possibly less.
Also, bear in mind that as the baby grows, it will put a serious cramp on your stomach and it may be impossible (or at least seem that way) to eat enough. Just something to think about the early weight gain - it may be our body's way of preparing for later.