Our first baby I had in a hospital. My OB labeled me "high risk" when I now don't feel I was. However, because of that I couldn't transfer to a birthing center. I was stuck with a hospital birth. The birth was horrible. I labored at home until the contractions were 5 minutes apart. My OB knew I wanted to go drug free and I wanted to be free to move around. Instead I was pressured to get an epidural because I was "high risk". After 11 hours of labor I agreed. When it came time to push my epidural wore off. Thank God it did! I pushed for 3 hours to get her out. When her head came out she was face up. They thought the cord was around her neck even though her heart rate was great the entire time. They had no clue she was face up. Later my OB told me if he had known she was face up I would have had a c-section right away. I said "Then I'm glad you didn't know!" Really?? A c-section!! Why?? I pushed her out!! There was no need for a section!
Then earlier this year my husband and I got pregnant again. I knew right away I was pregnant. I also knew something wasn't right. Sure enough, I started bleeding. I wasn't panicked and wanted to miscarry at home. I was only 8 weeks and there's nothing doctors can do. However, my husband got scared and I called my (different) OB. He sent me to the ER. That's when all hell broke lose. I felt violated. I won't go into detail, but they ended up sending me home and I did pass the baby at home.
Now we want to get pregnant again. Since the miscarriage I have been tracking my body signals and everything looks great. I believe 100% the miscarriage wasn't hormonal and there's nothing telling me it woukd happen again. I told my husband this time I am only seeing a doctor if something is wrong. I don't want any testing or any ultrasounds, unless absolutly needed.
I'm glad I found this forum